SP who know what they need to have fun, and tell you!

[metoo4]

Hi guys and gals

Reading a recent review of Annabelle of SD/Montreal's secret, it reminded me of something:

After seeing a few SP in the last while, I only met 1 who could tell me how she liked to be touched by men. In years of SC, only met 1 dancer who could do so.
True, these ladies are seeing us for our pleasure and the money we give them but, no matter what, I can't resolve myself to consider them as a commodity only there to please me so, I like to do whatever possible to make her enjoy our meeting.
Of course, they often see multiple guys in a short time frame and can't orgasm every time (for most) but, I feel I still need to make her feel good.
That lady who could communicate turned a cold start (shy girl) into a real firework. No need for fireworks everytime but knowing the lady is somewhat enjoying herself is good, without the fake moans as soon as you get within 2 feets of her!

So guys, generally, do you prefer to have a lady who can guide you towards her "buttons" or you prefer to have your fun and don't care. Do you prefer the chase and learn the "buttons" yourself? Do you get turn-off when a lady tell you what to do to please her?

Personally, I'm a firm believer in giving first, trusting my turn will come if I please the lady. I love being told what she likes and don't hesitate telling her what I like but when asked, some ladies say "your doing good, keep going" but what you read in their attitude is "whatever, (yawn) are we done?" I know some of what I'm doing is good but no 2 ladies are alike so, a bit of guidance is good!

 

[korbel]

Good Poll

Hello Metoo4,

Now here is a poll I think will have some benefit for both clients and SPs. I have always felt it was important for the SPs to give their input during an encounter and try to enjoy themselves as much as they can even if they see multiple clients in the same night. I have always enjoyed it most when a lady has fun too and I always ask what she likes. I hope this poll will prove to the ladies how important it is for each party to share what they like and understand that even though the client is paying, we want them participate and be equally satisfied with the encounter. For me, the first move is to give to them. Happily, I enjoy that almost as much as anything else in any case. So ladies take notice and let's have more fun...TOGETHER!

Luv ya,

Korbel

 

[CoolAmadeus]

I guess it all depends what the typical client is looking for in his date with a girl. Some are looking for their own pleasure and physical release only, while others are trying to please the woman as much as possible until she falls in love, with a whole spectrum in between.

It all ties in with the YMMV acronym. How can one expect a GFE experience if he's not a BFE to the gal? Why do some guys get way more than others? Because they care about the girl's pleasure too!

This is a no brainer to me: Yes, please tell me what you like... PLEASE!

CA

 

[CoolAmadeus]

... we want them participate and be equally satisfied with the encounter. For me, the first move is to give to them. Happily, I enjoy that almost as much as anything else in any case. So ladies take notice and let's have more fun...TOGETHER!

Wholeheartedly agree!

 

[General Gonad]

No faking...let me know!

I prefer to know if I am doing something wrong. I have had women who enjoy more intense DATY and others that couldn't take it. But if they remain quiet or pretend they're enjoying it, how will I know? I want them to enjoy the session too and I like it when they're honest about sexual preferences.

Mercedez of XXXtase corrected my kissing. She likes it a certain way so far from freaking out, I obliged.

GG

 

[Love big tits]

I had one of the most incredible experience with on SP some times ago, I have seen her a couple of time, and we get along great. The cuddling and kissing is out of this world.
Last time, I think she had one of the greatest orgasm in a long time and for the first time it basically filled my own sexual need too, without getting any orgasm myself. I didn't feel short changed at all, I actually was in total ecstasy myself.

Some will say of course that i got had big time, but to each is own.

So you know were I stand, I like to please

As far as giving hints, I am not sure most girls SP, or nonSP, really want to give advice or know what advice to give. Yes I would like them to provide some guidance, but do they really know? When you pleasure yourself could you explain it to someone else?

It is easy to tell someone yes I like this or that as they are doing it but thinking it, and putting it into worlds, during the intercourse requires too much of a brain activity for me (my other brain lower down is hard at work)

I have found also that if you let the other go at it in their own way, you will discover knew excitement that you never thought of. That is were chemistry will work its magic, if you are both in tune it will be great.

One last little comment, do you usually find that the other will touch you the way they like to be touched? I mean if for example she touches you with some pressure while caressing you, she will not like to be touched lightly. I am not sure if you will all agree there but if you study the body language and movement you can pretty much know what she will like, more driven sex or more languorous, more touching or more kissing.

In the end what you like is what you will seek, being told could make you a better all around lover but you are already great to the ones were the chemistry worked.

 

[General Gonad]

Last time, I think she had one of the greatest orgasm in a long time and for the first time it basically filled my own sexual need too, without getting any orgasm myself. I didn't feel short changed at all, I actually was in total ecstasy myself.

