Here are my theories:
- Women are afraid to meet with a stranger for sex. Not all of us, of course, I am talking in generalisations. I would be afraid to meet a man that would traumatized me, not listen to my consent, etc... But weirdly on the client side of things. I guess the expectations of having my needs filled but then having a bad experience would be terrible and I the risk outweight the benefits, I will therefore not pay for it.
- It is not something that we're told we can do, hire someone. Hiring someone for a man is often seen or heard about, especially in medias and movies. However we see little to no representation of women clients. This contributes in making it seem taboo or not even a possibility.
- Stigma. As a woman you are being told that you can get any man, that it's easy or should be easy for you. So to have the need to hire someone can feel very embarrassing and you can face incomprehension.
- Salary. Even in a more egalitarian society, women are often more represented in lower income jobs of care like social work and health (not doctor). This leads to less disposable income to pay for a luxury service like escorting.
I did have a few women clients, I offer a discount for them but I know it's still very expensive. My clients were not ugly, they were beautiful. Most of my clients are beautiful, men also. I think we should stop seeing hiring a sex worker as something shameful. My clients have multitude of reasons for hiring me. Sometimes I go to the restaurant even if I can cook at home, I just want a different experience or the simplicity of it. I guess it's a bit of the same with clients of sex work. Of course it's such a diverse industry with diverse realities that mine is really privileged, I know.
As for male escorts, I think it takes more soft skills than female escorts. It's not about the beauty standards for men escorts more than being able to present as safe, easy going and comfortable for your clientele. You are often dealing with something more fragile and walking a thin line between needing to be arroused (to perform) but being only there to serve the desires of your client. My male partner (sex worker) had women clients on his own but it's far from being his main or even secondary income contrary to myself.
