Being turned down on dating sites: that's it!!

[metoo4]

Jiuju, what do you want us to tell you? You experimented, you've seen how some of these woman work, you warned us. All we can say is move-on!

You want to generalize? Up to you! Some do get what they want on these sites, some don't. A friend of mine met his wife on one of these site and, after 5+ years, is still happily married. She wasn't a bimbo either, she's the PDG of a renound company she and her siblings own (million+ $ business) and he is a simple computer tech.

 

[master_bates]

Alright juju you made your point

Online dating didnt work for you, forget about it and try a different approach

Best of luck

 

[La Femme]

euu thats not the whole point the whole point is all theses sites the woman are always on these and always used same excuse then you see them again after 2 years on thses sites!! if it once ok but its been like 12 woman thats fucks around and im sure from seing others that answer im not the only one thinks thats these site sucks the worse is there some good looking girls on these sites but all they want is attention!

Instead of blaming these women, did you ever think there could be a problem with YOU?

 

[jiuju]

of course

of corse you wil lsay that your a woman!!! and no cause let me tell you this its all radish shit these sites there only there to see how many guys will they have message from so to fill there ego!! thats it and please not another respond of this ant that i know im just saying its buillshit all these sites!

 

[Turbodick]

I think what jiuju says about the regulars just wanting attention, or to have their egos stroked is sadly true. That's about all that gets stroked with many.
But, I think you have to accept that there are good and bad and many state things that they honestly think applies, but later realize different. You're dealing with complex creatures. Grow a think skin, keep positive and you just might find her.

 

[DUMPTHEPUCK]

i think you should just stop the dating site's and start going out a lot more with friends and start meeting new people that are not participater's on these site's. the majority of these woman are escorts and just want to meet you for your money anyways so if that's the case open a news papper or read a review and make a choice.

my 2 cents

dtp

 

[Cliff Nobles]

.i realy think these are two sites that pay the people to be there and some are staff members to make you look like theres a lot...its just bullshit

pourtesfesse.com and joueraveclefantasme.com

Totally agree and co-sign.

I've been a member on joueraveclefantasme for a year and i'm telling you i'm convinced that some are paid to make the guys believe some bullshit. Because in order to communicate and chat and meet we have to pay of course.

That's frustrating.

I'm not a bar guy but i'm also not a millionnaire. I don't want to spend my money on dating websites or escorts all my life. What to do?

 

[myview]

My first post!
First must say I am French I have invented my own way of writing please be patient with me. My view, I have been a member of Ashley Madison for 3 or 4 years. I am a full fledge member buying credits on a regular basis just to chat or contact female members or non-members. I meet only one good woman via this site. In December I decided to “refresh” my handle and I created a new handle with similar description. Very strange I have received about 10 e-mails from Non-Members who wish to get in contact with me. I am puzzle why would some girl 20 years younger than me would try to establish contact with a Non-member, while the next guy (my old handle) who is a member with similar description get ignored? Bet you if I buy credit to get in touch with all the beautiful non-members who are knocking at my door they will all disappear. This is my view.

 

[La Femme]

Totally agree and co-sign.

I've been a member on joueraveclefantasme for a year and i'm telling you i'm convinced that some are paid to make the guys believe some bullshit. Because in order to communicate and chat and meet we have to pay of course.

That's frustrating.

I'm not a bar guy but i'm also not a millionnaire. I don't want to spend my money on dating websites or escorts all my life. What to do?

I have been on joueraveclefantasme et I have met guys through that website.

I have made friends (and had sex! ) with women who also use joueraveclefantasme to meet guys.

Of course, there are fake profiles but those are easy to spot.

 

[master_bates]

My first post!
First must say I am French I have invented my own way of writing please be patient with me. My view, I have been a member of Ashley Madison for 3 or 4 years. I am a full fledge member buying credits on a regular basis just to chat or contact female members or non-members. I meet only one good woman via this site. In December I decided to “refresh” my handle and I created a new handle with similar description. Very strange I have received about 10 e-mails from Non-Members who wish to get in contact with me. I am puzzle why would some girl 20 years younger than me would try to establish contact with a Non-member, while the next guy (my old handle) who is a member with similar description get ignored? Bet you if I buy credit to get in touch with all the beautiful non-members who are knocking at my door they will all disappear. This is my view.

You are so right my friend, but not many guys have realised that yet and

thats who they prey on most.

