When an SP gives you her contacts

[new_in_town]

I have this regular (agency)SP that I clicked with since first meeting. Apart from the awesome sex, we always had a good conversation. Everytime after we finsh she is asking when we are meeting again etc. If it was not an SP, i would have concluded she is in love woth me. But still, no other SP, evem my other regulars with whom i also jave great chemistry act this way.

Few months after I started seeing her she joked about seeing each other outside the agency. I didn't take the bait. I saw her earlier this week and she insisted we exchange contacts and said we should go out on a dinner or something. So we exchanged contacts.

I am confused if she is taking about normal dating, have longer outcall sessions with me, sugar baby like arrangements, etc. Ofcourse, I can ask her directly, but just wanted to check with you guys if something similar happened to you before and how you dealt with it..

 

[Gabars]

Had an agency girl give me her snapchat a few years before covid because we figured out we lived really close to each other and seemed to have good chemistry. She ignored me every time I asked to hang out either casually or professionally, and instead sent me lewd pics with captions that seemed like they were meant to make me jealous.

If that ever happens again, I'll definitely ask about her expectations on the spot, in person, because that was weird as hell.

In your case, since she's a repeat, you probably have enough of a relationship that you could be upfront via text messages and expect an honest answer. If you want to be safer, book her again through the agency and ask her in person what her expectations were when she gave you her info.

 

[Jazzman1218]

Take the bait. Take her up on the suggestion for drinks and dinner. If that goes well, and you're interested in a dating relationship with her and can deal with how she earns a living, ask her what she has in mind.

 

[gaby]

Avec des indyes souvent j'ai échangé des textos par après....ça venait d'elles ou de moi juste pour avoir des nouvelles....sans plus.....avec les filles d'agence souvent elles me laissaient leurs coordonnées mais seulement pour les contacter pour savoir quand on pourrait se voir à leur agence...et bien sûr demandait que ça reste entre nous.....une seule fois c'est allé plus loin.....comme j'étais disponible elle me demandait si je pouvais la conduire à tel ou tel endroit...ce que je faisais avec plaisir....ça me permettait de l'admirer de près...loll
..et j'avais une entente avec elle que pour les services sexuels je lui paierais le même tarif qu'à l'agence.....mais des séances plus longues....lollll....ça fait quand même quelques années déjà...mais oui de beaux et bons moments.

 

[IamNY]

Don't be confused, just ask her. That will clear it up.

 

[Kenshiro2029]

Most probably she’s likes you for a SB arrangement, if you like it and can afford it, yeah why not? Just be realistic all this is a fantasy, just enjoy it

 

[new_in_town]

Most probably she’s likes you for a SB arrangement, if you like it and can afford it, yeah why not? Just be realistic all this is a fantasy, just

Yeah, you are probably right. Will have to clarify. I have no delusion of turning her into a regular gf.

 

[masterfreak]

Ça vaut pas la peine de revoir une fille d'agence a l'extérieur du contexte habituel de rencontre.
Tu risque de te faire barré par l'agence.
C'est plate à dire je pense pas que c'est possible de maintenir une relation satisfaisante pour les deux.
C'est dur de savoir les vraies sentiments lorsque de l'argent fait partie de la transaction.
Tu dis que tu as une bonne chimie avec elle ne change rien et profite du moment.
Moi j'ai perdu la tête deux fois à cause de situations semblables et je regrette amèrement ces expériences douloureuses.
Je l'ai déjà mentionné dans un autre thread.
Just in illusion that all.

 

[LC18]

Maybe she wants to build a client list before leaving the agency to go indy.

Maybe she likes you and wants to see you as a friend.

Maybe maybe maybe…

Best way to know is to ask her and let her tell you what her intentions are. We are not in her head and it’s not going to help you if we just “assume” and “speculate” with you.

Good luck with that

 

[Flyingby]

Lots of maybe everywhere
but, before you open that door, be sure about your own expectations
In case you want « more ».
Her answer can change your relationship to a more positive or negative one

 

[new_in_town]

Maybe she wants to build a client list before leaving the agency to go indy.

Maybe she likes you and wants to see you as a friend.

Maybe maybe maybe…

Best way to know is to ask her and let her tell you what her intentions are. We are not in her head and it’s not going to help you if we just “assume” and “speculate” with you.

Good luck with that

True, true..what was the expression? "Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups"?

 

[Skym]

It happened to me, got a few numbers over time.

 

[wiinston17]

I have this regular (agency)SP that I clicked with since first meeting. Apart from the awesome sex, we always had a good conversation. Everytime after we finsh she is asking when we are meeting again etc. If it was not an SP, i would have concluded she is in love woth me. But still, no other SP, evem my other regulars with whom i also jave great chemistry act this way.

