Jaded Members

[Mandouke]

Interesting… I have a hot take. It’s possible to achieve this level of intimacy with SP. sometimes there’s just insane chemistry

It may be for some Merbs, but highly unlikely for me.

 

[Mandouke]

You say it now but give it a few years you'll be back. The itch never disappears.

I am still here and have not gone anywhere.

 

[Halloween Mike]

There was a period when i didn't see anyone for 6 months. It was a mix of many things. First it was from Fall to Spring and winter is less "fun" to get to the city, but i also had a mixture of being tired of the travel itself, like making preparation, being away from home for 2 days (im not a traveller... never did, im not sure how i would feel in a proper vacation like 1 or 2 weeks) and for the first time ever i was "less craving" the need to meet someone in the first place. This is also the time where i got into video game "collecting" as in really building back my library and i spent a lot of money in this and movies. Im not a rich guy so i can't do multiple hobbies at the same time.

Funny enough recently i sold some of my most expensive games (they were PS1 games) as i had them digitally anyway (on PS3 as part of the old classic line up) and didn't felt the need to "hold a physical version" anymore. Im still crossing finger they will get a rerelease on PS4/5 like some did (Tomb Raider 1 to 6 for instance did not long ago, but these were cheap games on PS1). I guess i just realized that holding on to a game for display only was pointless... and its not games i was a mega fan like i am for instance of Resident Evil classics. Anyway not to extend on that but basically on these specific games i made a pretty decent profit. Got 450$ out of maybe 3 very expensive games, 2 of average price (30 to 40$) and a couple throw away cheap games i already beaten or tried and just had no interest to ever replay.

Lately i been less into gaming in general tough. I mean i still game but less hours a day, and i buy a lot less than i used to cause my backlog just keep growing faster than i can decrease it by playing the games.

As for movies, video stores are now defunct and i got most movies i wanted from the past (only miss a few). And not to be one of those guys but in recent times very few movies got to me in a way of "i need to buy it so badly". Ballerina will probably be one of the few as im a huge fan of John Wick (can't wait to see this soon) but basically even movies i enjoyed i won't spend 15-20$ on them. Ill wait if i can find them for under 5$ but for this it must be in like 7-8 years lol.

Bottom line right now, not only i can put more on the hobby but i also crave it more. There is many names right now on my "primary list" lol. So i decided i will try to see as many as i can this summer and fall then maybe take a small break in winter and use the money to feed my CC debt (as long as it does not up right now, im cool with it).

So far comiccon seem very mid too (but this could change, they could add names that i really want to see in June). Im definately taking photo ops + autograph with Michael Jai White as i really enjoy this guy martial arts movies, but the rest is really still on a "undecided" status. So depending on how much Comiccon cost, i may see 1 more person this July lol.

All of this to say everything comes in waves with me. Its ok to feel "jaded" for a little while, then usually things got back. Like video games right now for me, im sure in a few months or maybe a year i will crave it a lot more and get back more into it especially when new Gears of War release (well its a remaster but its one of my fav and my friends already said they will be back so should be fun).

I got to add that women for me are strickly SPs. I don't have real life relationships with women outside friendships, so its not like i can say "oh its cool im having some fun with girls in norrmal lives, i don't need SPs right now"

 

[MCTJ]

Fall to Spring and winter is less "fun" to get to the city, but i also had a mixture of being tired of the travel itself, like making preparation, being away from home for 2 days

Contrary to most of the members here, the fact that you have to travel to Montreal is an important thing to consider. It puts a physical barrier between you and the act, keeps it "special", somewhat of an event. To make a parallel, we know from the field of addiction that ease of access (to a substance) is one of the major factor that perpetuates addiction. The same applies to sex addiction, which in my understanding, is what underlies the feeling of being "jaded".

 

[Mandouke]

Contrary to most of the members here, the fact that you have to travel to Montreal is an important thing to consider. It puts a physical barrier between you and the act, keeps it "special", somewhat of an event. To make a parallel, we know from the field of addiction that ease of access (to a substance) is one of the major factor that perpetuates addiction. The same applies to sex addiction, which in my understanding, is what underlies the feeling of being "jaded".

