What is a perfect encounter?

[Lilly Lombard]

I was just sitting there the other day and thinking back to some of the best times I`ve had with some very nice and fun people. I was very lucky as a companion to always meet very courteous and nice people. I was also very lucky to often repeat those agreable times with the same people which over time turned out to be even more relaxed and enjoyable times due to the knowledge we developped of each other, body and mind.

Here`s a little more about the type of meetings I like. The time spent with a mate doesn`t have to be long but it has to be intense and passionate in a fun way. I am very liberated and feel good about myself and my sexuality. Those are qualities I also enjoy in a partner even if it`s only a short term ``relationship``. Without getting too deep into details, I love sharing, I love chemistry, intensity, I long for giving and receiving. To me the whole thing is about ``us`` at that moment. The more intense it gets the better. The more my partner participates in our play, the more I am willing to participate and drop bundaries.

Now that is just me, intense, passinate, open, liberated and enjoying every single moments of it.

While I was reminiscing those good times, I also remembered the other times where my mate didn`t seem so open, so receptive, sometimes almost unwilling to participate in any way. I`ve heard of frigide women but are there such beings as frigide men? Or is it something else, something I do not understand perhaps. All I kept thinking to myself is maybe they were affraid of me or maybe they were so stuned they couldn`t move anymore. Once again, without getting to deep into details, I`ve seen men and women alike who would just lay flat on their back and stare at the ceiling the whole time. What was going on in their mind? Were they shy? Uncomfortable? Did they expect me to pull off some new trick to impress them? What is it?

Now I am asking a ``hobbyist`s`` point of view. How do you behave during a meeting? What is a perfect encounter for you? Do you participate or do you just expect things to happen?

Oh, and if you ever wonder, the day I invested money into a meeting with a companion (oh yes I did!!) well, I was somewhere between option 1 and 2.

 

[korbel]

Now I am asking a "hobbyist's" point of view. How do you behave during a meeting? What is a perfect encounter for you? Do you participate or do you just expect things to happen?

Bonjour sweet Lily,

Need you ask. After 11 beautiful encounters or so with you....ahhhhhhh. Many thanks for the wonderful memories.

Miss you,

Korbel

PS

Personally, I'll take some combination of numbers 2 and 3...in varying proportions depending on my mood...and yours...ummmm. "Unleashing the beast baby"...wow...can't believe you wrote that...oh la la.

Kisses!

 

[montreal_monk01]

Hi Lilly,
Glad to see you around.
To answer to your question, I personally believe that the secret of the perfect encounter is to have no expectations at all, just let natural chemistry and common sense flowing. When I meet the companion, I first focus on what I can control: making sure the encounter will occur in nice physical conditions (clean and nice place, the decoration, the variety of drinks and snacks), making sure that I took a nice bath, nicely dressed...etc
In a nutshell: receiving the companion the way I would have liked to be welcomed -> with class, warmth, respect.
As soon as she comes in, I continue with what I can control: being nice to her, warmthful, gentle, easy going, sociable. A good companion will surely respond well to such paving the way to natural interraction that turns into amazing chemistry between both.

 

[Lilly Lombard]

Moi personnellement j'aime une fille sensuelle qui aime se coller et caresser. Une fille qui réagit quand je lui fait des massages. Quand une fille reste de glace, ça ne me donne pas envie de continuer.

Oui oui oui oui oui!! 110% en accord!

 

[Lilly Lombard]

Personally, I`ll take some combination of numbers 2 and 3...in varying proportions depending on my mood...and yours...ummmm. ``Unleashing the beast baby``...wow...can`t believe you wrote that...oh la la.

Somehow, I knew it. I wonder why!

Strangely, I wrote the ``unleashing the beast baby!`` thinking about something you wrote back a few years ago and the never forgoten image of a Bed & Breakfast with cardboard walls and lots of roarings. *giggle*

Don`t get me started! I will have to open my own thread of ``Diary of A companion``.

 

[korbel]

Somehow, I knew it. I wonder why!

Strangely, I wrote the ``unleashing the beast baby!`` thinking about something you wrote back a few years ago and the never forgoten image of a Bed & Breakfast with cardboard walls and lots of roarings. *giggle*

Don`t get me started! I will have to open my own thread of ``Diary of A companion``.

