I'm not sure I know how to take thatLilly Lombard said:
I think that is what some people call a backhanded compliment In any event I will take it as a compliment and I thank you for your kind words.Tracy, I wouldn't be too quick to dismiss D's points out of hand. In the normal scheme of things I suppose there are a few factors which make for a successful connection at a bar or party. That is not the case in the escort scene. For the most part escorts defer their right to choose in exchange for a substantial cash payment. Now, of course, having to deal with someone who looks like Shrek, for some escorts, may go above and beyond the call of duty. And that is understandable. But if you are suggesting that escorts keep their right to choose and enjoy the monetary benefits, well that may present a few problems. It's just a guess on my part but I don't think that does much to encourage a healthy client base. And judging by the posts made by several agency owners, once in awhile some young lady gets invited in for a serious chat about this very topic. The only reasons I can see for discouraging customers would be if they are needy and things could get complicated or, if they are complete jerks, reek like a barn, or are abusive. I am not sure if simply “grooving on your tune” should be a condition of acceptance. But of course the final choice is always yours and in the end I believe that is how it should be.Tracy said:
Regular Guy said:I'm not sure I know how to take that
Then I am honoured. Coming from you it is high praise. I am not a psychotherapist btw but I have been around the block a couple of times. I think more guys than you may think, on this board, really know the score. They are well educated and intelligent. Whether they feel there is any profit in bringing these ideas out is another matter.Lilly Lombard said:No no, it was a compliment. You would have felt the sarcasm otherwise, I make it obvious!
I am surprised that a man (unless he's a psychotherapist or something similar) understands so many "ifs" that many other men on this message board don't !
(btw, I am not sollicitating you)
(Darn! )................Just kidding!Regular Guy said:I think this may be a fine line for an SP to tread. Sp's may be able to subtly coach but must always be able to size up who they are coaching. If you are a slobbery kisser and not sure how to express sensuality, you may also be emotionally vulnerable and may take her coaching as a validation of you personally. And that is just pure trouble. Or if you have jerk tendencies you may take it as entitlement and get rough. Again, trouble. If you want coaching be damn sure not to telegraph any of this. But no guarantees.
Good to know that you don't slobber when you kissgolffan17 said:
Nothing wrong with your attitude. And in most cases I also am a believer that it should be a pleasant experience all round and if she is responsive then of course, pleasing her will add to your experience. Might be an idea to get an impression of who you are dealing with though. If the vibes tell you she is there to please you then collect (and this will probably comprise a large part of your experiences) then do it for yourself, period. That's my take. Some of the more experienced members may feel that even that is a fool's errand. Play it by ear.