Few months after I started seeing her she joked about seeing each other outside the agency. I didn't take the bait. I saw her earlier this week and she insisted we exchange contacts and said we should go out on a dinner or something. So we exchanged contacts.

I am confused if she is taking about normal dating, have longer outcall sessions with me, sugar baby like arrangements, etc. Ofcourse, I can ask her directly, but just wanted to check with you guys if something similar happened to you before and how you dealt with it..

How do Y O U feel about all this?

There are many slippery slopes, blurred lines and points of no return in this hobby.

I think it's time for a heart to heart to set expectations. Both of you have a good thing going on which begs the question, why fix something when it ain't broken?

 

[Glossology]

It all depends. It's super difficult to say without knowing you or the girl.

I hooked up with several escorts and massage girls over the last few years. And when I say "hooked up" I mean that I wasn't paying anymore at that point and meeting them privately as friends. One of them I ended up dating for a while. I guess I'm thinking differently about this sort of thing these days, it's not so much about paying girls for sex (in some cases) or paying them to leave me alone after sex (in other cases), it's now a lot more about friendship for me, and that I care about them and their stories. Obviously the fun in the sheets is great, and I'm always very clear about the fact that I'm not going to be friends with a girl if that isn't involved, but that's only part of the equation. Anyway, I find it difficult to properly explain how I feel about this.

Not every girl will be open to this sort of thing, in fact, most aren't and just want to do their job. Likewise, I don't want to become friends with each and every girl I meet.

At the end of the day though we're all human beings, and there is such a thing as chemistry, and sometimes it happens both ways.

The main advice I can give on this topic, based on my experience, is that there is no turning back or going back to the way things were before, once you cross a certain line. That's what you should think about for some time, then decide on your next move. In some cases it can mean that you make a move that the girl wasn't expecting and that the result is that you will never see her again. If you would have kept the status quo, you could have continued to have the good times that you seem to have. Sometimes that's just a risk you have to take though, so yeah, think well on it and what you really want and don't make any hasty decision.

And for anybody who thinks "nah, this can't be real", "bullshit", "this sort of thing just doesn't happen", or whatnot - here is a message exchange between me and a girl who is quite actively posting here on merb. Actually someone I haven't spoken with in a while but that I have positive memories of. Plus, this message exchange always cracks me up when I read it. For obvious privacy reasons I'm not going to say who it is with, but if she wants to come forward to acknowledge it, so be it.

 

[new_in_town]

It all depends. It's super difficult to say without knowing you or the girl.

I hooked up with several escorts and massage girls over the last few years. And when I say "hooked up" I mean that I wasn't paying anymore at that point and meeting them privately as friends. One of them I ended up dating for a while. I guess I'm thinking differently about this sort of thing these days, it's not so much about paying girls for sex (in some cases) or paying them to leave me alone after sex (in other cases), it's now a lot more about friendship for me, and that I care about them and their stories. Obviously the fun in the sheets is great, and I'm always very clear about the fact that I'm not going to be friends with a girl if that isn't involved, but that's only part of the equation. Anyway, I find it difficult to properly explain how I feel about this.

Not every girl will be open to this sort of thing, in fact, most aren't and just want to do their job. Likewise, I don't want to become friends with each and every girl I meet.

At the end of the day though we're all human beings, and there is such a thing as chemistry, and sometimes it happens both ways.

The main advice I can give on this topic, based on my experience, is that there is no turning back or going back to the way things were before, once you cross a certain line. That's what you should think about for some time, then decide on your next move. In some cases it can mean that you make a move that the girl wasn't expecting and that the result is that you will never see her again. If you would have kept the status quo, you could have continued to have the good times that you seem to have. Sometimes that's just a risk you have to take though, so yeah, think well on it and what you really want and don't make any hasty decision.

And for anybody who thinks "nah, this can't be real", "bullshit", "this sort of thing just doesn't happen", or whatnot - here is a message exchange between me and a girl who is quite actively posting here on merb. Actually someone I haven't spoken with in a while but that I have positive memories of. Plus, this message exchange always cracks me up when I read it. For obvious privacy reasons I'm not going to say who it is with, but if she wants to come forward to acknowledge it, so be it.

Thanks a lot for the insightful comment! You have given me some food for thought.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

It's understandable that you're feeling confused about your regular service provider's actions and intentions. While I can speak from personal experience, it's not uncommon for individuals in the adult industry to develop feelings or a desire for a deeper connection with their clients. However, it's important to remember that every situation is unique, and it's best to have open and honest communication with your service provider to clarify her intentions and expectations.If you feel comfortable doing so, it may be helpful to have a direct conversation with her about what she meant by suggesting going out for dinner or exchanging contacts. This can help both of you understand each other's boundaries and desires moving forward. Remember to approach the conversation with respect and an open mind.Ultimately, it's important to prioritize clear communication and ensure that both parties are on the same page regarding the nature of your relationship.