For those of you who have a Sp you see the majority of the time has there come to a day when it gets too routine? I think this will be the summer of new faces.
Time to switch your go to SP ?
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I saw my ATF over fifty times, I absolutely loved that girl, still do to this day, when I was seeing her I was seeing her and nobody else, the sex was full GFE all of the fifty times that I saw her as she was a real animal in the sack but it became to be monotonous towards the end were she didn't turn me on anymore even though the sex was always great, she eventually retired and I eventually started seeing other girls, today I hardly ever repeat because there is so much talent out there, I could never repeat more than a few times with a girl as I would get bored, I need someone new all of the time now.
I don't need to worry about switching my go to girls as they always end up retiring before it ever gets to that point! 
I hobby only once every 3-4 months, so I usually see a new SP each time. Mostly because it's in a different city.
L
Lily from Montreal
I am curious? How do you proceed? Do you tell her or just stop writing or calling for those who use phone to communicate?
I assume that a ATF for a guy is the equivalent of my favorites,that implies that we've developed a friendship and communicate not only to book but also to keep each others posted about significant events in our lives...
So? Do you go incommunicado and she will get the message (hopefully) and the relation as it is die?
For me I think a red flag would be if my favorites suddenly start canceling to the point that months can go without meeting...
Not booking for length of time is normal to my sense as it is hard to juggle the lives and hobby and I could see someone 3 times a year and consider him a regular still but booking and canceling ...I don't know
I assume that a ATF for a guy is the equivalent of my favorites,that implies that we've developed a friendship and communicate not only to book but also to keep each others posted about significant events in our lives...
So? Do you go incommunicado and she will get the message (hopefully) and the relation as it is die?
For me I think a red flag would be if my favorites suddenly start canceling to the point that months can go without meeting...
Not booking for length of time is normal to my sense as it is hard to juggle the lives and hobby and I could see someone 3 times a year and consider him a regular still but booking and canceling ...I don't know
There is one I have been seeing regularly for 3 years and I hope I can continue seeing her for a long time. There is another one I have been seeing quite often in the last 2 years. When I get to be so regular it's because I feel they are a perfect match for me and I'm not the kind of person that gets bored of someone or something I like (I'm also the kind of guy that reads his favorite books over and over again until they fall apart). I kind of like having some ''routine''. Each date with the same person is a usually variation of the previous symphony.
I would like to see them a bit more often or even have more regular friends, but I have a limited budget. If I were to stop seeing a regular for any reason I would let them know. And I hope they would do the same in their case. I wouldn't even need to know the actual reason; just so that I don't worry.
I would like to see them a bit more often or even have more regular friends, but I have a limited budget. If I were to stop seeing a regular for any reason I would let them know. And I hope they would do the same in their case. I wouldn't even need to know the actual reason; just so that I don't worry.
Not that close, just see her the majority of the time when I am in Quebec. Outside of our meetings there is no contact.
I'm fortunate that my 'go to' sp came about in the last quarter of my hobbying career. We had great chemistry. I looked forward to seeing her everytime i travelled to Mtl. It came to a point where i no longer felt like i was seeing an sp. It was like seeing a good friend again....with great benefits. I didn't mind assisting her financially in order for herself to make a decent living.
The last i heard of her, she was totally retired. This was her choice & i respect it, even though i will miss her presence whenever i'll travel to Mtl in the future.
What now keeps me coming to Mtl are my great love for the city & its people, and the wonderful friends that i've made over the years. I may no longer have a favorite sp, but i still have great friends & my live for the city remains.
The last i heard of her, she was totally retired. This was her choice & i respect it, even though i will miss her presence whenever i'll travel to Mtl in the future.
What now keeps me coming to Mtl are my great love for the city & its people, and the wonderful friends that i've made over the years. I may no longer have a favorite sp, but i still have great friends & my live for the city remains.
I am positive that to see someone over a lots of years open the door to another level of exchanges.
I lived it many times. We are buiding a respectful and powerful level of exchanges in a non-judgemental relationship based on pleasures build over the years, and this is very, but very nice. I call it "true connection"
I imagine there is people who are made for this, and other not. I hear that some are just afraid to become to attached also, apart to be bored. Maybe some other are more the "bee kind" who like to visit from a flower to another flower, smell and taste a certain difference, and other who just like to be conservative.
