Here's A Crazy Thought

[PMikey]

Every time I read some of the more "rude" appraisals of the ladies in this business, I often mused to myself how these guys would fare if the girls got to rate THEM.

And then I got to thinking: No escort would ever do that in a public forum because all it would potentially do is drive away business.

BUT: What if there was a section of this board that only paid advertisers could see. This would enable them to basically create a red flag on any of the more troublesome clients for other agencies/independents. I know that some agencies are (correctly) protective of some of their younger/inexperienced girls. A thread like this would be very handy for weeding out those potential clients who have established a bad reputation with other agencies/independents.

I'm sure agencies keep their own "blacklists" us customers they don't want to deal with again. What if they had access to other agencies' blacklists?

And what about the new independents who haven't had time to establish their own blacklist and don't have an agency acting as a go-between between them and the clients. Wouldn't it be great if, before they accepted a booking with a new guy, they could check to see if any other escorts had *issues* with them ("He shorted on the money"; "He likes to play ROUGH"; etc.)

I'm not saying that this is either wanted or needed here on MERB but I was just curious in any of my fellow MERBites, MODs and Escorts/Agencies think of such an idea.

Would the knowledge that they are being "graded" improve the behavior of some of the borderline blacklistees?

Would it create an adversarial relationship between the client and the service provider?

Would competing agencies want to collaborate and share information?

It raises a lot of questions and opportunities.

Thoughts, anyone?

PS: I realize that by making this post, I may have targeted myself as the most-hated man amongst my fellow MERBites.

 

[Siocnarf]

Only partly useful, because they don't know most handles who the people are. But I suppose in the future some escorts or agencies could evolve to initiate contact by merb PM only.

I don't think they would take time writing elaborate reviews and posting grades the way we do. Usually, so long as the client is clean, well behaved and pays the fee they are not as picky as us. Unless they are independant, they don't spend hours on the computer choosing their next client

 

[Yzabel Wolf]

we have a place for bad costumer...
stella
and we have also a private forum in C.E.R.B for indy's
dont know if i could tell it here
sorry if not....

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

It could end up like CAF in Calgary, many of the indys require either a reference or your handle so they can check out how you review a SP if it is a first visit. Feel sorry for the hobbiest there ( they call themselves POONERS ) ultra high rates and not much GFE.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

There is also a perception problem, my worse meeting was when I agreed to meet a guy who was below my limit but it was referred by a friend who told me he was a very very nice guy, turn out he was anything but, it is the first time I felt not safe in all my meetings. After I called her and told her about that and she said she was very surprised because he was ''son client le plus doux'', ''her most gentle customer''...each girls has a different threshold , it is only if the comments come from a lady that I know is similar to me that I can trust the evaluation (thanks again Maria loll)...

 

[Maria Divina]

(thanks again Maria loll)...

Hein? You are certainly not talking about me my dear Lily?



Mickey;

I am sorry to inform you that Merb always refused to put in place that kind of private place for the ladies from years.

I suggest it personally few years ago, and what I got answered was by mod6:" No, we don't want that on Merb because any girl could say BS on any man she is angry about..." So, that was the excuse I have been told.

But, as anybody could know, any man is entitle to say any things on a girl/lady, even if he is angry about her.

Merb has been made for the purpose/to serve the men in priority.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I am really thanking you Maria, I got twice a similar reference,but very different outcome, loll it is another girl who sent me a bad guy loll, a reference from you and I say yes for sure ...

 

[Maria Divina]

...
a reference from you and I say yes for sure ...

Happy to know things turned well then... xx

 

[Lily from Montreal]

And also most of the time I do not know my friends Merb handle and that is not something I would ask , if they want to share it is useful...I like to know mind you...because there is some on Merb that I am not sure I want to meet, is it rude to ask for it? The email address is how I know my friends and that is very easy to change...

 

[Maria Divina]

For the present moment, to help the girls/ladies to accept more great demanders and keep the "scrap encounters" away:

I can suggest 2 things:

If you are in an hurry:

-Ask for reference of another girl/provider
-Ask for the handle and check the history of posts
-Ask for a deposit $

That could be just one or all of the above.

Generally, the fake demanders or "scrap demanders" are not agreeing with those actions.
Serious demanders will always understand why you are doing those, and will agree.

If you can take a bit your time:

-Exchange with your demander to know him better before to meet him.
-Exchange over the phone a bit before an encounter.

