I'm wondering if anyone knows anything about escorts who have long term boyfriends or husbands. Do their partners know what they do for a living? Are they cool with it? I would actually love to find a girl who loved being an escort but could also have a steady relationship, but does this happen? How would you go about asking an escort on a real date if all their dates are of the paid kind?
Escorts with boyfriends/husbands
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Its hard.....
Hi tee just to let you know i am an sp and when i have a 3year relationship i had to lie alot.He never reaaly knew what i was doing,we didnt live together so it was not that hard to lie.Its very hard to have a serious relationship with what we are doing.I personally would never do that again as long as i am an sp because i dont wanna lie,y lie because many men wont except it.Some sps have pimps too and that is not a loving relationship,it is only based on money,but they feel that since there sps y not be with a pimp.
Hi tee just to let you know i am an sp and when i have a 3year relationship i had to lie alot.He never reaaly knew what i was doing,we didnt live together so it was not that hard to lie.Its very hard to have a serious relationship with what we are doing.I personally would never do that again as long as i am an sp because i dont wanna lie,y lie because many men wont except it.Some sps have pimps too and that is not a loving relationship,it is only based on money,but they feel that since there sps y not be with a pimp.
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CoolAmadeus
IMHO Zaphyr's situation is much different. She does it for a living (to an extent at least) and generates a revenue from this. We, some of us being engaged men, on top of doing it and cheating our wives, are paying and therefore causing an expense (on top of everything else). It's lot different situation and definitely not as "acceptable" as Zaphyr's or other SPs.
CA
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Other question
I have another question:
"If you find out that the espy you're seeing has a serious bf or husband, will this affect the sexual experience?"
I have another question:
"If you find out that the espy you're seeing has a serious bf or husband, will this affect the sexual experience?"
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CoolAmadeus
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CoolAmadeus
regnad said:
I very well know who you are talking about, and I must say you are quite right!
But I think she is the exception to the rule. Many ladies will "save" something for their partner, and it's totally understandable. Maybe I generalize a bit too much, but most of the time one or two aspects of the client-SP relationship stay on a more "professional" level when a BF exists than not.Again, I would love to hear some ladies' opinion here.
CA
PS: Sorry readers, but the lady Regnad and I are talking about is to remain unknown and is retired anyway (I think I will send her an email now... LOL). No need to ask by PM, I won't tell.
IMHO, saving something for someone = cheating.
It's like Vince Carter admitting that he did not try his hardest when he was playing for the Raptors. A true professional gives 100% at all times. If you are giving 80%, whether you are a lawyer, a pro athlete, a computer techno geek, or an SP, you are cheating your client and you are not a true professional but a half assed slacker.
Just my humble opinion and 2 cents worth.
It's like Vince Carter admitting that he did not try his hardest when he was playing for the Raptors. A true professional gives 100% at all times. If you are giving 80%, whether you are a lawyer, a pro athlete, a computer techno geek, or an SP, you are cheating your client and you are not a true professional but a half assed slacker.
Just my humble opinion and 2 cents worth.
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Yes...if one works as an escort, then choosing a boyfriend who is prone to fits of wild sexual jealousy would probably be a bad idea.juzt_a_girl said:
But that presumes that one is being picky in one's choice of boyfriend. Some women--especially the younger ones--aren't always. These are the gals who never permit themselves to be single for any significant length of time. If they can find themselves a boyfriend they're crazy about and who is suitable for a serious relationship, great; but if not, they'll keep around whatever placeholder-boyfriend they can find for the time being so they don't have to be alone.
I learned how this works as a frustrated observer, back when I was a bit younger, when I found myself too-frequently pining after young women who seemed: a) to never be "available", while b) always dating guys who seemed to me to be perfect jerks...and who they showed few signs of liking that much themselves. The low point came when a young lady, on whom I had the biggest crush of my life, broke up with her arrogant boyfriend (an event I had waited two years to see happen) over spring break...then managed to take up with my best friend before she even got back to campus. That was the 43rd occasion on which I swore off women (out of approximately 972 to date...I suppose I should just give up and swear off swearing off women
).Sorry. I'm done venting past frustrations now. Anyway, my point is that it only stands to reason that revealing one's work to the placeholder-boyfriend, and trying to get him to understand and accept it, might be low on the priority list. It also stands to reason that the sort of woman who is strong and independent-minded enough to be an independent is more likely to be the type who is strong and independent enough to spend significant lengths of time being truly single, holding out for a consort who is fully accepting of her line of work and with whom she can be completely open and honest.