I am still seeing from time to time, someone from my beginning, and that's been 8 years that I am around. Some others from different amount of years.
I have this type of personnality that I adore people, especially men, and those particular friendships are important for me, even if we remain in the limits of an agreement without string.
If you want a couple of examples:
Many years ago, one of my favorites at that time announced me that he was stopping to meet this way, and I was sad, really, I had tears. That was a really great pleasures to meet together and because of the nature of our agreement, I respect it totally, because this kind of encounters are to be all free of any obligations, but I appreciated a lot that he took the time to write to me and talk to me how he took his decision and everything. When you are kind of near with someone, that's really apppreciated to know that we won't be seeing each other anymore. (and I guess that's something normal to happen in the kind of companionship I am offering, not based on "services" but on "experiences")
I have another who work internationnaly and it happened, he was taking charge of another territory, and won't come anymore in Canada. He took the time to write to me to let me know, and wish me well. We were seeing from almost the beginning and I have been his first companion, and even if he had a lots of adventures with others, he kept to meet me each time he went to Montreal.
STN, if you are not happy as much as before when you are meeting someone, that's enough of a good reason to change.
That's strange for me, because from a few months now, there are few gentlemen who come back to me after a couples of years not seeing each others. This happen too. And that's fantastic to see each other after this delay also. Everything is possible.
I lived it many times. We are buiding a respectful and powerful level of exchanges in a non-judgemental relationship based on pleasures build over the years, and this is very, but very nice. I call it "true connection"
I imagine there is people who are made for this, and other not. I hear that some are just afraid to become to attached also, apart to be bored. Maybe some other are more the "bee kind" who like to visit from a flower to another flower, smell and taste a certain difference, and other who just like to be conservative.
I am still seeing from time to time, someone from my beginning, and that's been 8 years that I am around. Some others from different amount of years.
I have this type of personnality that I adore people, especially men, and those particular friendships are important for me, even if we remain in the limits of an agreement without string.
If you want a couple of examples:
Many years ago, one of my favorites at that time announced me that he was stopping to meet this way, and I was sad, really, I had tears. That was a really great pleasures to meet together and because of the nature of our agreement, I respect it totally, because this kind of encounters are to be all free of any obligations, but I appreciated a lot that he took the time to write to me and talk to me how he took his decision and everything. When you are kind of near with someone, that's really apppreciated to know that we won't be seeing each other anymore. (and I guess that's something normal to happen in the kind of companionship I am offering, not based on "services" but on "experiences")
I have another who work internationnaly and it happened, he was taking charge of another territory, and won't come anymore in Canada. He took the time to write to me to let me know, and wish me well. We were seeing from almost the beginning and I have been his first companion, and even if he had a lots of adventures with others, he kept to meet me each time he went to Montreal.
STN, if you are not happy as much as before when you are meeting someone, that's enough of a good reason to change.
That's strange for me, because from a few months now, there are few gentlemen who come back to me after a couples of years not seeing each others. This happen too. And that's fantastic to see each other after this delay also. Everything is possible.
Hello all,
This is why I tried to make sure I did not see any lady too much during trips. I did become somewhat attached to a lady during the hundreds and hundreds of exchanges we had before we had met. During the first trip in which I saw her we spent a lot of three consecutive days together. It all turned out very well, but it was a significant emotional crash to see her walk away after the third day. I was a bit depressed. No matter how great it was the reality that this is still a business above all can be very tough to deal with if you get too attached no matter how much you try to keep everything in perspective. After that I tried to make sure to see others during the trips where I was still seeing my ATF. The lady I did see over nearly 7 years was a fabulous person, and though having a connection with someone like that is the goal in this hobby it's very risky emotionally. I never worried about it being "too routine", but you have to either find a way not to lose touch with reality when you see her, or move on completely.
It's best to always keep it light by weaving in other ladies as you continue to meet her. If you keep seeing a favorite too often you will increase the emotional difficulty and possibly make it very tough on yourself and perhaps her.
