MERB adds a New "Social Distancing Services" Section

[Flyingby]

Without going into details, yes I have worked for free on more then few occasions.
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I do volunteering as well for the less fortunate. I don’t think us hobbiers are less fortunate.
But quite frankly. If I saw an SP many times before covid. Texted her and she responded $$. That would be it for me. Move on to the next one. So i think for an sp it is about finding a balance.
As an sp once told me. A john texted her at least 20 times to chat. But never booked her. So they get their time wasted too

 

[jalimon]

Without going into details, yes I have worked for free on more then few occasions.

Nice to be reached out, and as you say it was nice.
Few I tried to reach out, the text back answer I got was a $ sign.

I texted the sp that meant something to me very early in this crazy virus situation (before the mandatory confinement). Only 2 responded. And their response showed no real interest... Probably blacklisted myself. Ha well there will be other ones in a few months when we can get back at it.

Cheers,

 

[TigerWould]

My first clue that they’re full of shit is when they start off by “hun” , “babe” or “sweetie” what a turn off. They don’t even know me! Feels like I’m a kindergarten student.

 

[Cruiser777]

My first clue that they’re full of shit is when they start off by “hun” , “babe” or “sweetie” what a turn off.
They don’t even know me! Feels like I’m a kindergarten student.

I thought that was part of being G$F$E experience LOL

 

[rosedelacourt]

Just let me be clear that its non of my business what people do, what service they offer, how much they charge etc etc.

BUT WHY CHARGE $$$$s ???

Times like this shouldn't people give back to the "Needy" a little ?, clients have been giving for a long time, would have been a nice gesture if a
provider, with "Longstanding relationship" offered a little freebee of SDing, chit-chat or checked on one her clients and said hello without asking for $$s

FYI, I have helped few providers in the past when they needed things outside of the SP business, thought it was good thing to do at the time.


PS: Rose, I am quoting your response for the content, but it is not pointed directly to you, just using it as a topic for general discussion.

I agree that it has to be taken with a grain of salt. I did reply to all my clients asking me what's up and how I was dealing with all this. I do cherish our relationships. I am in the lucky ones that had some savings and the ability to pay my three rents (Indy condo, my own condo and my mortgage). But I do appreciate clients who have reached out to ask what they can do to help me out either by pre-paying our next date or booking a virtual engagement. Most providers have several rents to pay and not everyone works enough to save either. That is the situation of most people however. Most people don't know how they are going to make it if this lasts several months.

In our jobs, winter is usually slow season and it picks up in March so most girls had savings to last them until then. This month and spring was supposed to start getting busier for us. It is a catastrophe for a lot of providers. We're not here to scam you, we're not trying to steal your hard earned money and by reading what you guys write of our online content/services, I see clearly that a lot of you don't value us.

 

[EagerBeaver]

My first clue that they’re full of shit is when they start off by “hun” , “babe” or “sweetie” what a turn off. They don’t even know me! Feels like I’m a kindergarten student.

TigerWould,

I am totally with you on this. I sometimes have this happen on Seeking Arrangement even after telling the girl in private messages what my real name is, and when she uses "babe", "hun" or "sweetie" to reply, it more or less tells me "next!!!!!!!" And I move on. When you tell someone what your name is, and they instead address you as "hun" or "babe", they are by definition a bubblehead, and I do not do bubbleheads.

 

[TigerWould]

TigerWould,

I am totally with you on this. I sometimes have this happen on Seeking Arrangement even after telling the girl in private messages what my real name is, and when she uses "babe", "hun" or "sweetie" to reply, it more or less tells me "next!!!!!!!" And I move on. When you tell someone what your name is, and they instead address you as "hun" or "babe", they are by definition a bubblehead, and I do not do bubbleheads.

Hahaha that’s exactly what I do!! Except when they use those terms I KNOW they’re pros. Only sp’s use those terms. I find it so disrespectful to call someone you don’t know babe or hun. When we all know they call everyone that. If I text a girl and she replies hi hun I block them and move on. To me it shows they’re already fake before we even begin.

 

[The Nature Boy]

I see EB’s point on SA, but Tiger calling someone babe or hun is common practice in society, ie ur @‘grocery and last in line and they open up a new register and the cash attendant yells over to you “I’ll cash you out right here luv!” Or your at dr’s and nurse takin you into exam room says “follow me hun, we’ll get you height and weight?” How is that different?

 

[TigerWould]

I see EB’s point on SA, but Tiger calling someone babe or hun is common practice in society, ie ur @‘grocery and last in line and they open up a new register and the cash attendant yells over to you “I’ll cash you out right here luv!” Or your at dr’s and nurse takin you into exam room says “follow me hun, we’ll get you height and weight?” How is that different?

It’s very different. For me it’s a no no. I’m not trying to make anyone think like me. It’s just my opinion. Actually a lot of guys think the same way.

 

[hungry101]

^^^ How about Puddin Cakes? At least that is one of the terms of endearment that would make me laugh. Hey puddin cakes...got your credit card handy?

 

[jalimon]

It is a catastrophe for a lot of providers. We're not here to scam you, we're not trying to steal your hard earned money and by reading what you guys write of our online content/services, I see clearly that a lot of you don't value us.