SP's boyfriends
I have been with several different SPs over years who have answered their cell phones and have spoken, in my presence, to their boyfriends (and in one case her fiancé) who didn’t know what she did (as they explained to me) and then when they hung up, launched into sex with me with wild abandon. I never knew exactly what to feel in those situations. On one hand it was a sort of creepy turn-on to see I was getting great sex while the boyfriend was getting handed a line. On the other hand, being a first hand witness to such bald-faced deception is just plain creepy.
Touch
I have been with several different SPs over years who have answered their cell phones and have spoken, in my presence, to their boyfriends (and in one case her fiancé) who didn’t know what she did (as they explained to me) and then when they hung up, launched into sex with me with wild abandon. I never knew exactly what to feel in those situations. On one hand it was a sort of creepy turn-on to see I was getting great sex while the boyfriend was getting handed a line. On the other hand, being a first hand witness to such bald-faced deception is just plain creepy.
Touch
So Zaphyr, you don`t have sex with your husband for 2 days before you see a client....hopefully for him, you don`t see more than 3 clients a week.
One of my favourite ladies didn`t have sex with her live in b/f the day before she would see me.....and I felt guilty as hell ....lol
I believe Zaphyr`s situation is the exception. Most escorts will not tell their boyfriends about their "other life"...especially if they had started a new relationship after getting into the biz.
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One of my favourite ladies didn`t have sex with her live in b/f the day before she would see me.....and I felt guilty as hell ....lol
I believe Zaphyr`s situation is the exception. Most escorts will not tell their boyfriends about their "other life"...especially if they had started a new relationship after getting into the biz.
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Married or Boyfriend?
Zaphyr,
You have me a little confused with your following statements. Are you married or have a boyfriend? Personally to me that would make a big difference.
Lastly,
I've never been married but I'm pretty sure if I was married I wouldn't be using condoms with my wife, there's too many other choices of birth control out there.
Take care,
SK
Zaphyr,
You have me a little confused with your following statements. Are you married or have a boyfriend? Personally to me that would make a big difference.
Zaphyr said:
Zaphyr said:
Zaphyr said:
Lastly,
I've never been married but I'm pretty sure if I was married I wouldn't be using condoms with my wife, there's too many other choices of birth control out there.
Take care,
SK
who cares?
in my experience HDHs have more stable relationships
if u want to seriously go out with an Sp , u should be able to think like a pimp
u got to be EMPTY... u know what i mean? if not u gone be hurt...maybe
not in the beginning but also when the sp quits doing it. Believe me I know...
in my experience HDHs have more stable relationships
if u want to seriously go out with an Sp , u should be able to think like a pimp
u got to be EMPTY... u know what i mean? if not u gone be hurt...maybe
not in the beginning but also when the sp quits doing it. Believe me I know...
As many of you know I have a boyfriend. We were seeing each other before I entered the sex industry. We discussed it alot before I took the plunge. At first it was a little difficult for him, but when I set up a rendez-vous with Mariane for him as a x-mas present a few months later, things seemed to get easier.
When we first met, we were both single and dating other people (It seems we forgot to stop ) and condoms were of the norm. Now almost 3 years later, we still use condoms. I would feel horrible if I unknowningly was carrying some sort of infection and passed it on! (Even the day I get my test results, all they can tell me is if anything shows. So to reply to SK> If your wife was an SP, you would most definately want to use condoms with your wife.
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
When we first met, we were both single and dating other people (It seems we forgot to stop
) and condoms were of the norm. Now almost 3 years later, we still use condoms. I would feel horrible if I unknowningly was carrying some sort of infection and passed it on! (Even the day I get my test results, all they can tell me is if anything shows. So to reply to SK> If your wife was an SP, you would most definately want to use condoms with your wife.Ronnie,
Naughtylady
Zaphyr said:
Why would you refer to him in that way? Doesn't make sense to me at all, or maybe it's a Canadian thing, but I guarantee that women in the States wouldn't refer to their hubby's as boyfriends.
Too many inconsistencies for me that's all.
SK
Having seen, on several occasions, an SP who was going through a messy breakup with a vengeful and spiteful boyfriend, I worried about getting a bullet in my head if I was seen with her. I had a few long dates with her in which we held hands in public in Montreal, and I was almost constantly on guard, ready to do my Tie Domi imitation if need be. Fortunately I never saw the guy.
