Be careful of sites like SecretBenefits

[CoolAmadeus]

Long story short... I was on Seeking for a while, but they banned me because I was silly enough to talk money with someone directly on their site, in a message. They clearly read conversations, and deemed I was solliciting for prostitution... Duh!

Anyhow, I turned around and found this similar site (but more expensive in the long run): SecretBenefits.com. You pay up front for a given number of credits (hint: wait till they offer a special, they always do!), and every time you start a conversation with someone, look at private pictures or request for read notification, it costs you 10 credits. It goes fast let me tell you!

But I disgress... My whole point is about security...

I met a wonderful woman there a month ago. Since then we met multiple times a week, and we really enjoy spending blissful moments together. So we both disabled our profile on the site 2 weeks or so ago... But today, she's is panic! A guy, friend of a lady friend of her, saw her profile (deactivated 2 weeks ago, remember?) and told her friend, who called her... You are looking for men paying you, and blah blah blah... You wrote a message to my friend last night, what are you thinking? again blah blah blah...

Long story short... BEWARE! First, deactivating your profile DO NOT make it disappear as they claim (at least for women)... Second, they are clearly using bots to write messages on behalf of girls who have deactivated their profile, so guys, we are receiving fake messages (who we pay for to open), and it's them making even more money on our back... Third, I just noticed we can't remove our "Verification Video" from there...

I contacted them to get my lady friend's profile removed as well as my own verification video. Can't wait to see wath kind of support I will get...

CA

 

[Frankydoodle]

Long story short... I was on Seeking for a while, but they banned me because I was silly enough to talk money with someone directly on their site, in a message. They clearly read conversations, and deemed I was solliciting for prostitution... Duh!

Anyhow, I turned around and found this similar site (but more expensive in the long run): SecretBenefits.com. You pay up front for a given number of credits (hint: wait till they offer a special, they always do!), and every time you start a conversation with someone, look at private pictures or request for read notification, it costs you 10 credits. It goes fast let me tell you!

But I disgress... My whole point is about security...

I met a wonderful woman there a month ago. Since then we met multiple times a week, and we really enjoy spending blissful moments together. So we both disabled our profile on the site 2 weeks or so ago... But today, she's is panic! A guy, friend of a lady friend of her, saw her profile (deactivated 2 weeks ago, remember?) and told her friend, who called her... You are looking for men paying you, and blah blah blah... You wrote a message to my friend last night, what are you thinking? again blah blah blah...

Long story short... BEWARE! First, deactivating your profile DO NOT make it disappear as they claim (at least for women)... Second, they are clearly using bots to write messages on behalf of girls who have deactivated their profile, so guys, we are receiving fake messages (who we pay for to open), and it's them making even more money on our back... Third, I just noticed we can't remove our "Verification Video" from there...

I contacted them to get my lady friend's profile removed as well as my own verification video. Can't wait to see wath kind of support I will get...

CA

I bet they use “deactivated” profiles as their bot profiles to attract other men to spend credits.

 

[theyellowman]

Exactly! I know they generate automatically the message to the guys .. to invite the guys open the 1st message and taking credit. Some girls told me they never sent me the message ! They have enough messages to read ! Why they have to send them out ..!

 

[Rookie0022]

This site is the worst. I'm positive 99% of women profile are fake. I set up a simple profile out of curiosity. I put no picture or video of myselr, just a very plain profile. Everyday I get 2-4 emails that I received a message from someone...but I have to pay to read it! What a scam. I'm just too lazy to delete my account.

 

[cpp433]

I believe they steal pics and info about girls off facebook and other social media, ive personally seen profiles of 2 girls from around me that are certainly not into this type of thing, but the profiles use their name, photo, and town they are from, then a week or 2 later one popped up of one of the girls sisters! It’s completely fake.
A

 

[Bast1981]

I believe they steal pics and info about girls off facebook and other social media, ive personally seen profiles of 2 girls from around me that are certainly not into this type of thing, but the profiles use their name, photo, and town they are from, then a week or 2 later one popped up of one of the girls sisters! It’s completely fake.
A

Yes same thing happened to a girl i used to work with. They opened an account with her own pictures. I helped her get the account desactivated

 

[Bast1981]

Long story short... I was on Seeking for a while, but they banned me because I was silly enough to talk money with someone directly on their site, in a message. They clearly read conversations, and deemed I was solliciting for prostitution... Duh!

Anyhow, I turned around and found this similar site (but more expensive in the long run): SecretBenefits.com. You pay up front for a given number of credits (hint: wait till they offer a special, they always do!), and every time you start a conversation with someone, look at private pictures or request for read notification, it costs you 10 credits. It goes fast let me tell you!

But I disgress... My whole point is about security...

I met a wonderful woman there a month ago. Since then we met multiple times a week, and we really enjoy spending blissful moments together. So we both disabled our profile on the site 2 weeks or so ago... But today, she's is panic! A guy, friend of a lady friend of her, saw her profile (deactivated 2 weeks ago, remember?) and told her friend, who called her... You are looking for men paying you, and blah blah blah... You wrote a message to my friend last night, what are you thinking? again blah blah blah...

Long story short... BEWARE! First, deactivating your profile DO NOT make it disappear as they claim (at least for women)... Second, they are clearly using bots to write messages on behalf of girls who have deactivated their profile, so guys, we are receiving fake messages (who we pay for to open), and it's them making even more money on our back... Third, I just noticed we can't remove our "Verification Video" from there...

I contacted them to get my lady friend's profile removed as well as my own verification video. Can't wait to see wath kind of support I will get...Is

CA

Is Seeking any good to meet girls ? I was considering joigning. I want to date a 20's something.

 

[ramblinman69]

I agree with everything that was said above. The site nickels and dimes you to death. I cancelled my subscription telling them exactly that when the asked for a reason.
Got an E-mail from them several days later apologetic about my comments and offering to refund my credit purchase. Several days later, the refund was posted to my credit card account!

So for me, while I wasted a lot of time I did not waste any $$.

And yes Bast 1981, Seeking is much much better. Monthly fee giving unlimited access, real profiles and they do a good job of ferreting out the pro's. But beware, as CoolAmadeus mentioned, they do screen the conversations and have very picky policies about what can be said or not. Read the site FAQ's. I was also banned temporarily for what I considered very innocuous language. Fortunately you can contact them and get re-instated after promising not to do it again (....)

 

[Dasein]

Yeah, I agree Secret Benefits ties to nickel and dime you. They try to get you to open messages sent by bots (you pay each time). I never answer a message unless I contacted the girl first.

On the other hand... I have had some of the best sex of my life with some girls on that site. Ranging from gorgeous undergrads (and a MSc student, too) to a mid thirties kindergarten teacher, to a mid thirties MILF. Yes, it takes time to find someone, and you definitely have to weed through some undesirables... but when it pays off, it really pays off! I have spent some memorable half days at a hotel with girls that I met on that site. And I kind of like the blurred lines... not a GF or mistress that requires emotional investment and maintenance of the relationship... but also not the very circumscribed interaction with an SP. Don't get me wrong, I also love the latter. It's just different.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Just the way they advertise to me looked shady already...