Couple travelling to Montreal for first time SP meeting with questions.

[Mr&MrsPendleton]

Hello all! We are a married couple who are heading to Montreal next month to meet with a SP for the first time. While this is not our first time with another female, it will be our first time doing so outside of a social situation.

That being said, this is mostly for her with me being able to enjoy as well. She realized a few years into our marriage that she was bi and while this is not our first time with another female, it will be our first time doing so outside of a social situation.

We've talked about out boundaries and having been married for over 26 years, jealousy etc. has never been an issue. We tend to like the same type of women, so picking our SP was very enjoyable and honestly has brought us closer together.

Since this is our first time we want to be polite and not breach any etiquette boundaries that we are not familiar with. We just don't know what we don't know.

Our questions as they currently stand:

• We have our SP booked with a deposit and time.
  • Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out?
    • We want to be respective of their time.
• We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
  • Should we ask to be sure or just assume they are not okay with it?
• We booked 3 hours to have plenty of time for socializing and getting comfortable.
  • Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
• Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?
  • My wife and I at the same time or should one of us wait and we take turns?
• When we come out of the shower, should we have a towel on or is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose? My wife has some casual lingerie she is planning to put on after.
  • Is this not acceptable as the SP could think we might be putting dirty underclothes back on after our shower?
• Protection.
  • Should we bring some or is there usually some provided?
  • If we bring, should I ask about any allergies?

Thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to read and/or answer. We just want to be super respectful and conscious of how we are interacting. I'm sure we will look back and laugh at how careful we are being, but we'd rather be overly cautious than mess something up.

Next month can't arrive soon enough!!

 

[Oberstdorf]

1) Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out
2) We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
3) Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
4) Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?

5) is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose? My wife has some casual lingerie she is planning to put on after.

1) You can confirm with her around 48h before.
2) You can always message her to ask if she's 420 friendly.
3) You can ask to meet with her at a bar at first, and if your SP already did couple previously, she should know how to break the ice.
4) Depending of the SP, the 2 of you in the shower should be fine. It's how you feel the most comfortable.
5) Towels is usually fine, Lingerie for your wife is good.
6) Protection is usually provided. If you have allergies you should bring your own. If the SP has allergies, she will have her own. (Bring some in case)

 

[Mr&MrsPendleton]

1) You can confirm with her around 48h before.
2) You can always message her to ask if she's 420 friendly.
3) You can ask to meet with her at a bar at first, and if your SP already did couple previously, she should know how to break the ice.
4) Depending of the SP, the 2 of you in the shower should be fine. It's how you feel the most comfortable.
5) Towels is usually fine, Lingerie for your wife is good.
6) Protection is usually provided. If you have allergies you should bring your own. If the SP has allergies, she will have her own. (Bring some in case)

Thanks for the reply. Will wait to ask about 420 when we reach out 48 hours before.

Very good information and much appreciated!!

 

[LC18]

Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out?
No, we are all pretty busy. Unless you have something important to mention that could affect the date, please refrain from contacting the companion.

We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
Then she probably isn’t.

Should we ask to be sure or just assume they are not okay with it?
You can always ask.

Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
You could have booked a dinner date and have some social time and then private time.

Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?
You both shower either alone or together. Who knows, if the shower is big enough maybe the companion will join.

When we come out of the shower, should we have a towel on or is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose?
Whatever you’re comfortable with as long as it’s not your worn underwear.

Is this not acceptable as the SP could think we might be putting dirty underclothes back on after our shower?
let her know…

Protection.
Should we bring some or is there usually some provided? We always bring ours as we want to make sure they were stored safely, not expired and that it fits our needs.

 

[Mr&MrsPendleton]

Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out?
No, we are all pretty busy. Unless you have something important to mention that could affect the date, please refrain from contacting the companion.

We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
Then she probably isn’t.

Should we ask to be sure or just assume they are not okay with it?
You can always ask.

Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
You could have booked a dinner date and have some social time and then private time.

Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?
You both shower either alone or together. Who knows, if the shower is big enough maybe the companion will join.

When we come out of the shower, should we have a towel on or is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose?
Whatever you’re comfortable with as long as it’s not your worn underwear.

Is this not acceptable as the SP could think we might be putting dirty underclothes back on after our shower?
let her know…

Protection.
Should we bring some or is there usually some provided? We always bring ours as we want to make sure they were stored safely, not expired and that it fits our needs.

Lena!

You are so nice to answer. Thank you for taking the time. Very good advice that we will follow.

Merci Beaucoup!!

 

[LC18]

If you want some extra tips, read this thread How to be a bad client

 

[Sylar]

We have our SP booked with a deposit and time.
Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out?
Only if there is a significant change or an additional request that you would like to discuss

We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
Should we ask to be sure or just assume they are not okay with it?
I would not assume and ask. That said, many SPs do not mention "420 friendly", but I have never had one telling me that I cannot not consume. Most of them in fact joined me

We booked 3 hours to have plenty of time for socializing and getting comfortable.
Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
I would inquire about social time followed by private time. (This warrants additional communication)

Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?
My wife and I at the same time or should one of us wait and we take turns?
I've not been in this situation, but I don't think the SP will care too much

When we come out of the shower, should we have a towel on or is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose? My wife has some casual lingerie she is planning to put on after.
Is this not acceptable as the SP could think we might be putting dirty underclothes back on after our shower?
New underwear is fine, but mention it to the SP

Protection. Should we bring some or is there usually some provided?
If we bring, should I ask about any allergies?
I almost never bring my own. I think SPs prefer to use what they have available, as it is safer

 

[Mr&MrsPendleton]

We have our SP booked with a deposit and time.
Should we communicate between now and then with any information or go radio silent unless the SP reaches out?
Only if there is a significant change or an additional request that you would like to discuss

We noticed many providers mentioned they were 420 friendly, but ours did not say either way.
Should we ask to be sure or just assume they are not okay with it?
I would not assume and ask. That said, many SPs do not mention "420 friendly", but I have never had one telling me that I cannot not consume. Most of them in fact joined me

We booked 3 hours to have plenty of time for socializing and getting comfortable.
Should we ask about a bar or restaurant that might be close to the incall location for an initial drink or do most SP have a standard process when you arrive for breaking the ice?
I would inquire about social time followed by private time. (This warrants additional communication)

Since we are a couple, how will it work when we do our initial shower?
My wife and I at the same time or should one of us wait and we take turns?
I've not been in this situation, but I don't think the SP will care too much

When we come out of the shower, should we have a towel on or is it okay if I wear brand new underwear and undershirt that I bought for this purpose? My wife has some casual lingerie she is planning to put on after.
Is this not acceptable as the SP could think we might be putting dirty underclothes back on after our shower?
New underwear is fine, but mention it to the SP

Protection. Should we bring some or is there usually some provided?
If we bring, should I ask about any allergies?
I almost never bring my own. I think SPs prefer to use what they have available, as it is safer

Appreciate you taking the time to respond.