Closer to the topic at hand, can't expect most guys to have the same level of game as dang ol' Boomhauer, man.
What's your experience as a young hobbyist ? Or what was your experience like if you started young ?
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I started in my early twenties. Lost my virginity to a "Japanese" escort that turned out to be Korean, actually
Anyway, I did get comments about my looks, but other than that, they didn't talk about my age
There was one girl though. She was only available in the morning, so I go over to see her and text her I'm there. She tells me she slept in and needs a bit of time to get ready, so I go to a Tim's to get a drink. There's two lines and as I'm waiting, I see this insanely hot girl wearing pyjama bottoms and a tiny tank top. I can't believe how hot she is. I see her face from the side and get really guilty because she looked like a teenaged school girl. So after waiting in line, I stupidly decide to sneak a look anyway and she catches me and gives me look, then rolls her eyes. I turn away embarrassed and avoid looking at her
Then the escort calls me to her place. She opens the door and we instantly both start laughing. It's the girl from Tim's. She pulls me inside then glares at me and asks "did your little friends put you up to this?" I'm like "what" and she says, "Don't play with me. I walk by that high school all the time and you boys are always looking at me, like you were at the coffee shop, and laughing to each other. Your classmates probably put you up to this, right?" And I'm like, no I heard about you from the review boards and she asked me for my username because she was a mod at one of them. She glared at me again. I offered to show her my id and she said "usually it's guys asking for my ID". Then she just says "OK", pulls off the tank top and drops the bottoms revealing nothing underneath
Anyway, after the deed we talked about people thinking we were younger than we really are for a while
I saw her once a year or two for the next 10 years until she quit. She's back now, but I haven't gone to see her again
Anyway, I did get comments about my looks, but other than that, they didn't talk about my age
There was one girl though. She was only available in the morning, so I go over to see her and text her I'm there. She tells me she slept in and needs a bit of time to get ready, so I go to a Tim's to get a drink. There's two lines and as I'm waiting, I see this insanely hot girl wearing pyjama bottoms and a tiny tank top. I can't believe how hot she is. I see her face from the side and get really guilty because she looked like a teenaged school girl. So after waiting in line, I stupidly decide to sneak a look anyway and she catches me and gives me look, then rolls her eyes. I turn away embarrassed and avoid looking at her
Then the escort calls me to her place. She opens the door and we instantly both start laughing. It's the girl from Tim's. She pulls me inside then glares at me and asks "did your little friends put you up to this?" I'm like "what" and she says, "Don't play with me. I walk by that high school all the time and you boys are always looking at me, like you were at the coffee shop, and laughing to each other. Your classmates probably put you up to this, right?" And I'm like, no I heard about you from the review boards and she asked me for my username because she was a mod at one of them. She glared at me again. I offered to show her my id and she said "usually it's guys asking for my ID". Then she just says "OK", pulls off the tank top and drops the bottoms revealing nothing underneath
Anyway, after the deed we talked about people thinking we were younger than we really are for a while
I saw her once a year or two for the next 10 years until she quit. She's back now, but I haven't gone to see her again
You never suggest to anyone that they see your I.D. What you do is walk in there with the self-confidence of me walking into a strip club at 16 (didn't even need a fake I.D.).
I started young at 22 but it started just with lap dance at the ugliest and the best club back in Mexico. At that time I travelled a lot the country so is safe to say that I visited at least 1 place on each state. I took a couple of times one of the dances to the hotel while traveling. Then I married and left the scene for some time. But with the passing of time I started to feeling again the itch. Then I met this young lady at the regular joint and started dating on the side as a sugar baby. I was with her in and out for about 20 years. It’s been like the last 10 years that do only in calls for the thrill. I can say that I met to exceptional girls but they moved on of the scene and I lost contact with either. So at the end of the day I think that it’s just a fantasy. A some time hot but nevertheless a fantasy.
I tempted to say don’t hesitate, but then again perhaps the best thing to do is just don’t
I was in my early 30’s when i started & at the time i was under the impression that i was one of the youngest guys doing this. Sps often gave me this impression since they often would complain about always seeing old guys & told me they were pleased to finally see a younger client for once. But i’ve always looked younger than i was. Later when i started meeting fellow hobbyists for drinks, dinner or gatherings i realized that there were many guys my age or younger in this business. Most of them were single while many of the older dudes were either married or divorced. From my experience many girls were pleased to meet someone closer to their generation however there were a couple of others (mostly indys) who told me they were uncomfortable being with someone who looked closer to their age or looked younger. They were used to the more older & distinguished types. One nearly walked out on me for this reason yet we ended up having a wonderful time & she even contacted me the following day to invite me for lunch.