Hello Sweet Lily,

I remember that place, recommended by our friends at FKS. Ish...I was so embarrassed to meet anyone there. The pictures on their website were so deceptive. The food was great, but the structure was like an old barn. You are such a trooper. No wonder one of my most persistent mental images with you is of the walls and fixtures rattling all around us...had to move away from that huge dangling mirror...lol.

Well, back to the poll. I love taking my time indulging in long slow soft sensual touches. Nothing like long slow enjoyment. But the beast inside will have his due too. I think he likes you very much...lol.

Cheers,

Korbel

 

[Regular Guy]

Courses?

I was just sitting there the other day and thinking back to some of the best times I`ve had with some very nice and fun people. I was very lucky as a companion to always meet very courteous and nice people. I was also very lucky to often repeat those agreable times with the same people which over time turned out to be even more relaxed and enjoyable times due to the knowledge we developped of each other, body and mind.

Here`s a little more about the type of meetings I like. The time spent with a mate doesn`t have to be long but it has to be intense and passionate in a fun way. I am very liberated and feel good about myself and my sexuality. Those are qualities I also enjoy in a partner even if it`s only a short term ``relationship``. Without getting too deep into details, I love sharing, I love chemistry, intensity, I long for giving and receiving. To me the whole thing is about ``us`` at that moment. The more intense it gets the better. The more my partner participates in our play, the more I am willing to participate and drop bundaries.

There wouldn`t be any way we could talk you into giving courses to new sp`s would there?

 

[Lilly Lombard]

There wouldn't be any way we could talk you into giving courses to new sp's would there?

That is hilarious! I had that comment done a few times in the past and tought about it. But how do you teach someone something that should come naturaly? Sometimes, there are men I should teach to as well.

Talking about the men to who I should teach the art of having "fun", where are they? Where are the "option 5" type of men? Geee, seems I won'tknow their motivation.

I think I might have an explanation for that behavior : too much time spent in massage parlors! (Just to see the difference, I posted this on the Toronto board, a city full of "massage parlors". I am curious to see the difference)

 

[Lilly Lombard]

Here`s my idea of a perfect encounter.

Remembering Véronique: GP weekend 2002

This is terrible, I feel like I am hijacking my thread! I wish there were options to do quick comments on posts such as : great post!, applause, very informative, etc!

This time I would just give you a round of applause!

 

[DouMan]

Personally I look more for the sensuality and mutual exchange in an encounter. The woman that will at least make me "feel" like I’m her BF for a few hours.

The sexuality is more like the awesome dessert following a great feast of sensuality.

I speak for myself but the climax is attained more or less rapidly when things are on the open fire, but the warm feeling of the GFE/BFE experience can go on for hours.

Guess I’m from the old school side where slow, sensuous foreplay is really important.

 

[alice_wonderland]

Is this only for man to answer?

My perfect encounter is we build perfect fantasy. I like the play. The carrot on stick? Exchange through email - he tell me what he like, I tell him what i like to do to him. I like if we start with eat and wine like normal date (food and sex = perfect duo for me). I like the play in restaurant when server don't look. Or maybe he see a few things, or hear. I do not mind if server know, I am exhibitionist maybe? I like more like that because after is better. I like when he cant wait to be gone from restaurant. I like being désirée (desiring?). I want to be what you want to have - the only thing - I like that you cannot wait to have me. For me is fantasy like fantasy for you. We all go work next day like nothing happen, but is like vacation from job in day. Also, man is respect. Its game but there is respect rule in game still. We pretend we on perfect date. We do not see each other again, is ok. I always want to meet stranger and have fantasy on trip. We never see eachother again but wow how time together is like roller coast. This is my perfect encounter - no relationship waiting, just instinct.

Est-ce que les filles peuvent répondre?

