For my point of view the answer is no!All the women im friend with are hot and thats why i like her to be around me but if i could i will fuck all off them lol
Can a woman and a man be friends?
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"A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."
-Nietzsche.
I hope he's wrong. I want him to be!
Perhaps, I'm also naïve.
I hung out with women whom I loved, pretending it was friendship or just sex. The opposite happend as well. Even casual dating, friends with benefits; regurlarly ends up with one wanting more, one feeling trapped and often both being miserable.
That in itself is a form of violence done upon yourself for sticking around. A form of deception towards the other party not agreeing, respecting one's limits and boundaries.
When it blows up in your face, you're left looking like Daffy Duck, turning your beak back in position. Back to the duct tape and patching holes one tought he'd filled...
I made a great fast friend this winter. For a smart man, I'm dumb as fuck at reading woman's queues. We had the same sense of humour, finsihed each other's sentences and laughed, when everyone else was frowning. There was no sexual attirance on my part. I loved her brain. I told her many times. Out of the blue, she told me she had some thinking to do.
We haven't spoken since.
Nietzsche...You're dishhhpicable...
-Nietzsche.
I hope he's wrong. I want him to be!
Perhaps, I'm also naïve.
I hung out with women whom I loved, pretending it was friendship or just sex. The opposite happend as well. Even casual dating, friends with benefits; regurlarly ends up with one wanting more, one feeling trapped and often both being miserable.
That in itself is a form of violence done upon yourself for sticking around. A form of deception towards the other party not agreeing, respecting one's limits and boundaries.
When it blows up in your face, you're left looking like Daffy Duck, turning your beak back in position. Back to the duct tape and patching holes one tought he'd filled...
I made a great fast friend this winter. For a smart man, I'm dumb as fuck at reading woman's queues. We had the same sense of humour, finsihed each other's sentences and laughed, when everyone else was frowning. There was no sexual attirance on my part. I loved her brain. I told her many times. Out of the blue, she told me she had some thinking to do.
We haven't spoken since.
Nietzsche...You're dishhhpicable...
Bingo.
The fatal flaw in modern sociological thought is believing that humans are infinitely malleable, while we are constrained by the bounds of human nature.
This question always puzzles me.
Because, for one, of course men and women can be friends. SOME of them aren't able to, but there's no shortage of opposite sex friendships in general.
But also, and hear me out. Unpopular opinion but I personally think being friends isn't incompatible with having sex. I've fucked many of my friends. To me the key word in "friends with benefits" is friends. Lol the only thing is communication is important to establish boundaries and make it clear that this isn't turning into a relationship.
Because, for one, of course men and women can be friends. SOME of them aren't able to, but there's no shortage of opposite sex friendships in general.
But also, and hear me out. Unpopular opinion but I personally think being friends isn't incompatible with having sex. I've fucked many of my friends. To me the key word in "friends with benefits" is friends. Lol the only thing is communication is important to establish boundaries and make it clear that this isn't turning into a relationship.
I suspect that there may be some selection bias at work here too, as I tend to think that there is a greater percentage of those who are incapable of friendship across genders on this board than would normally be the case in the wider world, for a variety of reasons which would probably be impolitic to discuss here.
I ruined a friendship with my best friend.
We were best friends for 5 years and then I married her.
She became the love of my life for over 35 years until cancer took her.
I have had several female friends over the years and we never slept with each other. Some were from work others were friends of my wife and then became mine also.
So yes you can be friends with a woman.
When you are in your teens and early twenties it happens less as then you tend to seek out women for their looks first and potential sex partners rather than ones you want to start a friendship with, but even then I remember having girls as friends who I was never interested in sleeping with or them with me.
We were best friends for 5 years and then I married her.
She became the love of my life for over 35 years until cancer took her.
I have had several female friends over the years and we never slept with each other. Some were from work others were friends of my wife and then became mine also.
So yes you can be friends with a woman.
When you are in your teens and early twenties it happens less as then you tend to seek out women for their looks first and potential sex partners rather than ones you want to start a friendship with, but even then I remember having girls as friends who I was never interested in sleeping with or them with me.
I definitely should have had you as a friend when I was young
Is there a reason why one side or the other can't find the other attractive (and/or would have sex with them under the right circumstances) and them still be friends? Just because we have attraction doesn't mean we need (or get to) act on it. I have many female friends (or partners/friends of friends) I think are hot but I'm not trying to, or even hoping to necessarily, sleep or have a relationship with them.
The FWB notwithstanding, there's also friends you may have sexual tension with (that never gets acted upon), friends who are naturally flirty but in relationships, friends who are attracted to the same sex (that you might find attractive), etc. They're all still friends and sex or a trad relationship may never materialize but that isn't the core of your friendship anyway.
The FWB notwithstanding, there's also friends you may have sexual tension with (that never gets acted upon), friends who are naturally flirty but in relationships, friends who are attracted to the same sex (that you might find attractive), etc. They're all still friends and sex or a trad relationship may never materialize but that isn't the core of your friendship anyway.
I find this question absurd. I have plenty of male friends that I don't have sex with. I even had a male friend, and at a certain point we decided to have sex, then mutually agreed that we have no sexual chemistry, and then we continued to be friends without benefits. No big deal.
yeah I considered mentioning that too but I'm tired and want to watch a 90s cop show instead.
it's time for true crime lolyeah I considered mentioning that too but I'm tired and want to watch a 90s cop show instead.
Even if this is an eternal question I originally had a thought about a specific context. Maybe I should have omitted the poll that made the thread too generic.
I also have friends who are women and it's just friendship.
For some I used to have regular meal-catchup. I have an ex colleague with who we had a very chemistry and could instantly know what the other is going to say or think. In both case it could have be confusing how close we were especially for our level of tchitchatting or people would have thought I was homosexual.
But coming back to my OP what could have marked the end of the friendship might have been the rejection that created a feeling tending towards that behavior.
I also have friends who are women and it's just friendship.
For some I used to have regular meal-catchup. I have an ex colleague with who we had a very chemistry and could instantly know what the other is going to say or think. In both case it could have be confusing how close we were especially for our level of tchitchatting or people would have thought I was homosexual.
But coming back to my OP what could have marked the end of the friendship might have been the rejection that created a feeling tending towards that behavior.
The situation you're bringing up is specific.. and honestly, it has happened that I lost a friend who was another woman for the same reason. Sometimes the rejection hurts too much.. other times, someone is just not emotionally mature enough to get past a superficial crush.
It reminds me of a girl I was in love with in secondary.
Even though she rejected me, she had the courage to tell me personally instead of the awkward situation that you know it's not going to happen but nothing is said.
I was really moved about her honesty as in she acknowledged my feelings but couldn't be the person to accept it.
In secondary school we are still kids.. as adults things are way different. Or I would think so.
