Need Some Diplomatic Wisdom from the Forum Experts

[Flyingby]

Tell me, why are you always on my back? did mommy skip the breastfeeding stage, did not hug you enough or did you just take daily beatings at the bus stop and decide everyone else needs to pay for it? Because honestly, your lifelong habit of creating drama and twisting words right up to the edge screams I’m a childhood bully victim.

And let’s not pretend I’m your only target, you do this to everyone. You’re not here to contribute or enjoy yourself ; you’re here to stir trouble, plain and simple. Even the most patient person knows when to turn the page, but you? You cling on like a leech who’s forgotten how to let go.

You ever think about doing something productive with your time? Anything? Because people like you are exactly why I stopped posting reviews. Now I only write when I want not when some keyboard gremlin tries to troll me into silence.

And really, do us all a favor: go talk to someone. Professionally. Because at this point, your routine is more tired than offensive. Grow up, man. Seriously.

In your first post. You asked for advice from everyone
I gave you insightful, meaningful advice on post 5. You backhanded it on post 8 without considering that I truly wanted to help you.

Now I took the time to reread all the posts. So far if the advice has not gone the way you want it to. You condescendingly bring the person down : post 25 and post 32.
Your response to everything is always the same. You think people are jealous because you PAY for sex more than others pay for it.

I don’t bully. But I damn well do respond to bullies

And finally you bring my mother into this? Are you 12?

Some more advice: Instead of asking anonymous mongers about a real relationship. Go have a beer with a friend. Someone who knows you. Who will be able to sympathize and understand what you’ve been through in the past

This is an escort review board. The only thing anyone has on their mind here is sex.

 

[Salbandini]

In your first post. You asked for advice from everyone
I gave you insightful, meaningful advice on post 5. You backhanded it on post 8 without considering that I truly wanted to help you.

Now I took the time to reread all the posts. So far if the advice has not gone the way you want it to. You condescendingly bring the person down : post 25 and post 32.
Your response to everything is always the same. You think people are jealous because you PAY for sex more than others pay for it.

I don’t bully. But I damn well do respond to bullies

And finally you bring my mother into this? Are you 12?

Some more advice: Instead of asking anonymous mongers about a real relationship. Go have a beer with a friend. Someone who knows you. Who will be able to sympathize and understand what you’ve been through in the past

This is an escort review board. The only thing anyone has on their mind here is sex.

And add have a pretty disgruntled view on relationships dating etc

 

[DenisZim]

Hello,
I could write a book regarding this topic.
The short answer.
Everybody can take an escort.
Only a real man can hold someone hand till the end.
The saddest thing in this life is to have dinner alone.
Give her a chance.
Good luck.

 

[Tor1393]

In any case having raw sex isn't really a good reason to be in a monogamous relationship but it's certainly a perk..

wait until your dick is 60, itll be enough reason then. Old dicks and condoms are not a good fit

 

[Lunaseraphim]

wait until your dick is 60, itll be enough reason then. Old dicks and condoms are not a good fit

I don't have a dick so I wouldn't know! But I do have a lot of clients over a certain age and it's true that it can be more work or penetration is avoided entirely in favor of bbbj etc

 

[Mailloche]

wait until your dick is 60, itll be enough reason then. Old dicks and condoms are not a good fit

Unless you have an uncut skin, there is proof that cut dick loose sensibility over time due to over exposed head.

 

[Tor1393]

I don't have a dick so I wouldn't know! But I do have a lot of clients over a certain age and it's true that it can be more work or penetration is avoided entirely in favor of bbbj etc

One of the reasons that I like Sugar babies is because I can forgo the condoms. I am not talking about escorts who "sugar", I am talking about what I consider true sugar babies. Usually Ladies who have a regular 9-5 job and exclusively see a (usually older) guy as their primary . . Usually after a few dates, the condom can be dispensed with. Please spare me too much judgement. I know alot of "sugar babies are just intermittent escorts. Usually they become pretty obvious. I avoid them as SB's but obviously I enjoy escorts in Montreal. For Sugar Babies, I am talking about a smaller percentage who I feel fit my definition. Mistress is another category where it is possible to be more intimate.

tor

 

[MCTJ]

Usually after a few dates, the condom can be dispensed with.

