Why are people afraid of duos?

[bumfie]

Over the years I have gotten PMs from guys who noticed I like to have threesomes with SPs. They often ask me about "having the courage" and stuff like that, and wanting advice on how "to prepare mentally" for having two women with them at once.

I don't understand this. They always say it has always been their fantasy, and yet they can't pull the damned trigger and just do it. They're afraid of something, and I don't know what it is. And it's not money, because a few people have told me they "hobby regularly"....well, if money is an issue, take a week off and have the time of your life the next week.

So what's to be afraid of? I don't get it at all. I am an old bastard, pushing 60, and I wish to God I had discovered the delights of three in a bed 40 years ago. So what's your excuse?

 

[CS Martin]

Over the years I have gotten PMs from guys who noticed I like to have threesomes with SPs. They often ask me about "having the courage" and stuff like that, and wanting advice on how "to prepare mentally" for having two women with them at once.

I don't understand this. They always say it has always been their fantasy, and yet they can't pull the damned trigger and just do it. They're afraid of something, and I don't know what it is. And it's not money, because a few people have told me they "hobby regularly"....well, if money is an issue, take a week off and have the time of your life the next week.

So what's to be afraid of? I don't get it at all. I am an old bastard, pushing 60, and I wish to God I had discovered the delights of three in a bed 40 years ago. So what's your excuse?

bumfie,

It's about expectations, self-confidence and chemistry. My very first one was a spur of the moment thing- a complete disaster except for the agency who cleaned up. Second was with Lola and a friend. It was better, but frankly it was just plain more fun with Lola (especially at the pool at the Sheraton). Third one was a well publicized duo on this board a few years ago. Two little ladies that really got along like sisters. My first two hour session with the girls was absolutely so amazing that I booked them the next night for 4 hours. I still don't have words to describe those 4 hours..............sorry, just no words....

Would I do it again, if I knew the right SP's were available......don't know if my heart could take it...LOL

 

[bumfie]

That can be the problem, CS...chemistry. But I just don't understand how people can say it is a lifelong fantasy..and have it in their grasp and not do it.

 

[CS Martin]

That can be the problem, CS...chemistry. But I just don't understand how people can say it is a lifelong fantasy..and have it in their grasp and not do it.

Again, I think it could be a confidence thing. My first time wasn't planned and I just said WTF...Second time was just a recreational thing to do when passing some wonderful time with Lola....again, WTF. I think these previous two times really prepared me for the experience I enjoyed. Again, some guys just don't have the confidence and are too self-conscious. Could be the best way is to pretty much expect the first time could be a kind of test or WTF kind of a thing. No expectations that it's going to fulfill any kind of fantasy or experience. If it doesn't work, you have it planned in your mind this was a "practice run". You'll have the knowledge of how you reacted in the first engagement. The SP's walk out the door and that's the end of it. Then hopefully you've prepared yourself for something special later.

As to why guys don't do it.....again self-confidence. A lot of people just can't get the nerve up. Nerve......I always remember back to a certain elevator in Florida back in 1986......a really hot redhead with an impish smile giving me all the right signals......and me just getting off the elevator .....again, confidence.....

 

[Bean]

i try and only do duos i find the double bbj the coolest thing in the world lol

 

[Turbodick]

People are not necessarily "Afraid" of Duos. Why be one third of the action when you can be one half?

 

[bumfie]

TD, I guess I am referring to the people who have posted or sent me PMs in which they claim to be "afraid' to try a duo. I don't get this. I certainly understand why people prefer not to have duos...i just don't get why some people say they are scared of them. What, do they think two SPs are going to conspire to bite their manhood off and have it for a midnight snack?

 

[CS Martin]

TD, I guess I am referring to the people who have posted or sent me PMs in which they claim to be "afraid' to try a duo. I don't get this. I certainly understand why people prefer not to have duos...i just don't get why some people say they are scared of them. What, do they think two SPs are going to conspire to bite their manhood off and have it for a midnight snack?

OK, you may not have confidence issues, but some of these keyboard comandos do.....and you're not going to convince them out of it. The right duo is an amazing thing. I personally have always wanted the harem concept.....

 

[Turbodick]

Okay, I'll theorize. Maybe it is the thought that two hot early twenties bi-sexual woman in the room with a middle aged ordinary looking male with no hair, a big gut and a wavering erection may just exclude him??? Really, what else could it be except for the fear in my case that there will be a fatal catfight over who gets me first?!

 

[CS Martin]

Okay, I'll theorize. Maybe it is the thought that two hot early twenties bi-sexual woman in the room with a middle aged ordinary looking male with no hair, a big gut and a wavering erection may just exclude him??? Really, what else could it be except for the fear in my case that there will be a fatal catfight over who gets me first?!

TB, Thank you!! I needed someone on this board with real wits. An excellent post.

 

[RobinX]

Okay, I'll theorize. Maybe it is the thought that two hot early twenties bi-sexual woman in the room with a middle aged ordinary looking male with no hair, a big gut and a wavering erection may just exclude him??? Really, what else could it be except for the fear in my case that there will be a fatal catfight over who gets me first?!

I agree with CS Martin that this is an excellent post that thoroughly answers the question.

I would also like to add that, as someone who is considering a 4-hands, which is the equivalent of a duo in the massage world. there is an approach which might address the confidence issue, but it may take considerable research, effort, time, and money of course : Find a duo pair for which you have chemistry with both SPs, become a regular of both SPs so that you develop a comfortable relationship with each individually, talk about her duo partner during your appointments (you will probably find that most SPs will enjoy talking about her duo partner because she is often her best friend or lesbian lover). Then when you feel you are ready, book them duo. Under such circumstances, you will probably feel a lot more comfortable and confident with this arrangement that you would have otherwise.

 

[bumfie]

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