Fuck Merbs who live in Griffintown must be screwed, no pun intended. You can't go a floor in any condo without a SP apartment.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

I don’t engage in this hobby out of desperation; I do it because it’s straightforward and cheaper than going on a traditional date. Picture going to a restaurant, listening to someone’s life story, and then leaving empty handed. It’s not worth the effort, especially considering the brainwashing and constant compliments needed just to get someone into bed. By the time that happens, you’ve already invested countless dates, money and time consuming. For me, this approach is appealing because it’s hassle free and doesn’t come with strings attached, making it a practical and low maintenance choice.

 

[MCTJ]

You have that “ feel good “ in the action but then when you release, you feel like crap. And so what do you do to feel better, call another sp and and on. . Right now your like hamster in a wheel, just constantly trying to chase a dopamine hit. Its hard to get out.

This is good summary of sex addiction. According to one prevailing theory of addiction, whether it be "chemical" (i.e. drugs or alcohol) or "behavioral" (sex, gambling, etc.), it's not so much the "high" that keep addicts in their cycle, but rather the desire to avoid the pain that comes in between these increasingly hard to obtain highs. More often than not, this pain arises from a lack of stable, meaningful intimate relationships. In other words, the substance or behavior of choice is used to numb a feeling of chronic emptiness. It also works in the other direction: the lack of stable reciprocal relationships can also be seen as the consequence of addiction. I encourage anyone interested in this topic to read the excellent book Addiction as an Attachment Disorder by Phillip J. Flores, PhD. (No AI was used in the creation of this post)

 

[talkinghead]

No, it's just the hobby, no amount of money can buy the intimacy that comes with a genuine relationship. I have had some great times with SPs, but in the end, it is just sex with a price tag. This is the aspect that is leaving me feeling jaded.

I agree that you can't buy that kind of intimacy, and I think it's a mistake to seek it in the hobby. Based on a lot of comments out here, it can lead to a disillusioned resentment. But I don't think that seeing SPs needs to be "just sex with a price tag." A woman can receive payment for pleasure and she can still have a kind, caring, and playful spirit. I get paid for my work but that doesn't mean I can't enjoy much of it.

 

[Flyingby]

If you feel jaded. It is a good thing
Some guys live in the fantasy world and think they could date their sp “It’s not about the money” they hope or think.

Being jaded means you know it is nothing else than a transaction.

Guys don’t choose to be single and pay for sex.
Seeing an sp is an easy choice. It is a fine choice. But I don’t believe it is anyone’s first choice.
Proof is how many guys on this board fall in love with their sp!

 

[Salbandini]

If you feel jaded. It is a good thing
Some guys live in the fantasy world and think they could date their sp “It’s not about the money” they hope or think
Being jaded means you know it is nothing else than a transaction.
Guys don’t choose to be single and pay for sex.
Seeing an sp is an easy choice. It is a fine choice. But I don’t believe it is anyone’s first choice.
Proof is how many guys on this board fall in love with their sp!

You mean with the pornoesque reviews? Which are all 99 percent to left field .

Well said by the way . It goes back to my comment. I think indirectly most peoples conscience is working OT and wants to stop but they cant. Stuck in a hamster wheel .

 

[masterfreak]

C'est pas compliqué si tu peux avoir la majorité des demoiselles qui t'intéresses sans transaction financière que tu es jeune moins de 45 ,personne devrait payer pour avoir du sexe.
Pour moi c'est de la paresse, c'est la facilité
En vieillissant c'est beaucoup plus compliqué d'attirer des jolies jeunes dames
Tomber amoureux d'une travailleuse du sexe ça arrive à beaucoup de merbistes
Avec l'expérience on apprend l'admettiez er
Être fatigué de ce hobby c'est bien
Prendre une pause pour se concentrer sur d'autres activités c'est positif
Que vous l'admettiez ou pas ca devient une addiction sur le long terme
Je passe souvent par des phases ou je prend des pauses
Le problème je reviens toujours plus enthousiasme que jamais

 

[Mandouke]

If you feel jaded. It is a good thing
Some guys live in the fantasy world and think they could date their sp “It’s not about the money” they hope or think.

Being jaded means you know it is nothing else than a transaction.

Guys don’t choose to be single and pay for sex.
Seeing an sp is an easy choice. It is a fine choice. But I don’t believe it is anyone’s first choice.
Proof is how many guys on this board fall in love with their sp!

Thanks, I am beginning to wake up to this feeling. You are right, it is a transaction, and that is why I feel this way. I never expected it to be more than this, but it has awakened my emotions, and that is a good thing.