Advise needed - I met a sp couple of times in recent past. Since then I also happen to see her in a social setting for last couple of weeks. It was not planned but our paths crossed. Both of us have discretely acknowledged each other. My question is it advisable to have a rendezvous with her now as I am sure we will continue to see each other socially for some time.
Should I see a sp who I see in a social setting
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LOL. It happens that I used to know a girl who used to be a SP... however, she never mentioned it to me, but I knew she was. I always wanted to fuck her. I had chances to show up at her incall place, but it would be akwards..either she would have been surprised or she would have told me "why you didn"t tell me to do it outside the agency" LOL.
Hagubaba,
Continue seeing her ONLY if you think you can handle seeing her solely as a client and not expecting anything more. I have run into SP's at restaurants, night clubs, strip clubs and hotels and all I do is a slight nod of acknowledgement or if they should approach me first then I just give a quick cheek kiss and I go about my business. By constantly being in a social surrounding where you will often see one another, it's best for both of you to just keep a comfortable distance and not try to be "friends" as can possibly happen if these settings are continuous in nature.
IMHO, the main point of SP-Client meetings is discretion and what happens behind closed doors should remain behind closed doors. In most cases if not all, she may not even want anyone to know what she does and by becoming overtly friendly it can compromise her personal and private life. Situations such as these are never easy but there is a fine line that should not be crossed. I hope this helps you out.
Continue seeing her ONLY if you think you can handle seeing her solely as a client and not expecting anything more. I have run into SP's at restaurants, night clubs, strip clubs and hotels and all I do is a slight nod of acknowledgement or if they should approach me first then I just give a quick cheek kiss and I go about my business. By constantly being in a social surrounding where you will often see one another, it's best for both of you to just keep a comfortable distance and not try to be "friends" as can possibly happen if these settings are continuous in nature.
IMHO, the main point of SP-Client meetings is discretion and what happens behind closed doors should remain behind closed doors. In most cases if not all, she may not even want anyone to know what she does and by becoming overtly friendly it can compromise her personal and private life. Situations such as these are never easy but there is a fine line that should not be crossed. I hope this helps you out.
One or the other, not both.
The only exception is when client and SP are really into each other. The fact that you are asking, sounds like it's not mutual between you too otherwise it would be more obvious. Does she ever contact you just to say what's up? If not, don't give yourself the illusion that the more you hangout with her that she'll fall for you. That doesn't happen unless you both mutually seek out each other's company.
I've been in relationships with SPs couple times before and it's a lot more obvious when you mutually like one another.
She would call me or text me on her own just to tell me stuff
She would ask me to stay over night
She would bring me gifts meaning she thought of me outside of our time
She would initiate social meetings
In the end it should feel natural.
Don't hurt yourself be careful
The only exception is when client and SP are really into each other. The fact that you are asking, sounds like it's not mutual between you too otherwise it would be more obvious. Does she ever contact you just to say what's up? If not, don't give yourself the illusion that the more you hangout with her that she'll fall for you. That doesn't happen unless you both mutually seek out each other's company.
I've been in relationships with SPs couple times before and it's a lot more obvious when you mutually like one another.
She would call me or text me on her own just to tell me stuff
She would ask me to stay over night
She would bring me gifts meaning she thought of me outside of our time
She would initiate social meetings
In the end it should feel natural.
Don't hurt yourself be careful
I think she should have a say in this as well. Just saying. Just because we are escorts doesn't mean we see everyone that contacts us. If i know you outside this world i wouldn't see you in it.
Remember if you were a client and now you are a BF she would lose you as a client, I have been there and it can go bad. At the beginning its all fun and games but in the end if you get attached and she gets feeling for you then you need to make a decision if you want her for a long term relationship. If you get her out of the bis you better be able to cash out on her needs, she is making a shit load of money SP so you better be loaded and treat her like a princess. Good luck, my advise is keep it like a transaction and don't get attached, if you see you are getting attached cut the rope and move on to another sp. Your heart needs to be like a stone so you don't get hurt and that only comes with experience.
Cheers DJ
Cheers DJ
I'm seconding Emma Alexandra and Lily.
But a question: Why don't you ask her directly what she does prefer? Maybe the solution resides in her answer. :nod:
But a question: Why don't you ask her directly what she does prefer? Maybe the solution resides in her answer. :nod:
Bingo! Maria says it all
Its funny cause im in the same kind of situation lol and the lady in question prefers not seeing me in a sp/client context because we're friend and it could be weird so i respect that...