 

[Regular Guy]

A Variety of Types!

Well if you are into making a study out of it you might make a list of all the shams and scams. When the business of using the newspaper personals first started this whole business it worked well. Even when the internet entrepreneurs latched on to the idea it worked. But as they say, the internet is an unregulated medium. Didn't take long for all the nut cases, mischief makers, and marginalized types to get into the act. Did try it myself for a lark one time and after 3 or 4 adventures lucked into a nice girl. In light of what I know now I just have to believe it was sh_t-hot luck. In any event if you recall all of the complaints from a variety of sources over the years your list might look something like this:

Female ads:

• flirts or as they are known in the vernacular CT's. They will either disappear shortly after contact or be a no show at a rendezvous.
• older matronly types with about as much sex appeal as a fence post. Heard one disappointed young afficionado exclaim, “They all look like my mother!”
• mischief maker guys who advertise as women and are too stupid to realize that their lack of even a basic understanding of the female mind and how they word their ads is a dead giveaway to all but the severely developmentally challenged.
• Working girls who wait until you reply before springing that one on you.
• What one comedian I have heard refer to as psycho chicks. Yes folks there are some weird ones out there.

Male ads:

• Sick dudes who get off on thinking that sending pics exposing the family jewels is some kind of meaningful contact. And who knows, they might get lucky. In your dreams.
• Psycho guys with hang ups which make them poor risks as relationship material.

Maybe some of you can add to the list. Especially the ladies as I am not as familiar with what you may have to put up with. It's good money for the entrepreneurs and in reference to myview's comments, I wouldn't put it past site owners to be involved in stunts like that – if that's where he was headed with his comment. In any event these sites can be entertaining. Personally? Seems to be mostly an exercise in futility unless you get lucky after screening out a few.

 

[Cliff Nobles]

Well if you are into making a study out of it you might make a list of all the shams and scams. When the business of using the newspaper personals first started this whole business it worked well. Even when the internet entrepreneurs latched on to the idea it worked. But as they say, the internet is an unregulated medium. Didn't take long for all the nut cases, mischief makers, and marginalized types to get into the act. Did try it myself for a lark one time and after 3 or 4 adventures lucked into a nice girl. In light of what I know now I just have to believe it was sh_t-hot luck. In any event if you recall all of the complaints from a variety of sources over the years your list might look something like this:

Female ads:

• flirts or as they are known in the vernacular CT's. They will either disappear shortly after contact or be a no show at a rendezvous.
• older matronly types with about as much sex appeal as a fence post. Heard one disappointed young afficionado exclaim, “They all look like my mother!”
• mischief maker guys who advertise as women and are too stupid to realize that their lack of even a basic understanding of the female mind and how they word their ads is a dead giveaway to all but the severely developmentally challenged.
• Working girls who wait until you reply before springing that one on you.
• What one comedian I have heard refer to as psycho chicks. Yes folks there are some weird ones out there.

Male ads:

• Sick dudes who get off on thinking that sending pics exposing the family jewels is some kind of meaningful contact. And who knows, they might get lucky. In your dreams.
• Psycho guys with hang ups which make them poor risks as relationship material.

Maybe some of you can add to the list. Especially the ladies as I am not as familiar with what you may have to put up with. It's good money for the entrepreneurs and in reference to myview's comments, I wouldn't put it past site owners to be involved in stunts like that – if that's where he was headed with his comment. In any event these sites can be entertaining. Personally? Seems to be mostly an exercise in futility unless you get lucky after screening out a few.

There is a thin line between normal and sick.

Some of these sites are meant to discribe and realise your fantasies so it's normal you will see all kinds of shit. Some fantasies make some people look crazy and psycho, again the line is thin.

What is "real" insanity vs fantasies and "fantasmes".

Geez i know i have some fantasmes that i might sound weird if described publicly but if there's a site inviting me to do so........i might take a shot at it.

Also don't forget, some guys don't have a $5000 annual budget for escorts.

 

[Regular Guy]

Thin line

There is a thin line between normal and sick.

Some of these sites are meant to discribe and realise your fantasies so it's normal you will see all kinds of shit. Some fantasies make some people look crazy and psycho, again the line is thin.

What is "real" insanity vs fantasies and "fantasmes".

Geez i know i have some fantasmes that i might sound weird if described publicly but if there's a site inviting me to do so........i might take a shot at it.