Just like that? No mutual STI testing?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

One of the reasons that I like Sugar babies is because I can forgo the condoms. I am not talking about escorts who "sugar", I am talking about what I consider true sugar babies. Usually Ladies who have a regular 9-5 job and exclusively see a (usually older) guy as their primary . . Usually after a few dates, the condom can be dispensed with. Please spare me too much judgement. I know alot of "sugar babies are just intermittent escorts. Usually they become pretty obvious. I avoid them as SB's but obviously I enjoy escorts in Montreal. For Sugar Babies, I am talking about a smaller percentage who I feel fit my definition. Mistress is another category where it is possible to be more intimate.

tor

I think you should still be careful with sugar babies because you don't know how honest they are being with you. some girls I've known who were sugar babies were actually pretty promiscuous in their personal lives, or they had more than one sugar daddy. Some women use sugar baby websites as escorting platforms.. they aren't advertising as escorts but they find more than one arrangements that way. I had a friend who did this for a while. No judgement passed tho..

 

[Marsouin]

Alright, I need everyone's advice since clearly, this forum is filled with undercover diplomats and emotional PhDs.

So here’s the deal: I recently met this woman. Not a service provider, just a drop dead gorgeous girl. She’s kind, funny, has a natural body to die for, and she actually wants a relationship with me.

Now here’s where I spiral: I don’t think I want a relationship. Not because I’m out here living the dream, but because every time I’ve been in one, I end up disappointed, hurt, and wondering why I didn’t just stay home and water my plants.

I’ve been enjoying my solitude, working on myself (well, trying), and let’s be honest I also want the freedom to occasionally go on a stress free, emotionally detached rampage with service providers. No strings, no heartbreak, no bedtime story nonsense.But here’s the catch: if I say yes to this goddess , that part of my life is over. I don’t cheat, that’s non-negotiable. Which means if I commit, I’m all in.

So now I’m stuck between: Starting something real with someone amazing and risking emotional devastation because let’s face it, I get attached way too fast and heartbreak hits like a brick of Keeping my freedom, avoiding commitment, and living in a world of no expectations or possibly missing out on the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

To make things worse, my trust in women isn't exactly thriving. One day you're their world, the next day they flip the switch and you're the villain..So instead of paying a therapist to give me advice , I figured I’d come here to the most “diplomatic” forum around, where everyone clearly has a master’s degree in emotional problem solving. So here my dilemma am I protecting my peace, or just sabotaging myself?

Well, what are you more afraid of ?
Success or Failure

One day you're their world, the next day they flip the switch and you're the villain.

Which part did you not get ?

Just locate that woman on the graph …that should give you a course of action

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

In your first post. You asked for advice from everyone
I gave you insightful, meaningful advice on post 5. You backhanded it on post 8 without considering that I truly wanted to help you.

Now I took the time to reread all the posts. So far if the advice has not gone the way you want it to. You condescendingly bring the person down : post 25 and post 32.
Your response to everything is always the same. You think people are jealous because you PAY for sex more than others pay for it.

I don’t bully. But I damn well do respond to bullies

And finally you bring my mother into this? Are you 12?

Some more advice: Instead of asking anonymous mongers about a real relationship. Go have a beer with a friend. Someone who knows you. Who will be able to sympathize and understand what you’ve been through in the past

This is an escort review board. The only thing anyone has on their mind here is sex.

First of all, contrary to what you trying to implied, I haven’t been rude. If anything, I’ve tried to keep things civil though I admit, it’s becoming increasingly difficult when every response from you seems designed to twist my words and back me into a corner. It’s almost like a hobby for you.

For the record, I’m not overly concerned with what people think of me, and no I don’t think their opinions seem to stem more from envy than from any objective view. I’m just a regular person who enjoys this hobby and makes an effort to contribute meaningfully to the community. No secret agenda, no competition just sharing experiences.

Am I proud that I’ve seen more providers than most? Not particularly. But when I’m more active, I do it with the intention of giving back to the forum through reviews. I wasn’t doing it for personal glory or to one-up anyone believe me, I have better things to compete over.

I don’t tolerate disrespect from anyone, either online or in real life. If someone repeatedly jumps into my threads to derail them or to shame me, I will stand up for myself on principle. I have no personal issue with you, though I do find your behavior annoying at times. It’s troubling that you seem intent on provoking me to the point of getting me banned by breaking forum rules.Almost admirable, in a way.If you put half as much effort into your own life as you do into mine, you'd be richer than Bill Gates by now.

