Faithfulness and the SP

[curly]

I had a question, reading another thread.

Why is it that we expect our wifes/firlfriends to be faithfull and not fuck other men, while we don't really care that our favorite SP has sex with so many others?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Why would you not let your gf/wife fuck other men if you are fucking other women?

 

[Carmine Falcone]

Why would you not let your gf/wife fuck other men if you are fucking other women?

Because some men are like that.

There's a guy I know who has had a side woman for 10 years. He met her when she was about 25; he was 34 then. He's shown me her pic & she looks very nice. But for all that, she sounds a bit unstable. She recently told the guy she was ovulating and has mentioned dual marriage in the past (lol as if that would work). They had a huge fight because her getting pregnant would obviously be a total shitshow for his life. It looked like they were finally done.

Last week when I saw him again and asked about the situation, it looked like they were back together. So dude is playing with a live grenade but just doesn't see it despite everything I've told him about making sure she doesn't get pregnant.

But relevant to the thread topic, I asked him a long time ago if he'd okay if his wife slept with someone else, he said "Hell no!" Just because you're intellectually consistent about sleeping with someone besides your spouse doesn't mean every guy is.

 

[What's My Name]

The SP is faithful, to her clients when she sees them, for the time you spend with her.
It's a little weird this question, it is like asking why is the sky blue.

 

[transatlantic]

Renting vs buying. With SP you are renting.

 

[Fradi]

This is a loaded question and kind of ridiculous on an escort review board, for sure you are going to find almost all men here are in the category that think it is ok to fuck around on your wife or girlfriend.
I don’t and I didn’t while my wife was alive and I certainly wouldn’t be ok with my wife or girlfriend doing it either.

As far as I am concerned the answer is simple an SP is not your wife or girlfriend she is not in love with you and you are not with her and it is her job to fuck other people.

 

[Numerati]

With an SP you don't have to chase because you don't have to work for it and "earn" it. You already earned it by making and having the money and resources to make it happen. There is no need for time to build up/build anything plus you know deep down this is all a fantasy and it is a quick fix/temporary. There is no NEED to chase. You have the money and time? It is 99% going to happen and you know how the story begins and ends. There is NO challenge. You are guaranteed a hot girl and hot sex. It is about the short term and you know this is not going to last and can end after that first session.

A girlfriend? You have to earn it and there is no guarantee that things are going to work out. It takes time. If it worked out in the end where you both do the horizontal monkey dance there is VALUE to it all. Plus you are there to hopefully build something long term and to last.

 

[testingsite]

I had a question, reading another thread.

Why is it that we expect our wifes/firlfriends to be faithfull and not fuck other men, while we don't really care that our favorite SP has sex with so many others?

You probably never fell for any SP and so you do not know this, but if someday you fell for any SP, you will realize it is not so different than in love with your wife/girlfriend.

It will definitely piss you off if you read in merb some guy wrote what a great encounter he had with your SP.

The bottom line is - as long as you feel that connection with your wife/girlfriend/SP, it will piss you off if they fuck someone else. But, when you do not feel that connection/lose that connection you will no longer care who they fuck.

 

[GreyPilgrim]

But, when you do not feel that connection/lose that connection you will no longer care who they fuck.

Not how it works for me.

I just see sex and love as two different things. And while love for your sexual partner definitely enhances the experience, it is absolutely not a prerequisite to enjoyment.

So you see, I enjoy hobbying precisely because no strings are attached. It’s just a transaction. To me, an affair would be much more morally questionable because of the feelings involved.

I completely realize that what I do would still be considered as « cheating » by most people, not least of which my wife! But while I feel the need for promiscuity, I still very much love her and enjoy that connection with her. And I certainly have no intention of ever leaving her and my kids!

So between occasionally seeing SPs and straight up having an affair, I feel like hobbying is the lesser evil. Provided I take excruciating care to keep it secret, it allows me to satisfy my sexual needs without getting dragged in a messy affair that might compromise my family life.

Is what I do wrong? I mean… to most people, sure. I guess. Would I be pissed if my wife did the same? Honestly… I don’t think so. I’m serious! If fooling around every once in a while to scratch a physical itch helped her tolerate my indiosyncracies and allowed me to remain her man forever… I could definitely look past it and die a happy man. Really.

That’s just my two cents.

 

[curly]

I am wondering if we have ownership issues. When we have a girlfriend, she is "our" girlfriend. We don't share. But when we see an SP, we know very well she belongs to herself only. But when we start to develop a relationship with her, then we start being more possessive.

 

[TooSexy4MyCat]

Not how it works for me.

I just see sex and love as two different things. And while love for your sexual partner definitely enhances the experience, it is absolutely not a prerequisite to enjoyment.

So you see, I enjoy hobbying precisely because no strings are attached. It’s just a transaction. To me, an affair would be much more morally questionable because of the feelings involved.

I completely realize that what I do would still be considered as « cheating » by most people, not least of which my wife! But while I feel the need for promiscuity, I still very much love her and enjoy that connection with her. And I certainly have no intention of ever leaving her and my kids!

So between occasionally seeing SPs and straight up having an affair, I feel like hobbying is the lesser evil. Provided I take excruciating care to keep it secret, it allows me to satisfy my sexual needs without getting dragged in a messy affair that might compromise my family life.

Is what I do wrong? I mean… to most people, sure. I guess. Would I be pissed if my wife did the same? Honestly… I don’t think so. I’m serious! If fooling around every once in a while to scratch a physical itch helped her tolerate my indiosyncracies and allowed me to remain her man forever… I could definitely look past it and die a happy man. Really.

That’s just my two cents.

Completely agree. SP is sex only. No feelings as opposed to an affair where you would certainly develop somekind of "links" and some sort of relationship. I am not going to the zoo or having dinner with her parents. My girlfriend has the libido of a 85yo noun and despite me trying to work it out I saw very low interest or good will in her trying to address this. Having myself a libido higher than average and her being quite lower, that was the best option I saw. I would rather not see SP but it is what it is. I would be pissed off if she sees other men because I have been putting efforts trying to make things work on that part of our relationship while she didn't much.

 

[arrowdec]

When I've had, and when have, a gf I don't see SPs. An SP isn't your gf/wife, even if someone develops too deep a connection or feelings. Jupiter9 hit the nail on the head; if you're sleeping around why not her?