Getting Caught by Your Better Half

[aznguy]

OK, so this has been weighing heavy on my mind since I started - about 2 months ago.

I've been happily married to my wife for close to 30 years. Love her dearly, sexually fulfilling. There's nothing that she wouldn't do for me short of getting a third in our bed.

About 2 months ago, while browsing around Craigslist, I came upon the Casual Encounters and also Services/Escorts sections. Since then, I can't get past a day without going on there and checking out the action.

I have had 2 "meetings" so far, one with an SP and the other a MP. Both encounters were average, nothing better than what my wife can do! But it's the rush and the variety!

Other than contracting an STD, my biggest fear is getting caught by the wife! I work out of the house, so I can't just leave to make a call, since she is also a stay-at-home wife. Mostly, I'm worried about massage oils scents and perfumes.

I know it would crush her if she ever found out. Any tips!

How do you guys deal with this?

 

[panthere]

hi

when i have a girlfriend i stop!!!when i am free i go around!!simple for me...but 30 years of mariage i dont know how you do it..but congrualation is in a order..but don't do it i have to say..cause i am prettyyyyyyy sure that if you find out that she was doing the same thing you would be mad as hell and etc...so you better stop it..for my point of view...

 

[aznguy]

when i have a girlfriend i stop!!!when i am free i go around!!simple for me...but 30 years of mariage i dont know how you do it..but congrualation is in a order..but don't do it i have to say..cause i am prettyyyyyyy sure that if you find out that she was doing the same thing you would be mad as hell and etc...so you better stop it..for my point of view...

Yeah panthere, there is always a feeling of remorse right after I'm out the door, and both times I swore that I would stop, but the next day, I am on CL and MERB again!

Considering just seeing a certified MP with the wife's blessing (for the massage portion only) and seeing if I can get a rub'n tug maybe once a month.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I got involved in this stuff because my 20 year marriage, since defunct, wasn't fulfilling in any sense of the word. Had it been, I'd never have considered either pay for play or an affair.

You have to consider whether or not its worth the risk you're taking. If you want my advice, and you wouldn't be posing this here if you didn't, walk away now. I knew I'd never get caught because I live 100 miles away and work for myself. I could get to Montreal, play, get home before I was even missed. And she'd never have suspected in a zillion years.

Again, consider the risk. And remember a word to the wise: fuck with the bull and you get the horns.

 

[Doc Holliday]

Do yourself a favour and quit right now. You will get caught and she will be pissed.

........and she'll ask for a divorce, get half of your assets & half of your bank account. If she's REALLY pissed off at you as i suspect she will, she'll want to make your life a miserable hell & enjoying seeing you suffer. I know some guys who committed suicide while going through a divorce with a crazy ex-wife.

If you suspect your wife has a chance of finding out about your extra-curricular activities, get out now while you can. Rosie Palms has always been a better option than a scorned ex-wife & costly divorce.

 

[aznguy]

OK guys. I have read all the comments so far and they all seem to point me in the same direction. I'll take that as a sign to quit the hobby. And it's not because of the fear of losing money, property or even my wife but the fact that it would probably devestate her and that would probably be worse than anything that could be taken away from me. She truly is a wonderful person!

I sincerely appreciate all your advice and thank you all.

Signed

"Not wanting to lose a good thing!"

 

[DUMPTHEPUCK]

OK guys. I have read all the comments so far and they all seem to point me in the same direction. I'll take that as a sign to quit the hobby. And it's not because of the fear of losing money, property or even my wife but the fact that it would probably devestate her and that would probably be worse than anything that could be taken away from me. She truly is a wonderful person!

I sincerely appreciate all your advice and thank you all.

Signed

"Not wanting to lose a good thing!"

you just made a wise choice my friend but im in the same shoe's like you. the only difference is that my relationship has been going on for 5 years. im thinking of stopung as well but i need to see 2 more girls before i think im gonna call it quits. and as for me, it's the rush that still has me doing this....

 

[Regular Guy]

My two cents!

OK guys. I have read all the comments so far and they all seem to point me in the same direction. I'll take that as a sign to quit the hobby. And it's not because of the fear of losing money, property or even my wife but the fact that it would probably devestate her and that would probably be worse than anything that could be taken away from me. She truly is a wonderful person!

I sincerely appreciate all your advice and thank you all.

Signed

"Not wanting to lose a good thing!"

Got into this a bit late but just have to put my two cents in. It, of course, would be better if she was the transgressor. But for you? Well women don't take this stuff well at all. Top that off with a red head to boot and you wont believe what will happen next. As they used to say when the pirates hove to, "Prepare to repel boarders!" Not too funny when it happens though. (At the risk of triviality, please don't associate this with yours truly!) And not only will she be in pain but you will also for your betrayal.

On a more serious note, you will read all this, go back to domestic life, this episode will fade - all except the memories of your encounters. Soon envy for the hobbiest will return. Just speculating here but for many, having tasted the forbidden fruit, the desire will be there. That may be the time to consider the following:

• You and your wife have a good thing, a good relationship. If companionship suits you why would you opt for loneliness. And unless you are comfortable with your own company and can make do with friends, that's what faces you.
• There is nothing better than knowing there is someone who actually gives a damn whether you arrive home safe or not
• Don't sell married life short. There are a lot of blessings to be counted besides readily available sex. Don't know whether you got kids. But they can be the trip of a lifetime.
• And finally: As you approach decrepitude and the body begins to fail, don't expect the last SP you saw to come over and wipe the soup off your chin.

If on the other hand the relationship is dead(or maybe the wheels just never left the ground), or the wife is the betrayer (or both) or you are the type of guy who can enjoy his own company for the most part, then sure, why not. There is no rule stating that marriage is for everyone or has to be. Many people are enjoying the single life quite nicely , thank you! And there are some great SP's to share with. But remember. You have to get out of bed sometime and go home. (Not bad if you have a dog though!)

 

[DUMPTHEPUCK]

May I hazard this? If you would want to see "just 2 more girls" before quitting, I think your chances are low of succeeding. There will always be new and very hot girls out there in the SP world who will make you want to continue seeing "just another one" before you stop. Sex is a drug...

i know, im sure i wont see the light after the two. sometime's a white lie make's you feel better about yourself. im pretty sure that there will be more that will attract my eye and i know that i wont stop but as they say shit happens...

hello my name is DTP... and im addicted to sex..... please don't help..lol


dtp

 

[hormone]

I totally sympathize with you DTP! At least I hope you enjoy your trips in hobbyland!

 

[hormone]

Your better half...

Would become your worst ever half if you get caught. Especially if everything is hunky-dory, happy in all departments! I think you got the message... Go away, keep out and don't even come around to read the forum!

As you approach decrepitude and the body begins to fail, don't expect the last SP you saw to come over and wipe the soup off your chin.

this is so true... and a weird but profound metaphor of what love is and makes us do...

im in the same shoe's like you. the only difference is that my relationship has been going on for 5 years. im thinking of stopung as well but i need to see 2 more girls before i think im gonna call it quits.

May I hazard this? If you would want to see "just 2 more girls" before quitting, I think your chances are low of succeeding. There will always be new and very hot girls out there in the SP world who will make you want to continue seeing "just another one" before you stop. Sex is a drug...