If you're feeling stressed, perhaps a good session with a service provider might help you unwind. I’m feeling generous today, so if that’s what it takes for some peace here, I’ll gladly cover the cost just send me a PM. All I ask is that you write a review afterward, for the benefit of the community.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

You are really good at finding excuses to justify being just plain scared lol.
You want to grow, here is a thought. Life is way too short, love and a great woman rarely come knocking at your door when they do, open it.
Believe me there is nothing like being in love with the right woman. If you get hurt well life is a bitch sometimes, so what you tried.

I completely agree with you my friend , but there's no need to rush. Why not just go with the flow and see where it takes us , no pressure, no expectations.

 

[Lionelmessi]

I think the best person to talk to about your insecurities is her. If she’s interested in having a relationship with you, she’ll probably want to understand what’s making you hesitate. By opening up and discussing it together, you might find common ground and that conversation could become one of the first building blocks of your relationship.

 

[Marsouin]

I think the best person to talk to about your insecurities is her. If she’s interested in having a relationship with you, she’ll probably want to understand what’s making you hesitate. By opening up and discussing it together, you might find common ground and that conversation could become one of the first building blocks of your relationship.

Worst strategy ever .. a sure recipe for failure.
If you tell any woman that you are not sure that you want her enough to take a leap, you won’t have to make a choice, she is gonna make it for you. Have you ever heard of of any woman that dreams of a man that does not know what he wants ?

 

[Lionelmessi]

Worst strategy ever .. a sure recipe for failure.
If you tell any woman that you are not sure that you want her enough to take a leap, you won’t have to make a choice, she is gonna make it for you. Have you ever heard of of any woman that dreams of a man that does not know what he wants ?

Being honest about fear isn’t the same as not knowing what you want. Most women prefer clarity over guessing and vulnerability shows strength, not indecision.

In my experience a woman would much rather know that a man is afraid of getting his heart broken than be left thinking there’s something wrong with her.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Worst strategy ever .. a sure recipe for failure.
If you tell any woman that you are not sure that you want her enough to take a leap, you won’t have to make a choice, she is gonna make it for you. Have you ever heard of of any woman that dreams of a man that does not know what he wants ?

It's more complicated than that honestly. There have been situations when I really wish someone I was beginning to date had been more honest with me. Obviously the ideal situation is that somebody is sure about you right away, but that's rarely the case.. being afraid of entering a romantic relationship is normal to a certain extent.

Most people have been hurt in the past and have apprehensions, or they are under the illusion that they have more options and choices than they really do and even if they truly like you they are afraid of committing and they think that chemistry will be gone after a few dates which is in their head. (Dating app/hook up culture)

I've dated people, both men and women, who consciously sabotaged our relationship right away because they weren't able to communicate and their fears took over very fast. They weren't sure and instead of just going with the flow and communicating in an open and honest way, they just ruined the connection.

 

[LeDodo]

If you're feeling stressed, perhaps a good session with a service provider might help you unwind. I’m feeling generous today, so if that’s what it takes for some peace here, I’ll gladly cover the cost just send me a PM. All I ask is that you write a review afterward, for the benefit of the community.

Somehow your proposal looks like this one Full disclosure post

 

[Marsouin]

thinking there’s something wrong with her.

That is not what I meant ..and there is nothing wrong with her .. you are a man , it’s your fault even if it is not your fault it is your fault , deal with it!

What I meant is , the decision must come first then you can express all you want.

 

[Fradi]

I completely agree with you my friend , but there's no need to rush. Why not just go with the flow and see where it takes us , no pressure, no expectations.

Nobody said anything about rushing.
You are the one asking for advice not me lol.
The point I have been making is if you don’t try you will never know what could have been, it is that simple, now how you approach it is up to you.

 

[Flyingby]

Almost admirable, in a way.If you put half as much effort into your own life as you do into mine, you'd be richer than Bill Gates by now.

If you're feeling stressed, perhaps a good session with a service provider might help you unwind. I’m feeling generous today, so if that’s what it takes for some peace here, I’ll gladly cover the cost just send me a PM. All I ask is that you write a review afterward, for the benefit of the community.

The olive branch would have been better if you hadn’t thrown the insult in there at the same time.

i appreciate the generosity in the offer. But I will politely decline.
I prefer keeping the freedom to freelance my writing that be stuck to a contract.