I don't think that seeing an SP off the clock after having sex with her is a good idea. Sex change everything, plus you've met her in her "work status", it changes the dynamic I think.
Have you ever ask a SP out for a date?
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Funny because I think I would give the same advice to a friend but I was curious because in the end, we're two human beings so anything is possible.
Do you think it changes everything if you had sex with her or not? I personally think it does
True I guess
Realistically, with all the crazy people out there to which you have no idea how they can react to a "no", I guess it's best way to go.
But still, it's sad that it's not a possibility that a gentleman bring up the subject. Anyhow, really appreciate the input of everyone here.
Realistically, with all the crazy people out there to which you have no idea how they can react to a "no", I guess it's best way to go.
But still, it's sad that it's not a possibility that a gentleman bring up the subject. Anyhow, really appreciate the input of everyone here.
A fine example of this is 2legit from the blue board, after escorts told him no he stalked them and wrote false bad reviews against them, years later he still does.
Best is not to ask at all and keep things on a business level, who needs the extra stress and no use putting the SP on the spot. If she asks fine....
I've never made the first move since i felt it was unprofessional & just plain wrong. The last thing i'm looking for when i book an sp is a relationship. And the fact many are turned off by a lot of the guys they see and most are doing it strictly for money, i always felt i'd look ridiculous (and desperate?) if i made the first move and asked an sp i had just met out on a date. However, i have been on many dates over the years with women i met as sps and it was always them who brought up the subject in regards to the possibility about getting together "off the clock" for a friendly dinner date (or drinks, etc) afterwards or the next time i'd be in town. Sometimes i said yes, other times i said maybe.
The last time it happened was last summer when an sp i met through an agency told me she had a nice time and asked me if i'd be hungry later. When i asked why she had asked me this question, she told me that she only had 1 more call to go and would be hungry afterwards. She had enjoyed our time together and suggested we meet up after her evening was over. I gave her a call at 9pm but another call was added to her schedule by the agency. We ended up meeting at around 11pm and went to a nice restaurant. The date was very friendly, romance was the last thing from our minds. There's nothing wrong with romance, but for me it has to happen at the right time and over my life it was always spontaneous & unexpected. She told me i could call her if i ever wanted to go out again. I still haven't done so. Maybe one day. Who knows....
The last time it happened was last summer when an sp i met through an agency told me she had a nice time and asked me if i'd be hungry later. When i asked why she had asked me this question, she told me that she only had 1 more call to go and would be hungry afterwards. She had enjoyed our time together and suggested we meet up after her evening was over. I gave her a call at 9pm but another call was added to her schedule by the agency. We ended up meeting at around 11pm and went to a nice restaurant. The date was very friendly, romance was the last thing from our minds. There's nothing wrong with romance, but for me it has to happen at the right time and over my life it was always spontaneous & unexpected. She told me i could call her if i ever wanted to go out again. I still haven't done so. Maybe one day. Who knows....
After 2 or 3 hours with a beautiful young lady and 2 or 3 empty bottles of wine on the floor:whoo:, there's always some chit chat during this time and the wine takes over, so of course going out to dinner or even breakfast may come up, sometimes its the wine talking, other times its because we enjoy each others company and there's nothing wrong with sharing a meal, no strings attached, just a meal and some small talk, i am not fantasizing, just enjoying the company of a friend outside the parameters of the client to SP relationship. Whats the difference who brings it up, as long as its mutual, if i ask, she can simply say no or ok great and if she brings it up, i have the right to refuse also, no harm done, we move on.
No one forces anyone to do what they don't want to do, its the same as for the service, if she is not into CIM, we don't do it, plain and simple, i wont complain. I never ask for this anyway, if it happens, it happens but No means no.....
Thor Jr
No one forces anyone to do what they don't want to do, its the same as for the service, if she is not into CIM, we don't do it, plain and simple, i wont complain. I never ask for this anyway, if it happens, it happens but No means no.....
