I want to propose marriage to a Escort! Please help me with advice!

[Zayden]

I have been seeing this escort (I will not mention who!) for about a little over a year now. I remember my very first encounter with her was a pure blast! I couldn't wait to go back and so I booked her the following week. Amazing sex! Amazing chemistry! This girl had it all, amazing looks, body is so well proportion from hips to ass and a gorgeous goddess face! So I booked her every week I could. I realized that this was unhealthy and decided to see her monthly. This probably made it worse because I was only craving her more! I realized that over time, I was falling in love with her and seeing other escorts in between just wasn’t the same! It wasn't the sex that was bringing me back, it was her personality and positive nature! Over the year, she got to know me pretty well. She knows my work, family life and I also know a lot about her. I would bring her expensive gifts but never taken her out and I know she loves my company and even rejects my gifts and offers saying that my visit to go see her is enough!

A little about myself. I am 28 years old. My parents own several businesses and have passed down the inheritance and business down to me (the only child). While I was born in Canada, they are immigrants and would like to leave the country and go back to thier land for retirement! I have a day job and run my parents business after. I am very busy! I wake up 6am, hit the gym, then go to my day job, then run to my parents business and manage it. My day job pays me a pretty good average salary but I mainly do it because of passion and putting my degree to use! Otherwise, I would have been completely fine working the family business which would pay me six figures! I had 2 girlfriends in past but it didn't work out after university, so I focused on other goals and never pursued looking for woman and dating ect.. I was introduced to the wonderful world of escorts at age 26 and found it to be very accommodating! I gave up dating and would focus on my life and fuck any girl I want without any hassles! It was the perfect life! Until I met the escort I want to marry in question!

I realized that I couldn't get over her and one night coming home and smoking weed I realized marriage could solve my problem... Well you guys tell me if I am crazy to think this or not?? I mean, if I marry her, I get to have that amazing sex all the time! I could share my life with her. After my parents leave the country, it would be just me and her. I could put her as manager role in my business, while I worked during the day or if I quit my day job, me and her could run it together. It would save me from hiring employees, cut expenses! We could live together and I would obviously get her to drop escorting! In my mind, it seems perfect.... But nothing is. There is a few road block.

#1. Will she agree to my proposal? What if she says no? What would I do then? I know her well, and even though this was never discussed with her, she has plans to move on from escorting! She has plans for education and other goals too.

#2. She seems to love her job and work but what if she doesn't want to run my business and wants to still escort? What do I say to that? I have to respect her decisions.

#3. She never shows her face and she has family, would they accept me? I think they will for sure BUT Would my family accept her?? I mean nobody has to know what she does after she moves in with me.

#4. How do I get over my insecurity? I don't care what she does because it's a job but I cringe thinking guys like jalimon and his nerdy friend ssj3 might have seen her and have been with her?! LOL In time I will get over this...


Well what do you guys think? Am I crazy? Is this wrongful thinking of me? What should I do? Thank you for your help. Also it would help if anyone here as gone down this path I am thinking of and if it worked out?

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Been seeing an escort for over a year, probably a few more before that. Decide to become a merb member to ask for advice....Interesting.
I say ask to marry her, move her into your place and she can work out of there, think of the savings! Make sure to ask if get freebies once you are married. I do not think she should wear white though.

 

[Julia Sky]

YES I DO!!!! MARRY ME OMG


(This thread HAS to be a troll lol....)

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Over the year, she got to know me pretty well.

lolll This is not really hard to know you pretty well....Just by your description and the details you give about yourself in this Romantic financial booty call relationship you are having, I know you pretty much as well as I know my regulars...

Lets be real here; courtesan= "courtiiser", we are paid to seduce you...but lets face it; the majority of us are signle for a reason; we are used of being independant, putting our things our way and usually, we develop a very strong personality while we are dealing with men who are seeing us to fill a need, to realize a fantasy, to feel wanted or just to get laid....As a girlfriend, we are far from being as easy as seem to be when we are escorting...

LOLLL I will take Steve Martin quote and put it my way:"I am sure if the gentlemen I see in my secret life would argue only once with me or see me pissed, they would not be paying me to lay down; they would be paying me to leave..." :lol:

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

(This thread HAS to be a troll lol....)

Reason for my comment.

 

[Zayden]

Been seeing an escort for over a year, probably a few more before that. Decide to become a merb member to ask for advice....Interesting.
I say ask to marry her, move her into your place and she can work out of there, think of the savings! Make sure to ask if get freebies once you are married. I do not think she should wear white though.

Im seeking advice from gents and escorts who have been on this route and asking them publicly about thier experiences in hopes they can provide life insights. Personally, I never needed a merb account, other then finding prominent providers!

 

[Zayden]

YES I DO!!!! MARRY ME OMG


(This thread HAS to be a troll lol....)

I'm dead serious. I wouldn't waste my time here unless I knew I had something to gain.

 

[Zayden]

lolll This is not really hard to know you pretty well....Just by your description and the details you give about yourself in this Romantic financial booty call relationship you are having, I know you pretty much as well as I know my regulars...

Lets be real here; courtesan= "courtiiser", we are paid to seduce you...but lets face it; the majority of us are signle for a reason; we are used of being independant, putting our things our way and usually, we develop a very strong personality while we are dealing with men who are seeing us to fill a need, to realize a fantasy, to feel wanted or just to get laid....As a girlfriend, we are far from being as easy as seem to be when we are escorting...

LOLLL I will take Steve Martin quote and put it my way:"I am sure if the gentlemen I see in my secret life would argue only once with me or see me pissed, they would not be paying me to lay down; they would be paying me to leave..." :lol:

I'm not sure how you think you know me? Based on your comment, Im assuming you are saying straight up that this isn't a good idea?