Nothing is more pleasurable than bringing a lady to a genuine orgasm. The problem is that it's rare even though it seems like they're always enjoying it.

GG

 

[metoo4]

Almost 24 hours past the start of the poll and we see that over 88% of guys like to know what the ladies like, 3.85% don't mind the lady saying what they like but won't do much about it and, to my surprise, 7.69% don't even want to ear about the ladies' needs. Are these 7.69% real or just peoples joking? It seems nobody is totally indifferent.

Ladies, are these results somewhat in line with what you experience? Do most clients really care about what you like or are guys answering the poll only projecting how they would like to be? Can you try to voice your preference a bit more, either with words or actions? Left-right, up-down, softer-harder, or plain grab head/hand and guide us!

 

[Miss Maria]

insulting

I enjoy going into a room and feeling the chemistry that builds between two people. The fact of sharing an intimate moment with someone in this industry is already a big turn on for me and though it might sound a little bit sick, it will remain a turn on as long as I am in it. I do this for my own personal pleasure. Of course the money is great, but if I truely did not enjoy this, I would do something else.

Now to the specifics. You guys are writing really nice stuff and I have to admit that most times men say they would like to hear what pleases the lady. (The keyword there was "SAY") If what the man is doing to me feels uncomfortable, I always tell him. If he asks me directly how I enjoy things being done, I will tell him also. But guess what, They don't always listen and actually often feel quite insulted when stopped in the middle of their action. Some only see their immediate pleasure and like the idea of the woman being pleased also but won't really listen to how she likes to be pleased.

"ouch! could you please do this this way, look I will show you"
"sure, no problem"

Then goes back to doing the same thing all over again.

Men want to believe they are the best, and sometimes they believe they know how to please the woman better then the woman. I have been asked to have orgasms many times and it always kind of frustrates me.

"I want you to cum!"
"Well babe, There isn't a button I can press for that but if you want a chance at it, there are certain things you could do..."
"Well I am the one paying so I do what I want"

An orgasm is not something I can order and it comes from much more then experienced and skillful tongue techniques. I always feel that men believe DATY is THE way to make a woman cum and I think that is really sad. DAty is a fun little thing, yes, but not the only thing to please a woman. If it is not done correctly (And that varies enormously between women), it can be quite painful. I can speak for my experience only, but I have often been scared to have men go down on me because I am in such a position of vulnerability and SOOO often what the man does is completely uncomfortable. I blame that on porn. I am generalising here, but alot of men have been 'taught' by porn and know nothing else. licking and sucking and pulling and thrusting. Be gentle with vaginas, listen to how it responds, don't impose anything at first, tease it, and play. Women will guide you with their bodies.

Some men are very good learners and deserve a star sticker. I have taught a couple how to please me exactly and we are always in for a wonderful ride. I actually crave seeing them.

But some men are in such a rush to please and don't understand that a woman can have great pleasure without necessarily having an orgasm. I am sure some women in this industry feel they shouldn't be pleased because they might feel ashamed of what they are doing. Women sexuality is still evolving and it isn't everyone that sees it equal to men's sexuality yet. A woman with the same sexual appatite as a man is considerred raunchy or a nympho, and one who has less of an appetite is considerred a prude.

Sexuality should be open and all partners should be active with wanting to please each other and be willing to let down egos and listen to each other. Lastly, Sexuality should be calebrated.

 

[metoo4]

Thanks Maria. That's the kind of feedback we need from you ladies.

Being told how and still do it wrong is not reserved for men, my wife is like that too! 20-30 seconds and it's back the same old way!

 

[metoo4]

Tex: I find it a bit harsh but, as long as it's stay respectful and the ladies are ok with it, it's all fine! Of course, if they're not ok with it, you just don't repeat and all is good!

 

[korbel]

Who's serving whom?

Almost 24 hours past the start of the poll and we see that over 88% of guys like to know what the ladies like, 3.85% don't mind the lady saying what they like but won't do much about it and, to my surprise, 7.69% don't even want to ear about the ladies' needs. Are these 7.69% real or just peoples joking? It seems nobody is totally indifferent.

Hello Metoo4,

LOL...well...who is serving whom...huh. It looks like the ladies are getting the best of both worlds. They get some giving-kind of pleasure from the guys...and a little pocket money to boot. If I wasn't fully aware of the down side of this business I would say it's a hell of a racket.

My goodness,

Korbel

 

[z/m(Ret)]

Sexuality should be open and all partners should be active with wanting to please each other and be willing to let down egos and listen to each other. Lastly, Sexuality should be calebrated.

All right young lady, you've celebrated enough as it is for today. Now go finish packing that suitcase! p.s. Damn! I should have taken that 3:30 PM appointment...

 

[metoo4]

Kobel: Mmm... I wonder if ladies are so interested in what men want when these ladies are with male SP? If so, where do I sign?

