What's too personal to do?

[SylvainP]

I remember a masseuse I met. We were used to kiss each other until.. she has a boyfriend. She wanted to keep tjhat only for him. I can understand that.

 

[ravenazrael]

Raven :
Sexuality is in the brain
Love is in the heart

I agree; however, that would be the same as a regular non-sp couple where the man cheats on her and tells her it was just because of his brain, not his heart. I am pretty sure many divorces happen because of the brain -and the dick/pussy- and as a consequence the love decreases until it becomes disappointment.

 

[ssj3]

By the way the thumbs up icon appears in this post and wasn’t meant to go with it. I don’t know how to edit it out because it isn’t appearing as editable text.

I agree with you EB about a lot of the things you said about restrictions being lifted after a while. I have found that after seeing an SP a few times that more often than not she lifts at least some of her restrictions with me. I believe it's all in the way you treat the lady. Also, with the thumbs up icon I believe if you go into the "advanced" option you can edit out the title portion where the icon is.

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Rave; this is what I was saying as well...lol

When it comes to restrictions lifted with encounters, same thing applies with one night stands...the first intercourse is never the best you will have with someone...well, it shouldnt be..because something happens and it is called chemistry.

 

[ravenazrael]

...well, it shouldnt be..because something happens and it is called chemistry.

So it could happen that a girl has more chemistry with a regular than with the bf - but sex only, so a girl can be eager to fuck the client but enjoy thr breakfast with bf and then ruin the relationship- So again it comes the issue... It is playing with fire

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

it is a question of against what are you fighting ; your gf's job or your gf for doing this job...
And her; is she fighting against your reaction as she might hinks you are a controle freak, or she is fighting against your feelings towards her job?

The key is the communication and what are you willing to do for the other...But you can't figure it out if you aren't completly honest with the other...but at first you have to be honest with yourself...this is the crispy part of the issue

 

[ravenazrael]

...But you can't figure it out if you aren't completly honest with the other...but at first you have to be honest with yourself...this is the crispy part of the issue

LOL just to clear up I'm not in the situation but I'm trying to understand the mindset and be in the shoes.
As I have said it on another forum... would I be with a SP? I would but the trust part is the first thing to build before committing into something I guess.
I know some SPs whose BFs arein the dark because they would break up if they finds out.
It is a though job and I think SP's BF are unsung heroes.

Going back to topic... anyone else has another opinion or experience on the "too personal" I also remember girls that said they would never do it but then agrees for a high extra while others said no even for the equivalent of over 1h extra. So it is not always about the money or "regularship" as some may think

 

[jalimon]

Regarding the bf issue... to girls out here, if you only knew how many times I heard guy saying they do not see the sp if they know she as a bf.

None of them were able to give me a valid reason, only bs if you ask me. But some of them were veterans got to respect their choice.

Cheers,

 

[cloudsurf]

Not kissing because you have a steady partner is hypocritical when you are offering FS and BBBJ to strangers..

One escort who stopped being full GFE on our third date told me it was because she started dating a new B/F .
I told her that in that case I will stop seeing her and she can get back to me if she changes her mind.
Seven weeks later she sent me a text telling me that she broke off her relationship and would be happy to kiss me again.
Over the next 5 years she had several boyfriends but never stopped kissing me, up until the time she got engaged to be married.

 

[Nakamichi]

Too personal is up to the individual, I know ladies that will do any fetish that is out there.

 

[Julia Sky]

One thing I have witnessed is a girl who has lingerie that she will wear with her BF only. She does wear lingerie when working but she has some kits that only her BF sees her wearing.

 

[ShyMan]

A very cute debutante told me allowing me to watch her clean up and "shower" (and shower with her) after our meeting was too personal. Then she said if I gave her an extra 100 CND, she would oblige. I said no thank you. Had she agreed to my request and if we had a good time in the shower, I would have given her a larger tip than I did. I was going to repeat with her but told myself never will I see her again, as hot as she was. The sex was good but . . . It seems for some ladies, some acts are only personal until they get extra monies.

 

[2fast2slow]

i think the more personal it is with a stranger the more exciting it is. Of course both parties have to feel comfortable. But there is nothing more exciting than getting 'very personal' with a complete stranger... of course after the act, you are no longer strangers and actually more intimate than with most other people in your life. Kinda ironic.

 

[jalimon]

A very cute debutante told me allowing me to watch her clean up and "shower" (and shower with her) after our meeting was too personal. Then she said if I gave her an extra 100 CND, she would oblige. I said no thank you. Had she agreed to my request and if we had a good time in the shower, I would have given her a larger tip than I did. I was going to repeat with her but told myself never will I see her again, as hot as she was. The sex was good but . . . It seems for some ladies, some acts are only personal until they get extra monies.

Shyman this post is so on the spot! I have had many girls told me they do have a boyfriend. I will not name names here as I know many will then avoid them! (and on that matter girl just stop telling you have a bf when you have one!).

The secret is the fact that it makes absolutely no differences in the service you get.

It happens sometimes, last time was with an amazing XO girl, that the girl told me my god you killed me. There is no way my bf will have sex tonight because of you. Haha music to my ears. Unfortunately, or fortunately for her and her bf, it did not happened often

Cheers,

 

[experdick]

I am reading these posts and find it interesting that what is completely ignored is that all activities are related to money. The SP never saw you prior to the date, may or may not like you, and were it not for the money would likely never want to see you again. The difference is when you have a boyfriend, you do it because you are attracted to him and not for the money. All the other little details of lingerie you wear and kissing etc is ridiculous. When you are selling sex, there are no personal restrictions you can offer to show your boyfriend he is special. It is all about the money and it being part of the process or not. If I am wrong than I await offers from SP who are open to seeing me and providing me with these services just for the experience. Ciaou

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

"Personal" is so subjective...but it's the boundariesyou need in order to keep your self-respect...Many lovers remain friends and text me once in a while...sometimes, I answer and they get back to me a while after, and excuse themselves because they were with their kids (I didn't ask for anything..lol but they are polite, concerned and it's cute! )...and they will most of the time send a picture they took with their kids.....This is something I couldn't do. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against those who do it and I do not think it is the same thing as for a man to show his kids...but relating mine to my SP's life is definitly something I just couldn't do... :lol: I even blur the picture if I see one of their toys appearing under the couch (and I just see it once in the picture)..

Yeah, my lovers know my privacy, but that part relates on their privacy and I just can't manage sharing it with anyone...but, for many; fucking is something way much personal....

I already read :“It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do it all the time. But opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams… that is being naked.”

And I couldn't agreed more with that quote...

 

[TD Bank]

I had a SP offer me a GS and that other S.