Need Some Diplomatic Wisdom from the Forum Experts

[Salbandini]

Alright, I need everyone's advice since clearly, this forum is filled with undercover diplomats and emotional PhDs.

So here’s the deal: I recently met this woman. Not a service provider, just a drop dead gorgeous girl. She’s kind, funny, has a natural body to die for, and she actually wants a relationship with me.

Now here’s where I spiral: I don’t think I want a relationship. Not because I’m out here living the dream, but because every time I’ve been in one, I end up disappointed, hurt, and wondering why I didn’t just stay home and water my plants.

I’ve been enjoying my solitude, working on myself (well, trying), and let’s be honest I also want the freedom to occasionally go on a stress free, emotionally detached rampage with service providers. No strings, no heartbreak, no bedtime story nonsense.But here’s the catch: if I say yes to this goddess , that part of my life is over. I don’t cheat, that’s non-negotiable. Which means if I commit, I’m all in.

So now I’m stuck between: Starting something real with someone amazing and risking emotional devastation because let’s face it, I get attached way too fast and heartbreak hits like a brick of Keeping my freedom, avoiding commitment, and living in a world of no expectations or possibly missing out on the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

To make things worse, my trust in women isn't exactly thriving. One day you're their world, the next day they flip the switch and you're the villain..So instead of paying a therapist to give me advice , I figured I’d come here to the most “diplomatic” forum around, where everyone clearly has a master’s degree in emotional problem solving. So here my dilemma am I protecting my peace, or just sabotaging myself?

Simply dude, go for it. Thats what dating is all
About. You dont know if you dont try. Dont want to turn this into a “what if”. Worst case scenario it doesnt pan out.

Also side note this might not be the best place to ask for relationship advice lol

 

[Mailloche]

Alright, I need everyone's advice since clearly, this forum is filled with undercover diplomats and emotional PhDs.

So here’s the deal: I recently met this woman. Not a service provider, just a drop dead gorgeous girl. She’s kind, funny, has a natural body to die for, and she actually wants a relationship with me.

Now here’s where I spiral: I don’t think I want a relationship. Not because I’m out here living the dream, but because every time I’ve been in one, I end up disappointed, hurt, and wondering why I didn’t just stay home and water my plants.

I’ve been enjoying my solitude, working on myself (well, trying), and let’s be honest I also want the freedom to occasionally go on a stress free, emotionally detached rampage with service providers. No strings, no heartbreak, no bedtime story nonsense.But here’s the catch: if I say yes to this goddess , that part of my life is over. I don’t cheat, that’s non-negotiable. Which means if I commit, I’m all in.

So now I’m stuck between: Starting something real with someone amazing and risking emotional devastation because let’s face it, I get attached way too fast and heartbreak hits like a brick of Keeping my freedom, avoiding commitment, and living in a world of no expectations or possibly missing out on the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

To make things worse, my trust in women isn't exactly thriving. One day you're their world, the next day they flip the switch and you're the villain..So instead of paying a therapist to give me advice , I figured I’d come here to the most “diplomatic” forum around, where everyone clearly has a master’s degree in emotional problem solving. So here my dilemma am I protecting my peace, or just sabotaging myself?

The cost of having a gf or wife is equal, lower or more expensive to the cost of enjoying that hobby, depends on your budget. Having a gf you will lost all your freedom and fucking the same woman everyday for the first 3 months to a year then once a week then once in a blue moon. I choose this hobby because when i want to fuck i just get up and do it no question ask no talking and no aftermath problems following that "relationship". I have friendly relationship with many women in my private life if i want to discuss about everydays life as for sex i have within 5 min with new woman anythime i want and the way i want. I want rough sex i got it cover, i want gfe style sex i got it cover i want ligerie sex i got it cover i want different nationality i got it cover the list goes on something that a gf cannot.provide you. Gf or wife relationship take time and energy it's up to you if you want to work on that.