Thor Jr
I was an SP's regular, and we got really along, but to my mind, it was all fake. Little did I know, that she was prioritizing my bookings. Then probably on our 6th encounter, I told her that I had tickets to go see NaS in concert and she was super jealous but my friends bailed on me. This whole time I knew she liked NaS but didn't believe it until she named me all his albums. I only enjoy rap concerts with my friends, so I said "fuck it, here have the tickets", because I really didn't want to go anymore. She said to me "lets go together". I chuckled and said "don't worry you can have both tickets, take a friend, please, you'll have more fun". She reluctantly said "well I have a friend that I could think of who I would like to go with, so ok!". Once I handed her the tickets, she replied without hesitation "hey friend! someone offered me free tickets! wanna go with me?!". Call me a chump if you want, but I melted. She insisted on buying dinner since I bought the tickets, went to the concert, walked around downtown. We ended up at her place again. Had my first sexy time with an SP off the books.
It wasn't complicated after that, we both assumed we were together then she took a break from escorting. Couple months later, she had to move to the US to follow her career dreams and the US was the best opportunity since she managed to save up her money for specifically this. I had been emotionally scarred from my past relationships, I was quite compromised... so I didn't let myself get in too deep. Thanks to her, I gained confidence to ask more girls out in general.
I asked 5 SPs out on a date
2 said yes
2 said no
1 said no to date, but yes to hanging out because she had a crush on me, but she believed it was a bad idea to date a client.
of the 2 SPs I have dated.
first one did not work out, no hard feelings, however I kinda stopped booking her because at that point I knew the whole encounter would be fake.
second one lead to a 1 year and half relationship until we broke things off.
It wasn't complicated after that, we both assumed we were together then she took a break from escorting. Couple months later, she had to move to the US to follow her career dreams and the US was the best opportunity since she managed to save up her money for specifically this. I had been emotionally scarred from my past relationships, I was quite compromised... so I didn't let myself get in too deep. Thanks to her, I gained confidence to ask more girls out in general.
I asked 5 SPs out on a date
2 said yes
2 said no
1 said no to date, but yes to hanging out because she had a crush on me, but she believed it was a bad idea to date a client.
of the 2 SPs I have dated.
first one did not work out, no hard feelings, however I kinda stopped booking her because at that point I knew the whole encounter would be fake.
second one lead to a 1 year and half relationship until we broke things off.
Agreed and I would have probably let her have my child... but I was too scared to dive into the relationship. Maybe if I did, she wouldnt have moved?
Well I'm gonna start all my rendez-vous with "Do you like NaS?"
Thanks chowzilla for sharing your story. It reinforced what I have always been deeply convinced about: SP's are women, and they get attached to some of the men they meet the same way we get attached to some of them. We're all human after all. Granted sometimes it's not easy as we always tend to think it's fake at least to some extent (and I'm guilty of that myself as well), but once that "ice" is broken, it's great!
SF
That's great that you had this moment with her chowzilla (frankly, to me it's faith in humanity restored). I would've melted too just for her to be such a NaS fan. Obviously, she trusted you a lot to have you walking in public with her (I'm saying that from experience).
In the end, it's your business, but why not keep in touch with the NaS fan girl, just dropping a holiday cheer greeting every now and then (or her bday)? That's what social media is for.
Dude, civilian or pro, I'm having trouble getting into the artists now - Future, Fetty, Rich Homie, - that this new gen of girls are getting turnt up too, and feel I may not relate to the new gen, civilian or pro, in terms of music.
we still facebook each other from time to time. I noticed we don't really talk about our relationship status but everything else we do. I respect that because i guess deep down, i think i would prefer not knowing?
I'm a sucker what can i say. If she told me she was thinking of moving back to mtl. I think I would be more worried than happy because I wouldn't know what to expect. It's been years... highly doubt she stayed single.
Props to her for helping me breakout of my shell... otherwise I'd probably be single for a long long long long long time, if not forever lol.
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