I think it is real wise that if an SP has a boyfriend/husband, she not discuss it. It's generally a mood spoiler, and I don't come to Montreal to worry about having to do my Tie Domi imitation. I don't need that. The SP, if she is smart, will let you think that she is 100% yours, even if she isn't.
I think it is real wise that if an SP has a boyfriend/husband, she not discuss it. It's generally a mood spoiler, and I don't come to Montreal to worry about having to do my Tie Domi imitation. I don't need that. The SP, if she is smart, will let you think that she is 100% yours, even if she isn't.
really guys get over it. The ladies are just that, ladies, and they can live their life however they wish.
We see them for a brief time (too brief!!) and then we leave!!
We see them for a brief time (too brief!!) and then we leave!!
Not a Canadian thing but a Quebec thing. Used to be a French thing but so much English in Montreal has been influenced by the French, and vice-versa.
Personally, I have a problem with SPs who are in relationships where their partner does not know. When one is open about what they do, there is no need to worry about anyone finding out. ...and you cannot blackmail a person if everyone they care about already knows. Anyhow I am real big on honesty!
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
Personally, I have a problem with SPs who are in relationships where their partner does not know. When one is open about what they do, there is no need to worry about anyone finding out. ...and you cannot blackmail a person if everyone they care about already knows. Anyhow I am real big on honesty!
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
I recently had an experience with an SP who talked quite openly about her boyfriend. Indeed, at one point, after the session, she spoke with him on the phone. I found that it actually enhanced the quality of the encounter and the way I felt about her. We had what I would certainly qualify as a “GFE-BFE” experience to the extent that we enjoyed the time we spent together. Indeed, the fact that she was open about it somehow made the experience more “real,” inasmuch as she revealed herself as an authentic individual, one who in a sense (albeit a small one) opened herself up to me. This, in turn, enabled two-way communication and laid the foundation for what turned out to be a great experience.
I put GFE-BFE between inverted commas because I find the expression somewhat problematic. I realize that this expression is used to denote either a) a certain kind of intimacy that goes beyond a mere sexual contact and/or b) a specific range of “services” generally proffered by a girlfriend (I leave this second meaning aside for the moment). However, I am also quite aware of the fact that the SP is not my girlfriend. But this by no means diminishes the quality of the intimacy that is established. Indeed, one need only think of those brief, passing sexual and often highly intimate and enjoyable encounters that occur between married individuals at out-of-town conferences. Whenever this has happened to me, I never for a second imagined the other was my girlfriend or that she would leave her boyfriend because of me. Nor did the other see me as her boyfriend. But we still managed to share something special for the time that it lasted. And this is exactly what I felt with the SP I am referring to here: we spent a brief amount of time together; we chatted about many things and managed to establish a contact and an intimacy that went beyond the sexual—and, for that reason, made the sexual dimension all the more interesting and satisfying.
One last consideration: for me a good SP is a professional at what she does. She provides a service that meets certain needs and wants, just like any other professional, be it a lawyer, a physician, an accountant, a therapist, or a hairdresser. I certainly don’t hold it against other professionals if they are married or have other clients, or even if they talk about them. What counts is that they be fully present when they are with me and that they provide me with the professional service they advertise.
I put GFE-BFE between inverted commas because I find the expression somewhat problematic. I realize that this expression is used to denote either a) a certain kind of intimacy that goes beyond a mere sexual contact and/or b) a specific range of “services” generally proffered by a girlfriend (I leave this second meaning aside for the moment). However, I am also quite aware of the fact that the SP is not my girlfriend. But this by no means diminishes the quality of the intimacy that is established. Indeed, one need only think of those brief, passing sexual and often highly intimate and enjoyable encounters that occur between married individuals at out-of-town conferences. Whenever this has happened to me, I never for a second imagined the other was my girlfriend or that she would leave her boyfriend because of me. Nor did the other see me as her boyfriend. But we still managed to share something special for the time that it lasted. And this is exactly what I felt with the SP I am referring to here: we spent a brief amount of time together; we chatted about many things and managed to establish a contact and an intimacy that went beyond the sexual—and, for that reason, made the sexual dimension all the more interesting and satisfying.
One last consideration: for me a good SP is a professional at what she does. She provides a service that meets certain needs and wants, just like any other professional, be it a lawyer, a physician, an accountant, a therapist, or a hairdresser. I certainly don’t hold it against other professionals if they are married or have other clients, or even if they talk about them. What counts is that they be fully present when they are with me and that they provide me with the professional service they advertise.
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