Moi, la rencontre parfaite c'est la rencontre qui prend du temps à se faire, qui débute par les échanges par email - où tu me dis ce que t'aime, où je taquine en te rendant la réciproque. Le jeu de l'âne qui veut la carotte (et c'est pas péjoratif, je ne veux pas dire que les hommes sont des ânes, mais j'aime attirer l'homme vers moi, au point où il faut qu'il m'aille). J'aime quand ça se poursuit par une bonne bouffe et du bon vin. Je suis épicurienne. Pour moi plaisirs gustatifs et physiques vont ensemble. Un mène à l'autre. J'aime aussi car au resto y'a le jeu; pendant que le serveur ne regarde pas, la main qui te frôle sous la table, une petite pensée dite tout haut que le serveur a peut-être entendue. Ce jeu... Il doit bien y avoir des médicaments pour régler ça On s'en fout. Qu'une vie à vivre. On se désire tellement en réglant la facture qu'on peine à ouvrir la porte de la chambre. C'est ce que j'aime le plus - être désirée - être l'unique objet de désir. Puis ce désir animal mutuel qui s'épanche. Et après, aucune attentes. Notre vie qui nous attend. Le boulot le lendemain. On se reverra peut-être pas, mais comme l'inconnu rencontré en voyage, qu'on ne risque pas de revoir car un océan nous sépare, c'est justement ça le thrill. Pas de 'tu veux te marier et avoir des enfants', juste un plaisir purement épicurien, anti-catholique et éphémère. Si on se revoit pas, tant pis, mais quels souvenirs! Ah oui, et tout ça dans le respect. C'est peut-être qu'un jeu, mais tout jeu se joue selon des règles.

Alice

 

[hungry101]

A perfect encounter for me goes like this...

Outcall to a upscale hotel near Church and St Catherine. I have a deluxe room with a king bed and sofa, a source of music, wine glasses, robes etc. I make an appointment with a girl that I have screened through reviews. I have lusted after her pictures on her web site in anicipation of our meeting. We exchange emails and phone calls prior to my visit. I make clothing requests and find out what she likes to drink and its red wine. She arrives on time or within 15 minutes of our scheduled appointment. She is dressed elegantly wearing a tight mini and 4``-6`` Stiletto heels. She has on eye shadow and light make up and perfume. Her hair is long and straight and down the middle of her back. She is showing much cleavage. We sit down and become better acquainted and share a glass or two of red wine which we both enjoy. She smiles and I notice her very white teeth which look nearly perfect. They make quite a contrast against her tan skin. She laughs and speaks English with a cute French accent. She crosses her legs and her stocking tops are showing which gives me a woody. She folds her arms over and rests them on her legs as she sits on the couch sipping wine. You notice a French manicure on her nails. You can`t wait to have her.

After a glass of wine and conversation, she excuses herself to the bathroom to get ready for the nitty-gritty of your appointment. She tells you to get ready. You lay under the covers nude - anticipating how much fun your date will be. She comes out fairly soon after wearing the stilleto heels, black fish net thigh highs with a lacy top. She wears a small black thong which has no practical purpose with the exception of showing off her lower back tattoo which is located right above the thong and accentuating her perfect ass. She is wearing a black lace bustier which makes her breasts stand up and salute you. You notice she has a belly piercing which looks great and a tounge piercing that you cant wait to feel against your organ. Her long straight shiny hair is fllowing and her beautiful shoulders are exposed and glistening. She is perfect tonight!

You fall to your knees and worship your rented sex goddess. You kiss her feet and heels and work your way up. You want to see and feel up close what a Montreal sex goddess is like. Its almost a shame to fuck her because she looks so gorgeous. You kiss lightly at first and you ask her to remove her thong so you can gain access to her sweet nector. you lay in bed kissing softly and slowly working your way up to deep French kisses while she massages your penis and you apply a light rotation to her labia, softly and gently searching for her clitorus. This goes on for 10-15 minutes. She offers a which you accept. She uses the porn star technique where she spits on your shaft for lubrication. You once thought that this was gross but Alysson from Devilish taught you that this feels the best. You decide you want to give her some pleasure and you tell her ``It`s your turn.`` You go down and eat this perfect smelling waxed pussy. You lightly apply a massage with you index finger to her clit which makes her cum and you lap up the musky juices. You suggest a side ways 69 and you take the opportunity to lick her asshole while she deep throats you. You almost lose it here. She asks you if you want to fuck her now and puts on the condom. You put it on and you do every position in the book. You like missionary because you can DFK. You like cowgirl because you can feel her tits and belly. You like doggie because you can squeeze her supple ass. She makes love talk in the French the langauge which drives you wild. She is ``in`` to your date and looks you in the eye as much as possible. You take off the condom and she gets on all fours and jerks you off in her face and then she gets up and unexpectingly kisses you with her cum soaked tounge. It doesnt matter right now because you are in the heat of passion!

