How to ask nicely...

[fast_cum]

So I'm in a pickle and was curious if anyone had insights on how to deal with a particular situation with an SP/ex-SP.

Long story short:

1 year 1/2 ago I meet twice with this SP. We connected well and somehow I ended up with her # and email.

She has stopped working since and I didn't call or email to put her in a strange situation.

A few weeks back I was thinking about her and sent her a friendly invitation to dinner at my place with a somewhat obvious sexual proposition.

To my surprise, she answered positively. Now, I'm not really sure how to approach the $ question. I'm fairly certain she obviously wants the $, but am afraid if I ask I might spoil what would be an otherwise pleasant date?

How would you deal?

Thanks

 

[smartboy]

Start by asking her something outside bed.. treat her well.. nice dinner.. etc.. we will probaly get something in return.. if you spend money for first night,, she will only be in that mood with you..

 

[Turbodick]

Have the cash within sight but not overtly obvious.

 

[Merlot]

So I'm in a pickle and was curious if anyone had insights on how to deal with a particular situation with an SP/ex-SP.

Long story short:

1 year 1/2 ago I meet twice with this SP. We connected well and somehow I ended up with her # and email.

She has stopped working since and I didn't call or email to put her in a strange situation.

A few weeks back I was thinking about her and sent her a friendly invitation to dinner at my place with a somewhat obvious sexual proposition.

To my surprise, she answered positively. Now, I'm not really sure how to approach the $ question. I'm fairly certain she obviously wants the $, but am afraid if I ask I might spoil what would be an otherwise pleasant date?

How would you deal?

Thanks

Hello FC,

I had a situation once, not quite the same, but with a few similarities regarding business where she had raised rates substantially. My method was to be as positive ass possible. I wrote something like: I will be happy to see you any time, for business, for lunch or dinner, on or off the clock, but I understand our entire relationship has been business. It's great to see you under any conditions you prefer. Please let me know what your preference is and I will be there at the most convenient time. Be general about it while trying to ask what she expects specifically. She will tell you what she expects.

Good luck,

Merlot

 

[Mr. Banana]

Dinner is dinner, SP services is SP services. If she refuses $$ you get a freeby, if not what have you lost?

 

[evillethings]

if youre ok with just dinner then don't bother asking about the $$ because if she's visiting for the $$, I'm sure the $$ issue will pop up.
if you're definitely only booking for the sex, then just be up front and ask to avoid miscommunication in person.

 

[stumpy272]

Dude you met her twice as a client and she liked you enough to give you her email and phone number. She did so not because she saw you as a potential lover but more of a long term client. She may have stopped working for others but I bet she has a list of a few men she sees time to time for a paid good time. You happen to be one of those.
These girls job is or has been to make you feel special don't confuse this for anything more than that. If it is they will let you know.
Long of the short. Have her over, have dinner, have all the other fun. If she wants to be paid she will tell you up front how much. If she brings it up after then the rate hasn't changed. If you don't want to offend her have the money ready but don't show it to her until she asks. If she doesn't ask then you are playing a whole different game.

 

[Ducon]

Dude you met her twice as a client and she liked you enough to give you her email and phone number. She did so not because she saw you as a potential lover but more of a long term client.

This.
Just because she likes you, doesn't mean she doesn't want money.
I like my job and I damn well expect a payment!

You might as well ask her, she'll understand that you might be uncertain about it.
I don't think it will offend her, considering you only saw her as a customer before.
And if she answers something ambiguous such as "comme tu veux", it means "yes, I want some money".

 

[TheDon]

A few weeks back I was thinking about her and sent her a friendly invitation to dinner at my place with a somewhat obvious sexual proposition.

To my surprise, she answered positively. Now, I'm not really sure how to approach the $ question. I'm fairly certain she obviously wants the $, but am afraid if I ask I might spoil what would be an otherwise pleasant date?

How would you deal?

Thanks

Now would she be on the clock during dinner or after?

I don't see how she cannot expect any payment when your relationship with her has always been about money.

 

[hungry101]

Now would she be on the clock during dinner or after?

I don't see how she cannot expect any payment when your relationship with her has always been about money.

This is a good question. I would assume time for dinner is off the clock. Can you also assume that agency fees would not be included so your envelope should be 40$-60$ light. Put it in an envelope include cab fair and put it in plain view.

 

[daydreamer41]

I say don't even mention money. Pretend that this is a real date.

She has to mention it. You don't want to insult her.

If she mentions it, have some money in your wallet or in your apartment put aside.

She may like you well enough to date you. And then again she may be looking for some part-time "work". Be prepared for either situation.

 

[Dewar]

Be up front, just ask her before you see her whether it's a date;-) or a date. SP's like to know expectations when they work and I wouldn't expect that to be any different when they are on free time either.

 

[snoodle]

if shes not expecting payment shell come straight out and tell you

 

[franky]

I have seen several sp's off the clock. often they just want some to go out with. Dinner, movies and bar hopping. I have not paid any of them for services. I just went out with them, they then initiated the sex part and I was prepared not to have sex with them. I did not want to start giving money, since it would change the dynamics. I would just take her out, have a dinner and let her decide if she want to come home with you
franky