I am in a newish relationship and we are exploring non-monogamy. A few weeks ago it was my first time seeing an escort and that *anyone* knew what I was doing. It was really really special for me that that person who knew was my life partner. Next step might be seeing an SP as a couple (it would be my GF's first FMF experience). And we are going to Club L for the first time later this week! I have never been to any such event or club and we are both quite excited (and a little nervous!).
Perhaps a little off topic but here is an update: we went to Club L's Millennium night. The guided tour for first timers made us feel safe -- it is all about consent and respect! It was a bit more of a nightclub atmosphere than I had expected with lots of people on the dancefloor. My GF and I flirted and kissed with another couple on the floor, but they headed up to the second floor (where the sex happens) before we were ready to. When we did go up, it was very exciting to watch other couples enjoying themselves in the private rooms (all have windows). We checked out the conference room (group sex room) and before you know it my GF went down on me while there were other couples watching and/or having sex around us. It did not take long before we were fucking on the table. The couple from the dance floor then came close to us and there was some touching and kissing between couples but the sex acts remained within the couple. My GF loved having two other people touching her while I was having sex with her. I found it very hot too! Although it is a little unnerving to see one's partner kiss someone else in front of you for the first time hahaha. But a total turn-on and I loved how we explored this together. Maybe next time we might take things a little further in terms of interactions with others. But for now it was a ton of fun to stay within what we felt was comfortable: having sex in front of other people and watching people get it on. My GF also noticed a couple of guys watching us while jerking off (they kept a safe distance -- I did not even notice hahaha) and that really excited her. I loved it when a girl was giving head to her guy while looking me in the eyes as I took my GF doggy style. A hot young couple (early twenties?), fully clothed, watched us intently as my GF finished me off (after about 30-40 mins of sex) with a voracious BBBJTC.
I was expecting that there would be more exchanges between couples around us, but it seemed like most were content to have sex with their partner. I suspect that might be a function of the fact that there were many first timers there last night.