You both laugh and lay in the bed and drink more wine, spooning and holding each other. Then you go to the bathroom together and take a shower and lovingly wash each other. You put on the robes from the hotel and lay in bed or sit on the couch with her in your lap, killing the last bit of red wine. She asks for bottled water because you wore her out. She gives you a 10 minute back massage before dressing and accepting the donation and leaving. You take a picture of her with your cell phone so that you can admire her. You will use this picture to remember this moment for years to come. She leaves and you fall back on the couch and smile satisified with your expenditure. it was well worth it...hell it was a bargin that will tide you over for 2 months.

You dress and take a walk down St Cathrine and find a diner to have a Jimmy Dean burger. You walk up and down St Catherine st, stopping to talk with the street SPs and ducking in a few non-strip joints for 1 drink per stop. You talk to the woman you meet with confidence because your encounter earllier that day made you feel like the real man that you are. You are satisified.

IF ANY SP OUT THERE READING THIS WANTS TO GET TOGETHER TO FULLFILL THIS FANATASY PLEASE PM ME. I believe I will be there early fall and this is what I like!

 

[Maxime]

Moi Lilly, une parfaite rencontre, c'est d'abord et avant tout quand il y en a une, et quand la fille rappelle la veille pour confirmer, si c'est ce que les 2 partenaires ont convenu au départ! Le respect bref!

 

[korbel]

Is this only for man to answer?

My perfect encounter is we build perfect fantasy. I like the play. The carrot on stick? Exchange through email - he tell me what he like, I tell him what i like to do to him. I like if we start with eat and wine like normal date (food and sex = perfect duo for me). I like the play in restaurant when server don't look. Or maybe he see a few things, or hear. I do not mind if server know, I am exhibitionist maybe? I like more like that because after is better. I like when he cant wait to be gone from restaurant. I like being désirée (desiring?). I want to be what you want to have - the only thing - I like that you cannot wait to have me. For me is fantasy like fantasy for you. We all go work next day like nothing happen, but is like vacation from job in day. Also, man is respect. Its game but there is respect rule in game still. We pretend we on perfect date. We do not see each other again, is ok. I always want to meet stranger and have fantasy on trip. We never see eachother again but wow how time together is like roller coast. This is my perfect encounter - no relationship waiting, just instinct.

Alice

Bonjour Alice,

Ummmmm, somebody is playing my song. Yes, oh this sounds like a lot of fun.

I did something like this during the first weekend Lily and I met. She was trying on some "sexy things" and I, bad boy that I am, couldn't wait for the show. So I pretty much entered the changing booth briefly with the saleslady watching and giving us "the look"...lol. Remember Lily...je me souviens tres bien.

Deliciously,

Korbel

 

[alice_wonderland]

She was trying on some "sexy things" and I, bad boy that I am, couldn't wait for the show. So I pretty much entered the changing booth briefly with the saleslady watching and giving us "the look"...

Bonjour Korbel,

Be careful, you are dangerly messing with generally accepted 'best things to do on date' list.

#2: Leave without lingerie. Meet date at lingerie store. Choose what to wear together. Be sure to ask the sale lady if the thong pass some durability test (has anyone make sure it does not snap if pull?)

People who pick 'rent heart-shape room at Chablis and bring Sade CD' will not like you for messing with rules.

So what is #1?

Merci,

Alice

 

[korbel]

Bonjour Korbel,

Be careful, you are dangerly messing with generally accepted 'best things to do on date' list.

#2: Leave without lingerie. Meet date at lingerie store. Choose what to wear together. Be sure to ask the sale lady if the thong pass some durability test (has anyone make sure it does not snap if pull?)

