Do you ever just have BJ only sessions?
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Yeah of course
Obviously being an ass is not good, and the service requests should be reasonable and still mindful that you’re dealing with people
Yeah that's mostly my point.. as I said in another thread it's also a question of matching with the right service provider. Nobody is everyone's cup of tea.
Just guessing but I think a lot of guys are looking for tenderness, cuddling, caring, both givng and receiving, an exchange equally [hysical and emotional.
Yeah, it's not everyone but in my experience a lot of men actually want that. Will they talk about it on the internet? Most of the time no. Because it doesn't correspond to the vision of masculinity that people generally try to project here. But I think it's sad, because it contributes to a certain stereotype about the clients of escorts when people say ''most guys just want to get off and leave''. And it's almost as if for a client to admit that they want a moment of tenderness with escorts he is immediately painted as a delusional simp who thinks the escort is his girlfriend and starts throwing all his money at her.. yet in my experience, that isn't the case.
That happens though, that's a real thing
Which is why people call it out, because it becomes a slippery slope of guys self-owning themselves
This can happen no matter what. It can happen even if the guy just books a girl for 30 mins once in a while and doesn't even talk to her.
I've had clients who booked me just for an hour to cum and leave once in a while, and they started getting delusional and saying they're in love with me and asking for free things and discounts. In my experience when guys develop ''feelings'' they don't give more, they ask for more. They think you are their friend and they start messaging you all the time. They ask to hang out off the clock. They pay your old rates. They become delusional because they are projecting an ideal onto you, and they aren't truly trying to exchange with you. Some clients want to feel like they're ''special'' and ''not like other clients'', but that doesn't mean they are actually interested in who you are. It's an ego thing.
I know what you're describing exists, but that doesn't mean people should shame clients who are looking for connection when it comes to booking escorts, because that doesn't mean they don't understand the nature of the relationship and can't appreciate this for what it is. A lot of clients enjoy chatting and taking their time and bonding and they still aren't going to go insane. They are mature enough to understand what is going on.
Personally by saying I prefer to connect with my clients and I prefer longer sessions, I'm not trying to trick anyone into falling in love with me. I just don't like feeling like I'm a human fleshlight.
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There is no shaming
It's just logic, connecting with an escort serves little purpose because it's a transactional relationship
You go in with your expectactions and what you would like, be respectful, get what you want, and then leave
Anything deviating from that starts going down a slippery slope
I think the best way to explain it is for that moment, you're having a connection and a good time with another person/escort. If you delude yourself into thinking it's more than that, that's bad
Nice to mix in things with what makes a client interesting like hobbies, skills being different as it makes an sp really more comfortable and even to stay longer just be a gentlemanI also don't think this should be the point of a BJ only session unless the SP can really provide that. (which Julia can, because she is a super hero LOL and I do admit in a duo session it's way easier)
This has mostly been why I feel more wary of providing that service lately, because some people expect a blowjob the whole time or without hands or really unrealistic things like that. They don't read my restrictions and expect FF, etc. I initially offered that session because people were asking for it, combined with a massage, and I received a lot of gratitude.
I took the session away, then I brought it back later on because I had an operation that prevented me from having penetrative sex last winter and it kinda stuck even after I had healed. But I do find that although it's straightforward and my cheapest option, clients don't want to screen and I always get a TON of questions about it with answers that should be pretty obvious. It became more tedious at some point, I'd get people who hold themselves back from climaxing and who want a 40-45 min blowjob or longer. They would push boundaries and basically treat it like GFE without penetration or even PSE without penetration, etc. A lot of people just do not understand that I am not a PSE provider.
I did have some really good sessions.I had some clients who took the option to see if we would click before getting full GFE, and they were sweet. I had clients recently who fit that description that I really liked. I also had one or two clients on the kinkier side who I vibed with a lot more than I anticipated. I just don't like feeling like I'm a suck-machine.
So you think ideally men should book an escort, arrive at her incall without talking to her, fuck her and leave?
We are human beings, not objects to be used. Of course it's transactional, but a lot of other types of relationships are transactional and involve connecting, in different industries.
Your explanation otherwise is good. Yes, you're having a good time and a connection for a moment. I think that is pretty clear. And personally I don't manipulate clients into thinking this could become more than that. However we are humans so obviously camaraderie will happen if we see a client often and you get to chat and share stories and moments together. I genuinely care about a lot of my clients even if I maintain a boundary.
Personally I think that men need to question themselves if seeing escorts is good for them or not. And I don't think this necessarily has anything to do with ''potentially developing feelings''. It's not good for some men for completely different reasons. From my perspective.