By the way, I know perfectly well what her role is, but with me it's kinda different. Im not that naive woman! Coming out at her with this proposal will be a challenge for me. Personally, I don't see her refusing, but maybe giving me time to think. This is a serious matter for me, you will NEVER understand!

 

[CaptRenault]

#1. Will she agree to my proposal? What if she says no? What would I do then? .

Slap 'er arond a liddle, You know, teach 'er sum respec. Make sure she know you be in charge udda relationship.

#2. She seems to love her job and work but what if she doesn't want to run my business and wants to still escort? What do I say to that? I have to respect her decisions.

As long she turns all the loot ovahta you, you gotta ledda keep whorin'. Whats da problam?

#3. She never shows her face and she has family, would they accept me? I think they will for sure BUT Would my family accept her?? I mean nobody has to know what she does after she moves in with me.

Dat ain't ya problam kid. Just tell um she's a "induhpendant consultuhnt"

:lol:

 

[Valcazar]

I will take your post completely seriously instead of assuming you are a troll.

#1. Will she agree to my proposal? What if she says no? What would I do then? I know her well, and even though this was never discussed with her, she has plans to move on from escorting! She has plans for education and other goals too.

Most people have a good idea if their partner will say yes before asking. If you don't, maybe you should try to learn more about her and how she views relationships. But here is the trick with humans that many people have learned when asking someone to marry them -- you don't know and her being an escort doesn't change that. You mention she has lots of plans about her life, but you might want to figure out if she sees those plans as including a life partner before you ask.

#2. She seems to love her job and work but what if she doesn't want to run my business and wants to still escort? What do I say to that? I have to respect her decisions.

Yeah, you do. There are married escorts as well as unmarried ones. Again, she has her own plans and her own life, you might want to find out a bit more about what she wants and whether she sees herself being partnered with *anyone* before you ask her to marry you. (Again, getting to have a good sense whether the person you are going to ask to marry you even wants to be married ever is a good plan regardless of whether or not they are an escort.)

#3. She never shows her face and she has family, would they accept me? I think they will for sure BUT Would my family accept her?? I mean nobody has to know what she does after she moves in with me.

Worrying about whether or not the families will accept the partner is normal, regardless of whether or not one of the partners is an escort. This is why most people introduce their partner to their family before talking about marriage.

#4. How do I get over my insecurity? I don't care what she does because it's a job but I cringe thinking guys like jalimon and his nerdy friend ssj3 might have seen her and have been with her?! LOL In time I will get over this...

Most people you marry have probably slept with other people first. Some of those are other people you may not like. Lots of people find the idea that their friends are their partner's exes excruciating. (In small cities like Montreal, this is common, so people hopefully learn to get over it.) Comparing yourself to past lovers sucks, you should probably try to reconcile yourself to it before you ask someone to marry you. Again, this is something that will come up even if they aren't an escort.

To sum up - nothing you are worried about is actually specific to her being an escort. You are worried because you actually have decided marriage will be awesome without figuring out whether or not your partner is on the same page. This is a bad idea no matter what your partner does for a living, and you should probably work on that before proposing, in my opinion. This is the exact same advice I would give to you if you were talking about a banker the way you are talking about this woman.

 

[jalimon]

if she says no can you mary me?

cheers,

p.s. i can cook

 

[alca]

are you really serious.........omfg............it's à joke.

 

[CaptRenault]

I will take your post completely seriously instead of assuming you are a troll.
.

 

[alca]

I wish you à lot of love and why not, and many children .......

 

[Zayden]

Slap 'er arond a liddle, You know, teach 'er sum respec. Make sure she know you be in charge udda relationship.



As long she turns all the loot ovahta you, you gotta ledda keep whorin'. Whats da problam?



Dat ain't ya problam kid. Just tell um she's a "induhpendant consultuhnt"

:lol:

Are you drunk? I understand what you mean. I think I will push my arguments to why it's a good idea for me and her but I can never disrespect her boundaries. I also think that I don't need to worry about her life as a escort after she moves in... Except for the fact that one of her friend knows. I may need to worry about that and cut that friend of our lives!

And Sir, I ain't no pimp! She stays a married woman and stays home or does something else! I seriously doubt she will escort while I am with her but who knows? This is something I cannot accept! I drop this game and she does it too.

 

[jalimon]

I would go for Jalimon if I were you, he can cook.

Mon roti de porc à l'ail devrait le convaincre! Ha je peux faire plus sophistiqué aussi, j'ouvre 2 douzaines d'huitre le temps que flyingby prend pour 2 sog, pas pire tsé haha

Cheers,

 

[Flyingby]

Rosbos. Where you been!!! We missed your stories about how big your dick is

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

. Im not that naive woman!

So you are a female that wants to marry an escort or you just outed yourself.

 

[UncleBob]

Rosbos. Where you been!!! We missed your stories about how big your dick is

It's obvious to me by his style that Zayden is either ROSBOS or a Troll imitating ROSBOS lol

 

[Zayden]

To sum up - nothing you are worried about is actually specific to her being an escort. You are worried because you actually have decided marriage will be awesome without figuring out whether or not your partner is on the same page. This is a bad idea no matter what your partner does for a living, and you should probably work on that before proposing, in my opinion. This is the exact same advice I would give to you if you were talking about a banker the way you are talking about this woman.

Im prepared to sit down and ask her. I will lay out everything for her. This is only a proposal and we will have a long talk before coming to any conclusion. First, I need to see if she will decide to move in with me and start regular dating. I have a plan. I know I will get jokers here and I don't mind. I thank you for your thoughts.

Does anyone have first hand experience with this?