People who pick 'rent heart-shape room at Chablis and bring Sade CD' will not like you for messing with rules.

So what is #1?

Merci,

Alice

Bonjour Alice,

One of my fantasies is to rip right through the lingerie in all the sweet spots ...ummmm. Is that too naughty? Damn the influence of porn for poisoning my virtuous heart...lol.

Me bad,

Korbel

 

[alice_wonderland]

Bonjour Alice,

One of my fantasies is to rip right through the lingerie in all the sweet spots ...ummmm. Is that too naughty? Damn the influence of porn for poisoning my virtuous heart.

Me bad,

Korbel

What about drawing on lingerie with chocolat, and licking it off

Alice

 

[Lion Heart]

Encounters never unfold exactly the same way, even when you repeat with the same lady. And that's why I keep coming back for more...

I do crave for hot, sensual foreplay exchanges, full with caresses, kisses and tongue action...when chemistry is at the rendez-vous, there's really no better way to build up the passion...and to "unleash the beast"...

Lion Heart

 

[Cul de Shack]

Dear Alice...

My perfect encounter is when I leave from work and have a limited time to get to my dinner date. So instead of going home to shower and change I have to stop at a motel on st-jacques, check in, take a shower, dump the suit in the car and put on my golf shirt and pants that somehow is always in the trunk along with the inline skates, the running gear, the golf bag, and of course a wine bottle opener (a must for every traveling hobbyist!)... on my way to the nearest SAQ to pickup a bottle of wine, while I have no clue about what wine she likes, seek the help of an employee of the store by asking "... so what would a blonde hottie former agency co-owner with a master's degree would like to drink?" and at the same time observing the expression on the face of the SAQ employee. Priceless.

Perfect encounters involve hitting the highway towards the downtown area only to find the 720 exit closed so I have to make a huge detour to get downtown while my home-made GPS has gone coo-coo and commands me to make a u-turn and drive 200km back home just so that it can get re-calibrated(duh!). Of course the perfect encounter is when the girl drives me (lol) to the restaurant that apparently is closed due to the construction holiday, only to end up in a nearby restaurant that is far better than the one we picked before. Needless to say, the perfect encounter involves talking about merb stories and characters, talking about the old days when her and I were just voices on the phone and catching up on "where is she now" stories. Well, the perfect encounter sometimes isn't about removing one's thong below her almost see through white pants (lol) but the idea that you made a friend that is more real than real life all together.

There ya go.

EDIT: no spandex in the trunk, Tony? Bye-bye.

 

[alice_wonderland]

Dear Alice...

My perfect encounter is when I leave from work and have a limited time to get to my dinner date. So instead of going home to shower and change I have to stop at a motel on st-jacques, check in, take a shower, dump the suit in the car and put on my golf shirt and pants that somehow is always in the trunk along with the inline skates, the running gear, the golf bag, and of course a wine bottle opener (a must for every traveling hobbyist!)... on my way to the nearest SAQ to pickup a bottle of wine, while I have no clue about what wine she likes, seek the help of an employee of the store by asking "... so what would a blonde hottie former agency co-owner with a master's degree would like to drink?" and at the same time observing the expression on the face of the SAQ employee. Priceless.

Perfect encounters involve hitting the highway towards the downtown area only to find the 720 exit closed so I have to make a huge detour to get downtown while my home-made GPS has gone coo-coo and commands me to make a u-turn and drive 200km back home just so that it can get re-calibrated(duh!). Of course the perfect encounter is when the girl drives me (lol) to the restaurant that apparently is closed due to the construction holiday, only to end up in a nearby restaurant that is far better than the one we picked before. Needless to say, the perfect encounter involves talking about merb stories and characters, talking about the old days when her and I were just voices on the phone and catching up on "where is she now" stories. Well, the perfect encounter sometimes isn't about removing one's thong below her almost see through white pants (lol) but the idea that you made a friend that is more real than real life all together.

There ya go.

This is very nice Monsieur Shack. So perfect encounter mean platonique for you? This is very respect. But how you know she wear thong if pant 'almost' see through? This mean you have to imagine so maybe not just think friend, I think

Thank you,

Alice