And women are bitching about men who don't want to talk. All that time, it's them who insist in talking about stuff we don't care and refuse to talk about what we want them to talk about.

 

[naughtylady]

I cannot say it any better than Maria. Very well put.

Very interesting poll. I will definately continue to follow this thread.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[korbel]

Yep.

Now to the specifics. You guys are writing really nice stuff and I have to admit that most times men say they would like to hear what pleases the lady. (The keyword there was "SAY") If what the man is doing to me feels uncomfortable, I always tell him. If he asks me directly how I enjoy things being done, I will tell him also. But guess what, They don't always listen and actually often feel quite insulted when stopped in the middle of their action. Some only see their immediate pleasure and like the idea of the woman being pleased also but won't really listen to how she likes to be pleased.

"ouch! could you please do this this way, look I will show you"
"sure, no problem"

Then goes back to doing the same thing all over again.

Hello Miss Maria,

You have it pegged. I think most men truly want to be in sync with their partner and share the grand experience together. The trouble is that when the blood has abandoned the brain and the ecstacy in his loins has replaced mutual consideration with his savage animalistic selfishness he forgets about the person he is with and becomes only a greedy taker after a certain point...even with a woman he really loves. I also have met some women like that.

But Maria, you must keep in mind that while we clients are professing all our good feelings here, and trying to make our encounters better by saying how so many of us would like to share our passions and sensitivities more with the lady, we are still clients not boyfriends, true lovers, or any kind of genuine loyal monogamous significant others. I am not sure if you mean to sound like you are going into areas like these, but lets not forget we are talking about the "hobby"...not a quest for the perfect lifemate. We want to make the hobby better, but lets none of us confuse the warm feelings in this thread with the kind of truly deep attachment that would only complicate matters and lead us all into realms that have no business being in a business relationship. Lets keep the warmth here glowing ...but REAL too.

Just a reality reminder for all,

Korbel

 

[General Gonad]

Screw your ego!!!

Egos, shmegos! Maria said it the best here but Dee is also right - most paying ladies want you to be done with it and move on to the next guy. They're there to get paid, not to get laid.

Having said this, with any woman, you should let it flow. If you're doing something wrong, you can sense it. You often do not need to ask. If I am doing something and I see her getting excited, then I focus on that spot. Conversely, if I see her uncomfortable, I will slow down or stop altogether and just ask if there is a problem.

Guys like to think because we watch porn, we know how to please a lady.

GG

 

[korbel]

Egos, shmegos! Maria said it the best here but Dee is also right - most paying ladies want you to be done with it and move on to the next guy. They're there to get paid, not to get laid.

Having said this, with any woman, you should let it flow. If you're doing something wrong, you can sense it. You often do not need to ask. If I am doing something and I see her getting excited, then I focus on that spot. Conversely, if I see her uncomfortable, I will slow down or stop altogether and just ask if there is a problem.

Guys like to think because we watch porn, we know how to please a lady.

GG

Hello general,

Well, I think many of us will be glad to see you know how it really is even though you profess so often to be dying for that special intimate connection.

As for the ladies...those ladies Dee refers to who just want to get it over with and move on to the next guy should put MOL (Interested In Money Only) next to their name. That way we can cut through all the bullshit and treat each other like commodities...one money wh.r.e...and one ATM machine. If that's the way some want it they should say so, get their slam bam...if that's not to much to ask, collect the money, and don't let the door hit them on the way out. It's no big deal really. I just want to know who to avoid. That's the cold essence of the hobby anyway, but I do prefer to be a little more "human" about meeting a lady. So money ladies, to avoid any unnecessary complications please use the MOL (Money Only Ladies) next to your name and you can be matched to all the cold-hearted clients you want without the human feelings you find so tedious. As for me I say...have a nice life.

MOs need not apply,

Korbel

 

[Love big tits]

We are all paying for something.

The difference is, that "something" means anything from: Give me a good f**k and make me come as many time as I can in the same hour to:
I want to feel like our world fused together for that one precious moment we were together and pleasing each other to ecstasy.

The

cum on and get it over

type of SP would perfectly fit at one end of this continuum.

Maria you would probably fit closer to the other end of the spectrum.

But coming back to do SP need to tell you, like I said before yes in some cases why not but in most cases feel and listen and adjust or better yet find the ones that best suit your style of loving.

I have been really lucky so far my style seems to suit a lot of them, I will start my "Drive SP crazy 101" class pretty soon

 

[General Gonad]

The love and respect just exudes from that meaninful relationship of yours. That was winner.

You know what? You were pouncing on me all night but you're right, that wasn't really fair on my part. I shouldn't joke around about her on Merb.

GG

P.S. I got a sore spot for you babe!