Tough to read. Yes it's true it is a catastrophe to a lot of provider.

But honestly it has nothing to do with not valuing what you do.

If you have watch the news the Cirque du soleil laid off 95% of their staff. What this company was offering is a moment of illusion. A fantasy. Exactly like what you girls are providing. So in situation like this it all collapse. There are things that cannot be replaced no matter how humanly hard it is.

 

[rosedelacourt]

Jalimon, again it has everything to do with you guys assuming that because you wouldn't pay for online services, nobody would. A lot of men dislike porn as it feels fake and they'd rather stick with one specific performer and buy her stuff. Some like the fact that they have met the girl and that there is a connection as well. There is a reason why Porn Hub is so popular right now, people are horny and in need of a distraction. Why would providers not innovate and tap into that market as well? Most of us don't have other jobs, we have to find an alternative.

I'm not saying virtual GFE will replace regular GFE, in-person dates are still preferred, I'm merely saying that we are all struggling right now and that if you have met a girl and like her, a little something (say OF subscription, pre-paying a session or even just a IGA gift card) will go a long way. It's a good time to have compassion

 

[The Nature Boy]

Man with all this horniness there will prob be a shortage of Obstetrics docs in November on, lots of quarantine babies

 

[rosedelacourt]

Man with all this horniness there will prob be a shortage of Obstetrics docs in November on, lots of quarantine babies

That and divorces ahaha

 

[Halloween Mike]

If i can put a grain of salt on that specific topic, pre-paying futur dates seem a bit "off" to me right now. The thing is...

1) We don't know when it will be over. If we are lucky, maybe June in Quebec... still it may be "calm" but not totally fixed either.

2) If lots of guys pay in advance, at one point she may have to "work for free" or work those pre-paid booking during a bunch of weeks wich will still make it hard for her at that time. I could see a provider trying to stretch her pre-paid date to a max of 2 per week so she can still make money, and some guys could wait a while to see her.

3) What if she just wanna leave the business, maybe she found a different mean, maybe she realize online content pays enough... what if she decide to just quit as an escort, will she still do those pre-paid date?

I dunno, i know some are very honest, others not so much (we had an exemple not long ago in the review section) but personally even tough ill be very happy to book again when its fixed, ill wait til then to pay... in person like usual. Not that i don't wanna help but i rather subscribe to a few onlyfans or buy some virtual content and make a transaction on the spot (paying for a service i get NOW)

At the same time, and yes its just me there, but this is a gold opportunity for me in all this shitshow. All the money i was gonna put on comiccon, on bookings, hell even maybe on used games on ebay, most of it won't be used. Can't book, there won't be a comiccon at least not in july its official (Trudeau says borders won't open before July, and my point to go at comiccon is meeting celebrities) as they won't have time to organize EVEN if its fixed by then, so it will either be post poned or it will have to go to next year, and when it comes to games, ordering mail is not the best of thing right now. I still ordered Resident Evil 3 remake out of amazon but only because i collect RE games physically, otherwise i would had do like Doom Eternal and go digital, even tough im much less of a fan of this format. But RE it must be physical.

But bottom line im finally pumping "substantial ammounts" in my debt (while still keeping some on the side for futur bookings lol) and that is great... Like i said this is my golden opportunity to make the best out of it and ill make sure to take it this time.

 

[rosedelacourt]

HM, if you are not doing your due diligences when pre-paying a date of course this can happen! My clients know I'm not going anywhere and if I was, I would refund them. Not all clients pre-pay and I wouldn't want them to, because I want to make money when all this is over as well. So I accept and refuse some pre-payments. I have clients who prepaid for dates that will probably be in fall. They know I won't bail on them. There is trust.

I am aware not everyone is honest. But it is a win-win for the client and the provider if there is a trust between them. I offer extra time to our session as well, to ''sweeten the deal'' so the speak

 

[Flyingby]

I think prepaying is a good opportunity to help out. Some are offering social time included. Not my cup of tea. But will definitely prepay a date soon

 

[sharkman]

Interesting findings! Online dating amid Corona Virus...Longer conversations and a 'switch’ to video dates

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/online-dating-amid-coronavirus-longer-chats-and-fewer-new-prospects-match-says-2020-03-31?mod=mw_latestnews

 

[rosedelacourt]

I think prepaying is a good opportunity to help out. Some are offering social time included. Not my cup of tea. But will definitely prepay a date soon

I think so too, it's a win-win if you've already established a relationship. I don't offer social time, I offer added time which is a huge deal I know a lot of providers do so as well!

 

[The Nature Boy]

Rose, this is true, being stuck @ home with someone can drive both parties crazy. Hopefully there’s gonna be a lot more fucking though!

HM u just reminded me to whip out my PS2! Thank you my friend!

My fav who works in a major city is out of work since her agency shut down. Talked to her today. Asked if she was doin this virtual stuff, she said “ nope, went out and got a job @ _ like everyone else.” She knew who’s hiring (major company) and will be doin manual labor for the next few weeks while “The Beast” hangs around. Couldn’t be more proud of her n prob why I love her so much!