As someome who started in their mid-twenties I will share a summary of my experience with a level of transparency that we rarely see here. My immediate reason for hiring a sex worker at that time was to have my first sexual experience. I had a history of adverse childhood experiences (not dramatic, but still significant) and a physical disability (later fixed) that led me to avoid making any attempt at a romantic relationship with girls (in high school) or women (later in life). I lacked the confidence and I would realize later that I had a fear a rejection. Luckily for me, I was really good in school and I poured all my energies into excelling in every discipline, then into pursuing an advanced degree in university. Needless to say that, in my mid-twenties, my libido was through the roof. When I say this I mean that it was at a level where it caused me significant discomfort and even some functional impairment in daily life due to intrusive thoughts and difficulties with focus (there are some similarities with the so-called Asian fever, but I digress, I am not joking). Without going into too much detail, I escalated from strip club to escort services. When booking my first escort, my #1 criteria was to pick an "experienced" lady (i.e. mid 30's). My reasoning was that I was clueless when it comes to sex, that I would be very nervous, and that I should pick someome who would guide me in this first experience. It turned out to be a good plan! I disclosed that it was my first time and it went well. And guess what folks: we spent time chatting during the encounter as well! Seeing escorts did boost my confidence with women, as we sometimes read, but not enough.
A turning point came towards the end of the pandemic: I fell in love. The only problem is that I fell in love with an escort. The details of that relationship will remain private. Suffice to say that I experienced elation in the first half, and psychological distress in the second half of that relationship. Also that she stopped working at an agency after our relationship began–an important detail if you put yourself in my shoes. As someone who had never fell in love before, I was now experiencing it for the first time, too intensely, with the wrong person, and in a relationship that I knew would be going nowhere. I was stuggling to make sense of the nature (qualia) of that relationship. Many will describe the behaviour of falling in love with an escort as foolish, but I will argue that it was not the case here. First, I had a complete lack of experience in romantic relationships, which mean no reference to manage my emotions in that context. Second, I knew almost nothing about psychology and attachment. Third, I was not blind: I became painfully aware of the impossibility of the situation; hence the psychological distress. After three years it became too much and I abruptly put an end to the relationship. There followed a year-long period of despondency, followed by a period of relative contentement with life that appears to be a new equilibrium. A lasting consequence, unfortunately, is a complete loss of interest in romantic relationships.
To conclude in the most simple terms possible: escorts are not a girlfriend substitute. It took a real-life experience for this otherwise intelligent and whole human being to realize it. There are some things we just don't learn in books.
A turning point came towards the end of the pandemic: I fell in love. The only problem is that I fell in love with an escort. The details of that relationship will remain private. Suffice to say that I experienced elation in the first half, and psychological distress in the second half of that relationship. Also that she stopped working at an agency after our relationship began–an important detail if you put yourself in my shoes. As someone who had never fell in love before, I was now experiencing it for the first time, too intensely, with the wrong person, and in a relationship that I knew would be going nowhere. I was stuggling to make sense of the nature (qualia) of that relationship. Many will describe the behaviour of falling in love with an escort as foolish, but I will argue that it was not the case here. First, I had a complete lack of experience in romantic relationships, which mean no reference to manage my emotions in that context. Second, I knew almost nothing about psychology and attachment. Third, I was not blind: I became painfully aware of the impossibility of the situation; hence the psychological distress. After three years it became too much and I abruptly put an end to the relationship. There followed a year-long period of despondency, followed by a period of relative contentement with life that appears to be a new equilibrium. A lasting consequence, unfortunately, is a complete loss of interest in romantic relationships.
To conclude in the most simple terms possible: escorts are not a girlfriend substitute. It took a real-life experience for this otherwise intelligent and whole human being to realize it. There are some things we just don't learn in books.
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I have been attempting to sleep with women since 2015 so I guess I started the hobby since then?
Now the questions are what have you learned from this experience, how have you evolved as a person if any and going forward how does this affect your view of women and relationships.
That`s a lot of big questions in one sentence
. It'll be easier to answer in point form:- The main lesson I learned is how easily we can be overcome by our emotions (I like the term the Ancient Greeks used: passions) when it comes to love. I consider myself a man of reason, but at the same time, no one ever fell in love rationally... Love is an emotional experience. The challenge, which I failed, is to keep acting rationally while integrating emotional inputs. (I use the term love loosely here. Some will prefere infatuation, limerence, etc. in this context but it can be argued that the distinction is mainly semantic. I felt I was in love.). If I ever fall in love again, I will be better prepared.
- I evolved by gaining a better understanding of human nature and psychology. When highly analytical people like me go through an emotionally difficult experience, we tend to intellectualize a lot (in case you haven`t noticed), so I read sevral books on various topics in psychology and also a bit of philosophy.
- "views of women" (or men) is not a valid concept in my opinion. It`s too much of a generalization. Everyone is different.
- My views on relationships haven't changed: I believe, generally speaking, that it is better to be in a (healthy) romantic relationship than to be single.
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It took a lot of guts to share details this personal, even on an anonymous forum. Thanks for sharing.
For what it's worth...after I lost my V-card with my first lady of the evening, I only dropped the bomb that she had gotten my cherry after the act was finished. Her reaction was "...no way". Let's just say that was way more of an ego boost than "Oh, I could tell". XD
I would rather say that it doesn`t take much guts, given that it is anonymous. I would like to see more substantial discussions, including sharing of experiences that go beyond self-aggrandizement (not referring to your previous post. I got the humorous tone.), among clients. Rêve-je en couleurs?
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