Good luck,
Merlot
This is why I tried to make sure I did not see any lady too much during trips. I did become somewhat attached to a lady during the hundreds and hundreds of exchanges we had before we had met. During the first trip in which I saw her we spent a lot of three consecutive days together. It all turned out very well, but it was a significant emotional crash to see her walk away after the third day. I was a bit depressed. No matter how great it was the reality that this is still a business above all can be very tough to deal with if you get too attached no matter how much you try to keep everything in perspective. After that I tried to make sure to see others during the trips where I was still seeing my ATF. The lady I did see over nearly 7 years was a fabulous person, and though having a connection with someone like that is the goal in this hobby it's very risky emotionally. I never worried about it being "too routine", but you have to either find a way not to lose touch with reality when you see her, or move on completely.
It's best to always keep it light by weaving in other ladies as you continue to meet her. If you keep seeing a favorite too often you will increase the emotional difficulty and possibly make it very tough on yourself and perhaps her.
Good luck,
Merlot
Actually very happy with our meetings, will not stop seeing her completely but far less frequent. Time to see new faces.
Hello all
I guess switching is the name of the game in the escort fantasy land
Different size, different hair color, different personality ,whatever makes the deal for a hobbyist ,
I had a favs one once ,she was working for a competitor which the main booker was a close friend and still is .
I was seeing the SP 3 to 4 times a week ,I was even driving her on calls which where not from my agency because she insisted that it would be me ,after month and month you kind of develop a certain proximity emotionally ,she was coming to my house and she became jealous if was talking about other girls ,when you are a escort booker and you have many girls it difficult not to talk girls its your job !
After a year I told I would not see her for a while ,she had a fit !
When it becomes like girlfriend problems isn't time to withdraw ?:lol:
Maybe I was seeing to many girls for her liking !
Sometimes a booker life is complicated !
Cheers
Booker
I guess switching is the name of the game in the escort fantasy land
Different size, different hair color, different personality ,whatever makes the deal for a hobbyist ,
I had a favs one once ,she was working for a competitor which the main booker was a close friend and still is .
I was seeing the SP 3 to 4 times a week ,I was even driving her on calls which where not from my agency because she insisted that it would be me ,after month and month you kind of develop a certain proximity emotionally ,she was coming to my house and she became jealous if was talking about other girls ,when you are a escort booker and you have many girls it difficult not to talk girls its your job !
After a year I told I would not see her for a while ,she had a fit !
When it becomes like girlfriend problems isn't time to withdraw ?:lol:
Maybe I was seeing to many girls for her liking !
Sometimes a booker life is complicated !
Cheers
Booker
It's true that we can become attached to our regulars. I had a client who I saw regularly and we just clicked on so many levels. We would have drinks and meals together in addition to our sessions, and we had a unique intimacy together. He was transferred to Europe for his work and I still miss our time together.
I was happy he told me he was leaving though, if he had simply dropped out of my life without an explanation I would have worried about what happened to him, wondered if I did something wrong, etc. It's the not knowing that drives me crazy.
Even if a regular was simply bored and didn't want to repeat anymore I would prefer to know that instead of having no news at all.
I was happy he told me he was leaving though, if he had simply dropped out of my life without an explanation I would have worried about what happened to him, wondered if I did something wrong, etc. It's the not knowing that drives me crazy.
Even if a regular was simply bored and didn't want to repeat anymore I would prefer to know that instead of having no news at all.
L
Lily from Montreal
Of course not Tina,you are able to keep into the boundaries and there is nothing wrong with that.
Me I would like to know because I tend to date ,hum,more mature gentleman and if I do not hear from a favorite I tend to worry that they are dead (!)...
I know too much imagination but...my favorite of favorite we made arrangement so surviving entourage can notice us but for others I rely on the occasional emails to make sure they are well and alive...
Me I would like to know because I tend to date ,hum,more mature gentleman and if I do not hear from a favorite I tend to worry that they are dead (!)...
I know too much imagination but...my favorite of favorite we made arrangement so surviving entourage can notice us but for others I rely on the occasional emails to make sure they are well and alive...
Negativo! Your well thought out and well received post sounds like you live in the moment... a liberating realization maximizing the enjoyment of various wonderful benefits of The Lifestyle
:whoo::amen::cheer2:
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