Also don't forget, some guys don't have a $5000 annual budget for escorts.

I went back over my post to see where I used the word sick. Is this the point you are contending?

Sick dudes who get off on thinking that sending pics exposing the family jewels is some kind of meaningful contact. And who knows, they might get lucky. In your dreams.

Now it is true that it is a fairly common practice for some guys to include in the body of their introduction to a lady or ladies, pictures of themselves in various stages of undress. Many of these pictures stress the personal endowment of these, dare I say it, studs. How do I know? Just read the introductions to the profiles of many of these ladies. You will find many of them indicating that they would appreciate it if you kept it zipped up or don't bother. Fantasies are great if first, you know each other well, and second, both are into that kind of stuff.

 

[jiuju]

agreed

well my friends it good to know that yes thessites ar probably run by staff members.i went on pourtesfesses and its always the same girls on thessites everynight and day..these people dont work? if you have the balls to tell something like you find it bad these people like to just chat ect.. my god even the administrator kick me out lashing at me!! well i soon found out that these guys running these sites are at home but naked sitting in there basement and dont work! and the other site joueraveclefantasme that one too you send a hello..no respond then they get mad when you say stuff like are you here just to foo around?..well its funny cause these same woamn appear on all these other sites and only want attention thats it.

i dont think these two especialy sites are good mostly scams!

 

[La Femme]

well my friends it good to know that yes thessites ar probably run by staff members.i went on pourtesfesses and its always the same girls on thessites everynight and day..these people dont work? if you have the balls to tell something like you find it bad these people like to just chat ect.. my god even the administrator kick me out lashing at me!! well i soon found out that these guys running these sites are at home but naked sitting in there basement and dont work! and the other site joueraveclefantasme that one too you send a hello..no respond then they get mad when you say stuff like are you here just to foo around?..well its funny cause these same woamn appear on all these other sites and only want attention thats it.

i dont think these two especialy sites are good mostly scams!

With an attitude like yours, you're surprised to not being able to meet women??

When I am on joueraveclefantasme, you're exactly the type of guy I run away from!

I have made numerous encounters in my personal life through joueraveclefantasme and I know for a fact I am not the only one.

 

[jiuju]

wrong place lafemme

first why do you comme here lafemme and defend these sites cause like we see your on it and second this is an escort site!! why in the hell would you comme on thise site and talk about how many guys tou dated and defend these sites!! is it because people where tired of hearing you and got ban so you have to come here and tell us guys where shit and all!! lady your in the wrong ballpark! and YES YOUR THE EXAMPLE OF THE TYPES WE WHERE TALKING ABOUT!! JEES EVEN HERE WE GET BASH FROM THESE PEOPLE WHO SPEND THERE TIME THERE AND DEFENDS THES SITE CAUSE THERE PROBABLY PAID!!

 

[La Femme]

jiuju, I am giving my opinion, just like you are, What's wrong with that?

By the way, have you thought about seeking professional help? If not, I think you should definitely consider it.

 

[jiuju]

la femme

seriously lady i havent a clue why your here on an escorte site to come and bash when some agredd totally with this opinion and looks whos saying to seek help thats being impolite..my guess is you got ban from other sites like these now you come here to attack men that did you wrong!! go on other sites please..1000000$ bucks some will defend here just because shes a supposely girl!

 

[SteveJay]

I can’t afford to see escorts lately (not like I could much before too) and I have been trying other ways to meet chicks without all the commitment. Tried some of the adult sites. But not the French ones. I went to Ashley Madison and sexinyourcity. Had some luck with Sexinyourcity. Yah, some of them try to lure you in and then disappear. But I have met a couple of girls from sexinyourcity. The problem is even though it’s a hooking up site you still have to almost hold these chicks hands to get them into actually meeting you.
Yah, I’ve had a couple weird experiences. But I chalk it up to any other type of date that can go bad. I have met a couple of cool chicks and we managed to have some fun together. But it still takes some work. No matter what – nothing is as easy as just calling up a girl from Eleganza. Sigh. I miss those days.
Anyone else have any attempts with adult dating sites other than sexinyourcity and Ashley Madison - or are these the best? I just want something easy that doesn’t mean I’m going to be eating Ichiban for the rest of the month.

 

[master_bates]

I've had lots of success with POF and its free too.

That site is full of women looking for no strings attached relationships.