Ashley Madison

Personal Email and Number? Or get single use version?

kvvvvvvk

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Hey MERB community,

I'm new here, just trying to figure out how this all works.

I'm wondering if people usually just use their regular email and phone numbers for this type of stuff, or is it worth it to get additional emails and phone numbers?

I'm not attempting to keep this secret from my significant other (she actually is interested in knowing how it goes), mainly I'm trying to ensure it doesn't reach wider friends and family, or impact career related stuff.

Just trying to get a sense of what level of private most people attempt to operate under.

Also, what mode of communication is best to use in your experience? Phone, SMS, Email?

Thanks
 

neverbored

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It depends... I use a seperate email. For phone, you can try to use an app... but be warned most providers and agencies will simply ignore them as they can detect bulk numbers used by such apps (ex: fongo, burnerapp etc...). So if you try to use one, you'll know why you're ignored.

My smartphone supports both sim and secondary esim (which I use for travel and hobby and can be activated for short term usage). But if you have an older phone, you can activate it with a cheap Koodo or Canadian tire pay as you go phone/data plan. Keep in mind, if you do have an iPhone, you may want to double check what email is being broadcasted as your iCloud ID (you can change that in the settings).

Some "higher end" providers do request to validate your real info via linkedin or even employer.... I would never.

Considering that its actually illegal for Johns, I refrain from using anything that is linked to my real info... but that's me.

As for prefered communications, that will depend on the provider - most prefer only text, others will accept emails / calls...

Have fun.
 

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It depends... I use a seperate email. For phone, you can try to use an app... but be warned most providers and agencies will simply ignore them as they can detect bulk numbers used by such apps (ex: fongo, burnerapp etc...). So if you try to use one, you'll know why you're ignored.

My smartphone supports both sim and secondary esim (which I use for travel and hobby and can be activated for short term usage). But if you have an older phone, you can activate it with a cheap Koodo or Canadian tire pay as you go phone/data plan. Keep in mind, if you do have an iPhone, you may want to double check what email is being broadcasted as your iCloud ID (you can change that in the settings).

Some "higher end" providers do request to validate your real info via linkedin or even employer.... I would never.

Considering that its actually illegal for Johns, I refrain from using anything that is linked to my real info... but that's me.

As for prefered communications, that will depend on the provider - most prefer only text, others will accept emails / calls...

Have fun.
Thanks for the in-depth answer. Very useful info.
 

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I’m new to the hobby. I use my only phone to text the agency. Any potential troubles I could get into?
No. You are purchasing time and companionship, which is legal. And the Montreal police long ago announced they are not enforcing c-36 against consenting adults.

There is really no history of any form of extortion by reviewed providers or agencies in North America, which includes the U.S. It is something you see on badly written crime dramas on TV for the 8 pm time slot. The only reported extortion I ever read on merb was from a Sugar Baby.

The reason that most providers worldwide ignore anonymous numbers is that they perceive a safety issue might be involved (for them).
 

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I’m new to the hobby. I use my only phone to text the agency. Any potential troubles I could get into?

Not really. The way I see it... its not a problem until it becomes one.

I used to use an older number, which was listed on the net for a company I was working for. An indy I was seeing had managed to find my full info and I saw her face in my Facebook suggestions and even on linkedin.
She had become a little too clingy, and when I decided to stop seeing her, she tried threatning me to reach out to friends and family - which would have just made things uncomfortable as at the time, being single, nobody cared who I was seeing. But there are other cases where some girls can literally go bat-shit crazy.

At the end of the day, ask yourself what would the impact of the world knowing you met with an escort be. Then decide for yourself.
 

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The reason that most providers worldwide ignore anonymous numbers is that they perceive a safety issue might be involved (for them).

Also, to filter our the weirdos and time wasters... and they do get a LOT of those.
 

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I use a separate phone and email for hobbying. No interest in having my personal and hobbying world colliding.