Perils of this hobby

[lanceloveright]

Been hobbying for a while since I had to outsource my sex life due non performance of my inhouse provider. Is great fun but I always feel too much pressure regarding time management. Multi hour appointments are out of my fun budget.

Then I met X. (From an agency) First ever conversation was awesome and I almost did not leave enough time for the deed. Saw her several times then mentioned that a fantasy of mine would be to travel with her. She gave me her contacts and gave me the green light to contact her directly. First date arranged privately was excellent. Then she said she'd be up for dinner out or whatever. Since then I have had fantastic "dates" with no time pressure. Thing is, I am starting to think about her too much. My brain knows the deal, and I would never get weird, but damn, she's on my mind! Should I run away or enjoy it while it lasts?

The other thing is that if my inhouse provider ever came back on line, I think my MO has changed. Years ago I pulled her hair in doggy and she said "Where did that come from?"

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I don't know what to tell you man but don't pull someone's hair without asking, it can be really upsetting.

 

[Julia Sky]

my inhouse provider.

Wow I can see why she won't sleep with you if those are the words you choose to refer to her as... and if you pull her hair without asking for her consent first lol

 

[LC18]

my inhouse provider

What in the Handmaid’s Tale?

 

[Flyingby]

Is this just another
“help! I’ve fallen in love with an SP story”
Seems like it

 

[Jordd]

Been hobbying for a while since I had to outsource my sex life due non performance of my inhouse provider. Is great fun but I always feel too much pressure regarding time management. Multi hour appointments are out of my fun budget.

Then I met X. (From an agency) First ever conversation was awesome and I almost did not leave enough time for the deed. Saw her several times then mentioned that a fantasy of mine would be to travel with her. She gave me her contacts and gave me the green light to contact her directly. First date arranged privately was excellent. Then she said she'd be up for dinner out or whatever. Since then I have had fantastic "dates" with no time pressure. Thing is, I am starting to think about her too much. My brain knows the deal, and I would never get weird, but damn, she's on my mind! Should I run away or enjoy it while it lasts?

The other thing is that if my inhouse provider ever came back on line, I think my MO has changed. Years ago I pulled her hair in doggy and she said "Where did that come from?"

Enjoy it while it lasts

 

[tockson]

Been hobbying for a while since I had to outsource my sex life due non performance of my inhouse provider. Is great fun but I always feel too much pressure regarding time management. Multi hour appointments are out of my fun budget.

Then I met X. (From an agency) First ever conversation was awesome and I almost did not leave enough time for the deed. Saw her several times then mentioned that a fantasy of mine would be to travel with her. She gave me her contacts and gave me the green light to contact her directly. First date arranged privately was excellent. Then she said she'd be up for dinner out or whatever. Since then I have had fantastic "dates" with no time pressure. Thing is, I am starting to think about her too much. My brain knows the deal, and I would never get weird, but damn, she's on my mind! Should I run away or enjoy it while it lasts?

The other thing is that if my inhouse provider ever came back on line, I think my MO has changed. Years ago I pulled her hair in doggy and she said "Where did that come from?"

you need to decide something here. Focus on your House/life , or having fun no matter what....

Now that is said, People meet other people everywhere, Even SP and client can "match"... Is it a good Thing, No , But if you both of you are clear about it, card on the table about expectation, then there is no problem at all .... Communication is always GOLDEN

 

[Jordd]

To be in a similar situation, i would say, you need to decide something here. Focus on your House/life , or having fun no matter what....

DISAGREE - other option would be to compartmentalize

Now that is said, People meet other people everywhere, Even SP and client can "match"... Is it a good Thing, No , But if you both of you are clear about it, card on the table about expectation, then there is no problem at all .... Communication is always GOLDEN

Yesss

 

[cpp433]

You better hope it lasts, because if the agency knows who you are by handle you are openly admitting you are seeing their girls outside of them, you are finished with that agency

 

[tockson]

You better hope it lasts, because if the agency knows who you are by handle you are openly admitting you are seeing their girls outside of them, you are finished with that agency

Well, if there is No money involved between them outside of the "booking" there shouldnt any problem

 

[Anna Bijou]

Does she know the travel part was a fantasy that wasn't going to change from fantasy to reality? Because if not, that's what is commonly referred to as carrot dangling. Just saying.

That's something every independent learns, (often the hard way) and it takes a while to get good at catching it early. And even then, there are always especially good con artists who can manage to surprise the best of us.

So I don't know the situation but girls who work for agencies probably aren't really used to thinking about that. If you talked about travel, and didn't make it clear it wasn't something you were actually interested in, it's quite possible she thinks that's where it's headed.

Carrot dangling is not cool. Please make sure you're clear about your intentions and your budget limits. xo

(Edit: aaah i wish emojis worked. I had a cute little carrot when i was typing but it doesn't show here. Booo.)

 

[themonk83]

About the travelling. OP will have to be clear on that. Is it carrot dangling? Or is he expecting that he won't have to compensate for it? Either way, not very cool

 

[Fradi]

You better hope it lasts, because if the agency knows who you are by handle you are openly admitting you are seeing their girls outside of them, you are finished with that agency

I wouldn’t worry about the agency there are plenty of fish in the sea and agencies.
They are nothing more than more polite pimps, I would not hesitate to see any lady outside the agency if that is what she wants and if it lets her keep all of the money. I care as much about agencies as they do about me lol.