If your friend is confortable with it and you are too, be sure to put some bundaries first and be clear about it and just surf the wave, im sure it can add a little something to your rdv that regular sp/client rdv normally are.
See it as friends with benefits situation. Did that once with a girl from seeking arrangement and it was really really nice and worked well for a while.
Just ask her
Ok, I think several of you have it wrong.
I gather that Hagubaba is the repeat client of an escort. By coincidence he has run into this escort outside of the client-SP arrangement. Maybe they have mutual friends or hang out in the same club or are in an exercise class together?
Now Hugababa would still like to hire her services. Will this make it odd that they are seeing each other as client-SP and they also have the same cycling class together or are in the same rowing club or volunteer at a soup kitchen together or something like this (I assume that is what socially means?)
If that is the case why not? You shut your mouth and she should shut hers. I think that if she is an SP and works a modest 2-3 days a week she is seeing say 5-9 men a week or 20-36 men/month. So you are no big deal. And as long as you are not a braggart and can bite your tongue every time you want to tell your buddy's that are drooling over her that she is an escort and you have "hit that" several times...I think you are OK.
Either way Maria's answer is best.
If he wants to see her, approach her discreetly. The worst is if he meets her again and she doesn't realize it's the past hobbyist that's she's met in social situations b4. Let her decide what she's comfortable with. No go - better to know now than at the door. If both are in - win-win (well mostly he'd be the one in, but they both win :lol
.Still, I wonder what the "Social Setting" is? I think this is relevant and changes things. For example, are you running into her in a bar that you both coincidentally choose to frequent? I think that this social setting can be managed. However, what if you both were both asked to be Godparents for a christening of the first born of a couple you both coincidentally know? This may be a little different? Imagine, you both show up at church - you with your wife and family and her with her boyfriend. You are inside church hoping that you are not burned by the holy water. Hoping that God does not decide to cave the roof in on the both of you during the middle of the ceremony. They have a service and it is your turn to go into the confessional. You see the SP is right behind you. What do you do? "Ehhh Padre, the girl I'm seeing is next..." you quickly think of something else....a minor sin that is believable but not quite as embarrassing... It has been several months since my last confession and I worshiped a false idol [the SP's ass]....
There are social settings that are a little more difficult to bear than other social settings.
There are social settings that are a little more difficult to bear than other social settings.
Oh, just a precision:
When I said ask her directly, that was NOT during your accidental common social setting.
Maybe during your next encounter?*
*I assume here that this woman is working in agency and that you are not able to contact her at all, and that's why you came here to ask your question.
If she is Indy, just write to her then.
When I said ask her directly, that was NOT during your accidental common social setting.
Maybe during your next encounter?*
*I assume here that this woman is working in agency and that you are not able to contact her at all, and that's why you came here to ask your question.
If she is Indy, just write to her then.
You got it! That's exactly is the scenario - I see her in my gym. I like the advise from the group of asking her first before setting a rdv. That's what I will do.
Hagubaba, you can get hints at how she feels before you make any moves. Does she acknowledge you by a nod, does she even say "Hello", or does she completely ignore you? That should give you an idea on how comfortable she is with the situation and how delicate you should be when raising the subject.
That reminds me of an escort I was seeing about 10 years ago. A stunning and very bright girl, doing her phD in a field related to International Studies. About 3 years later, I met her in a very senior meeting with very senior officials of the government, where she was now working! She was more beautiful than ever! I felt a quite awkward when I realized she recognized me, but she greeted me like an old friend, kiss on the cheek, asking me how I'd been. Wow! Beautiful and smart! Powerful cocktail! Made me melt! Unfortunately, I never saw her again and she does not escort anymore.... shit!
That reminds me of an escort I was seeing about 10 years ago. A stunning and very bright girl, doing her phD in a field related to International Studies. About 3 years later, I met her in a very senior meeting with very senior officials of the government, where she was now working! She was more beautiful than ever! I felt a quite awkward when I realized she recognized me, but she greeted me like an old friend, kiss on the cheek, asking me how I'd been. Wow! Beautiful and smart! Powerful cocktail! Made me melt! Unfortunately, I never saw her again and she does not escort anymore.... shit!
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