I am adding, always ask for a phone number for you to call. Then, if it happen to happen something with a bad guy, you will have that at least under your hands.

You are not in the obligation to do everything. But, make something before meeting someone.
That's your security. Don't meet with everyone who is asking, just the good/best ones.

:nod:

 

[Lily from Montreal]

And I found that unless it is someone I know already ( in the biblical sense) same day meeting are more tricky...people who ask for a meeting with very short notice, like ''can you be there in 20 minutes''', yes I got such a demand, my answer was ;''I am not a pizza!'' lol.
I find the ones with no patience are often the one that are not serious and abusive in theirs demands... Not all of course but my statistics show a trend that way...

 

[PMikey]

If you can take a bit your time:

-Exchange with your demander to know him better before to meet him.
-Exchange over the phone a bit before an encounter.

Speaking as someone who has gone through this process with Maria, the exchange before-hand is good for the prospective client as well.

You can tell a lot about a person by what and how they interact with you in writing but even more importantly, their personality and demeanor on the phone can give you a good heads-up of what to expect in your encounter (on a personality level). Although due to circumstances beyond our control, Maria and I didn't get to talk much on the phone I was instantly smitten with her upbeat, plain and upfront personality on the phone.

When you already go into the session with a good gut feeling about a person, it makes the encounter that much more appealing.

Plus, if you get a bad feeling about the person, you can back out at the last minute.

 

[Maria Divina]

I begin incall lately, and I can tell you Lily, that's another kind of game for the "last minute call".
All the process is very more quick, but possible, but believe me, you have to be ready to exchange at a quick pace.... :nod:

But, for the outcall, you are 100% on the same page than me.
Last minutes demanders are just acting on impulse, and I prefer most mature & gentleman manners because then, the encounters are very more wanted and prepared, and enjoyable, at the end.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I really think incall and outcall are not the same clientele, as daytime clientele is not like the evening's one...

 

[Maria Divina]

But having a personnal driver avoid a lot of problems....Obviously, in BDSM I see many special demands and feel much better to know a man (friend or boyfriend) is close if i need him..

I had few BDSM encounters as well, and all my process is more important then, to agree on what will be lived or not... or on what I can push the limits...

I am letting always my computer opened or a note on my table where I go, with who... etc.
When you make a good verification process, you exempt lots of problems and the utility to have a "bouncer" near is less necessary.

You could learn also how to defend yourself by yourself. That will be more efficient and quick if ever someone is attacking you.

 

[Maria Divina]

I really think incall and outcall are not the same clientele

No, they are not, but there are sweet gems of gentlemen who are "incall" demanders.

:nod:

 

[Max15411]

...people who ask for a meeting with very short notice, like ''can you be there in 20 minutes''', yes I got such a demand, my answer was ;''I am not a pizza!'' lol...

Perfection cannot be rushed.

 

[hungry101]

I don't think they would take time writing elaborate reviews and posting grades the way we do.

Hmmm. I saw 18 girls this year. That is 1.5 reviews I have to write a month. An SP sees 1-5 guys a night. Maybe they could just review the bad customers?

The problem is that reviews are alwyas one way. In addition to escorts, I have read reviews about hotels, restaurants, movies, vacation destinations, sporting goods and household appliances. In all these reviews, there is one thing in common: The guy that paid the money for the SP, hotel room, meal, movie etc gets to write the review. I have never read a review by a cook about the patrons of his restaurant...their table manners and how much they tip etc.

I think this forum does a good job of policing it's members. I have read several posts about how to prepare for a date. I have seen a few memebers called out for mistreatment of girls. Robertpal comes to mind. There were also a few that John of Eleganza cut off.

Hopefully we are all generous, clean, kind, gentle, and willing to live up to our part of the contract. I myself always have a bottle of wine and two glasses. I sometimes bring lingerie that the girls can keep and I will pay for room service and I have tipped on a few occasions. But most of all, If a girl provides good service, I enjoy writing a positive review.

 

[evillethings]

if someone wants to pay for my services, they get to comment.
whether i care about the good or bad comments is a whole other story.

yeah, we're dealing with ppl.
but it aint charity.
then again, even charities get the business 'bout this and that so no one is really immune to being criticized or rated.


now, whether a revu system of clients would be handy... of course and who's to say there isn't one in place back-channeled like half the info in any biz. that reminds me, i better prepare for my yr end review with my usual agencies... i'm hoping to make it to "recruiter" status from "cash-cow" status