Just sharing ...
As a hobbyist one goes through different stages. I doubt it's the same progression for everyone and I don't think one stage is better or worse than the other ... but in my experience, they are just different!
It was 5+ years ago that I started hobbying in Montreal and started engaging in multi-hour dates. Suffice it to say that I was quite green at the time as far as hobbying goes. Going from 1-hour dates to multi-hour dates was definitely different!
Having just celebrated a milestone b'day (still young), I am now at a stage where I'd like to invest in creating "rocking chair" memories. Projecting several decades out into the future, I see myself on a rocking chair on some exotic beachy island (yes, I am dreaming), reminiscing about the "good old days". I'd like to invest in creating a few fabulous memories that will put a smile on my face in a time where Junior is, perhaps, not as cooperative(?)
Now, there is always the temptation of a quick fix to relieve the valve pressure. Sometimes, those impromptu dates coupled with low expectations can be pretty darn terrific! More often than not, however, I have found them to be sub-par. For moi, anyway, if all I need is to relieve the valve pressure, there's always great porn!
I think if you truly want to get acquainted with someone, you need to invest in a 2-3 hour date upfront. The fact that it's a multi-hour date relaxes the girl and she doesn't feel like she needs to switch positions every few seconds like a circus acrobat. It also gives one the chance to connect on a mental level, assuming there is chemistry, and to build towards more fulfilling encounters in the future.
If "novelty" is your thing and you want to claim you've bagged a zillion dates, then my current approach is not for you. For some, a zillion dates may just be the "rocking chair" memories they want to create. However, if you enjoy building a "relationship" of sorts with a few you really connect with, and actively seek a deeper union, my current approach may agree with you.
To be clear, I am not advocating one vs. the other - they both have plusses and minuses. I am, however, just sharing where I am at (mentally) after my 5+ years of hobbying in Montreal ... at a stage of creating "rocking chair" memories.
As a hobbyist one goes through different stages. I doubt it's the same progression for everyone and I don't think one stage is better or worse than the other ... but in my experience, they are just different!
It was 5+ years ago that I started hobbying in Montreal and started engaging in multi-hour dates. Suffice it to say that I was quite green at the time as far as hobbying goes. Going from 1-hour dates to multi-hour dates was definitely different!
Having just celebrated a milestone b'day (still young), I am now at a stage where I'd like to invest in creating "rocking chair" memories. Projecting several decades out into the future, I see myself on a rocking chair on some exotic beachy island (yes, I am dreaming), reminiscing about the "good old days". I'd like to invest in creating a few fabulous memories that will put a smile on my face in a time where Junior is, perhaps, not as cooperative(?)
Now, there is always the temptation of a quick fix to relieve the valve pressure. Sometimes, those impromptu dates coupled with low expectations can be pretty darn terrific! More often than not, however, I have found them to be sub-par. For moi, anyway, if all I need is to relieve the valve pressure, there's always great porn!
I think if you truly want to get acquainted with someone, you need to invest in a 2-3 hour date upfront. The fact that it's a multi-hour date relaxes the girl and she doesn't feel like she needs to switch positions every few seconds like a circus acrobat. It also gives one the chance to connect on a mental level, assuming there is chemistry, and to build towards more fulfilling encounters in the future.
If "novelty" is your thing and you want to claim you've bagged a zillion dates, then my current approach is not for you. For some, a zillion dates may just be the "rocking chair" memories they want to create. However, if you enjoy building a "relationship" of sorts with a few you really connect with, and actively seek a deeper union, my current approach may agree with you.
To be clear, I am not advocating one vs. the other - they both have plusses and minuses. I am, however, just sharing where I am at (mentally) after my 5+ years of hobbying in Montreal ... at a stage of creating "rocking chair" memories.