I think I know what you are trying to say. Maybe I don't but I'll give you my own account. Some guys (some SPs I've learned ) don't know how to kiss. Don't just try to stick your tongue down a girls throat. DFK means to me an artful dodging of lips and a sexy dancing of light tongue action that tends to build over time and it can be so intimate. In China and Thailand I've had women (I think they were women - you never know over there) just stick their tongue down my throat and I don't like that.
I like a lot of lips with some tongue. That's true in this business and it's true in my personal life. If someone wants me to commit to DFK but it turns out that their definition of DFK is 'just sticking their tongue down my throat', I've put myself in a position where I have agreed to provide a service to a client based on a completely different definition and expectations.
Hold it. You don't offer DFK/LFK or you don't rim? Do you allow yourself to enjoy being rimmed?
Sorry I kind of mixed things but basically trying to say that I don't provide rimming because it's something that I do not enjoy, period. The same goes for what to some people might be DFK but to me is not. The difference is that if you ask me about rimming, ww both know exactly what we are talking about. If you ask me about DFK it's hard for me to answer because I don't know what exactly DFK means to you.
BTW I do feel comfortable with LFK and that does *not* mean pecks on the mouth. It's still passionate, it's just my style lol. What I find difficult is promising DFK without knowing what the person has in mind. It's not a matter of not kissing. It's a matter of not wanting to be kissed the way some people interpret DFK to mean and what they expect as a result. It doesn't mean I'm in the wrong business, it just means I'm a human with preferences, not a robot.
Does that make sense?