Oral hygiene

[rosedelacourt]

Question to clients here as I'm curious what you guys think. Let's say you have really bad oral hygiene (say lots of tartar and gingivitis), would you want the provider to tell you? Would you be offended if they did tell you, out of care and out of wanting to see you again? This is kind of a deal breaker for me, but I really like the person.

 

[Flyingby]

I wouldn’t say anything. We want to feel like we are the best looking. Best in bed. Cleanest teeth, balls and ass.
that would destroy the fantasy.

 

[Canada501st]

Yes. Honesty is the best policy. If a guy is offended by that, its not worth to see him again. It is the responsibility of both parties to keep their hygiene impeccable during the meeting.

 

[Fradi]

Yes I would want you to tell me.
I am sure you would be able to do it in a kind and caring way.
If the guy is smart and thinks as much of you as you do of him then he will thank you.
I think a lot of people are not aware of it and they can brush and use mouthwash as much as any regular guy but sometimes it takes a lot of deep cleaning attempts and clear instructions by a professional dental hygienist or dentist on how to develop lasting effective oral hygiene If you are prone to tartar buildup.
Many times it is not that people don’t care or don’t put in the effort it is simply that they have never been taught how to do it properly.

 

[rosedelacourt]

Yes. Honesty is the best policy. If a guy is offended by that, its not worth to see him again. It is the responsibility of both parties to keep their hygiene despicable during the meeting.

That's also what I think. I floss twice a day, brush three times a day and go to the dentist every 3 months. I want to be kissable and I love to kiss. I like the guy, I want to see him again. But I also want to enjoy myself and it's quite distracting.

 

[rosedelacourt]

I wouldn’t say anything. We want to feel like we are the best looking. Best in bed. Cleanest teeth, balls and ass.
that would destroy the fantasy.

That's the thing! Everything else was great. So if he can improve that it would make the experience not only better for me, but for him as well. And he would have much more fun with providers to come! No?

 

[sene5hos]

Relevant question Rose.

If you like this person, tell him because it is very important to you.

In the short term it might be okay, if he promises to go to a dentist.

 

[in4hell]

If there's something is wrong with me, please tell me. I prefer honesty than having the feeling that there's something wrong that you won't say it... and that you are reluctant to do things with me

 

[The Nature Boy]

Make some crazy shit up. Say your a dental student and teach this dude how to brush and floss. Say you have a group presentation and need to use him as a guinea pig. Incorporate into Role play??

 

[cloudsurf]

Rose you have to tell him and do so in a diplomatic and kind way. You obviously care for his well being and you demonstrate that by being honest.
Gingivitis, depending how advanced it is, is dangerous for both you and especially him. He may bleed from his gums while performing DATY. There are other complications like heart disease that it can trigger.
Tell him to visit his dentist for a consultation and deep oral cleaning. If you like him then you`ll be doing him a favour.

 

[Christian32]

I would really appreciate to be told things that I do wrong when I am intimate... because I want to be at my best when I won't be paying. I would love to find an escort that can be both fun and teach me things. But for now whatever I do sexually with an escort makes her moans like crazy *shrugging*

...As long of course that it is said politely and only in an attempt for her to get an even -better- experience. The better word is important because if I feel that she is complaining because it is one of many things she don't like and there's no way to make her happy then I will conclude that it is her the problem.

In the same way I hate when an escort tell me false compliments like "oh you got a big cock"... NO its below the average and you must know it!... now I can't believe any compliment you say to me.

 

[DrJ_TheGhost]

You should tell him, especially if it bothers you. I would want to know. Worse thing is he will be too shy to see you again but he will probably fix his oral health.

 

[albacore]

I'm sure if you tell him in a kind, respectful, and tactful way, he would appreciate it as I'm guessing he's probably not even aware of it. Some people have great oral hygiene habits and others not so much. It happens. As it seems that you both enjoy each other's company, he'll likely take it in a positive way. As cloudsurf said, not taking care of your oral hygiene can potentially lead to other, more serious, health issues. It's a win-win for all involved. Peace.

 

[chowzilla]

honesty, as long as you lay it down easy. roaming the world without knowing is worse

 

[rosedelacourt]

It went super well! Thank you for the advice people xx

 

[CydoniaNights]

Question to clients here as I'm curious what you guys think. Let's say you have really bad oral hygiene (say lots of tartar and gingivitis), would you want the provider to tell you? Would you be offended if they did tell you, out of care and out of wanting to see you again? This is kind of a deal breaker for me, but I really like the person.

Im probably in the minority but I would like to know if a provider doesn’t like x thing about my hygiene. I try to be my best self on dates and if I failed to do that I would like to know to correct it in the future. Also makes compliments feel alot more genuine if that same person is also willing to criticize you. You come off alot more trustworthy that way.

 

[punky9999]

I echo what many have said on this thread: I would want to know if there is something about me that is making the date unsatisfactory so I can fix it. I want to be the best client I can be in all aspects.

 

[rosedelacourt]

Honestly, I'm all for giving true compliments and also communicate my needs and wants. I feel it's the best way to create something genuine and on-going. If I hadn't clicked with the person, maybe I would've kept my mouth shut. At the same time, if one receives constructive criticism gracefully and is able to make the change, then everyone wins

 

[Batista Mason]

I am late to join the discussion but I just wanted to share I would like the SP to tell me about it. Of course, politely. For me, it is important that both side are enjoying our time together. The moment I see my partner not pleased about something, it kill my excitement.

Speaking of this... any recommendation of a dentist in downtown? I been seeing Dr. Jean Monat but the last time I saw him, something went wrong with the dental filling. I had to endure pain during the 2 first months of the pandemic because of dental clinics were closed. There 2 clinics in Complexe Desjardin that seem reliable but I would like to hear suggestions.

 

[Doggyluver]

It went super well! Thank you for the advice people xx

I read this thread with interest since this is something we all face in our regular lives. I have worked with people who have terrible dental hygiene and in an effort to bring it to their attention have bought them toothbrushes, mouthwash, toothpaste and floss without any change in their hygiene. Some people are simply oblivious to their apparent problem. I would advise that you move on, even if everything else was great can you get past the bad oral hygiene ?