Would you still see your favorite SPs as they get older?

[Shantie_mtl]

Age has never been the part that creates chemistry for me. Sometimes the connection happens with someone younger, sometimes with someone 10 to 20 years older. What really matters is the energy, the conversation, the respect, and how naturally two people connect.

My duo partner are 10-20 years difference to me and every case amazing adventure ;-).

 

[twenty4seven]

Life is too short to decipher all your abbreviations.

Montreal, Under the Radar, Automated External Defibrillator, Original Gangster

Life's not that short.

 

[Charlie Rambo]

Age has never been the part that creates chemistry for me. Sometimes the connection happens with someone younger, sometimes with someone 10 to 20 years older. What really matters is the energy, the conversation, the respect, and how naturally two people connect.

My duo partner are 10-20 years difference to me and every case amazing adventure ;-).

It’s a different perspective, I hobby for physical and sexual connection and it’s all starts with looks. It is what it is, Hate to break it down like that but beauty fades when women get older. Some of us are not looking for other than the best s€x we can get, conversation and energy flows if I’m highly attracted. Again, That’s just me

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Hate to break it down like that but beauty fades when women get older.

But in some cases, the aging process seems to be way slower than others. I have seen 45 y.o. women that would put to shame a lot of 25, in full daylight!

 

[Lexus3]

But in some cases, the aging process seems to be way slower than others. I have seen 45 y.o. women that would put to shame a lot of 25, in full daylight!

And I think I know at least one person you might be referring to

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

And I think I know at least one person you might be referring to

I have 3 in mind but, 2 are retired now

 

[Lexus3]

I have 3 in mind but, 2 are retired now

One of the retired ones...

 

[lurkerjoe]

Way back when I was still hobbying my favourite Indy was 15 years older than I was, in her 50s with a grandkid. Best experiences. Hands down.

 

[starry]

I have a couple of mainstays that I've known for a long time. They are in their late forties now and somehow they still look young (or at least the same) to me. Maybe that is what happens when you grow old together. My orientation is mainly Asian and they often look younger than they are. My current heartthrob tells me she is 38 years old. She doesn't look a day over 28. Beautiful lady. I wouldn't get off at all with kids. No chemistry.

 

[starry]

It depends on her goals, it means different things to different people. Having the amount of bookings she wants when possible, income, gaining freedom in the industry.. in the sense that after a while you can enforce certain boundaries and make more decisions. It's not the other way around.

Some sex workers only want 2 or 3 bookings a week or even a few a month and they adjust their rates for that purpose and prioritize longer bookings. They have been around for a while and they know what they prefer.

It takes a while to be able to choose your clients and curate an energy that you like best during bookings. The more you invest into this endeavor the more likely you are to succeed but it takes a lot of energy.. For sure that involves taking care of your physical appearance and your health but it doesn't mean you have to look like a super model or a 20 year old.

But I also think what some do to succeed isn't cute.. to me it's not sustainable if you have to talk shit about other women or back stab them to get clients to choose you over them or to sabotage who you view as competition. I don't see that behavior in 35+ year old providers.

I find your comment about establishing boundaries and curating a select clientele interesting. Are you saying that when a SP business is in start up mode the SPs are more likely to offer a more extensive menu of options, some of them including activities that they do not especially like and which they later make unavailable. I ask because I've wondered why as time goes by sometimes some activities can become restricted or limited.

 

[LeDodo]

I find your comment about establishing boundaries and curating a select clientele interesting. Are you saying that when a SP business is in start up mode the SPs are more likely to offer a more extensive menu of options, some of them including activities that they do not especially like and which they later curtail. I ask because I've wondered why as time goes by sometimes some activities can become restricted or limited.

Or some activities are just YMMV.

 

[starry]

Or some activities are just YMMV.

I hear you of course but the situation I'm thinking of is one where the menu became restricted for all clients. There was added the comment that if things changed (reverted) she would let you know, (though nobody was holding his breathe).I suppose there could be many reasons for that.

 

[Rebaynia]

I find your comment about establishing boundaries and curating a select clientele interesting. Are you saying that when a SP business is in start up mode the SPs are more likely to offer a more extensive menu of options, some of them including activities that they do not especially like and which they later make unavailable. I ask because I've wondered why as time goes by sometimes some activities can become restricted or limited.

When we start out and start building, often our inexperience is guided by the clients we meet. Especially when we don't know others in the field, and all you have to go by is assumption, and learning on the go.

Often we feel pressured into offering things we aren't comfortable with, until we learn what boundaries we need, to make it a sustainable revenue. A job you hate doing, you don't want to be available for.
The way to maintain momentum is knowing your limits, and forming the environment you are able to maintain/sustain to keep going.

As time passes, and you develop a clientele that fits your preferences, you don't need to be available to see just anyone who wants to indulge in the things you don't want to participate in.

We each develop our own expieriences, and things we offer. We are more than just looking pretty to have fun with. We are all types of personalities, and expieriences, beyond the physical acts alone.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I find your comment about establishing boundaries and curating a select clientele interesting. Are you saying that when a SP business is in start up mode the SPs are more likely to offer a more extensive menu of options, some of them including activities that they do not especially like and which they later make unavailable. I ask because I've wondered why as time goes by sometimes some activities can become restricted or limited.

I think for a while it's been difficult to enter this industry. My personal experience is that most clients actually don't want to see a new provider. Whether it's through reviews or word of mouth they want to know they are not getting into something that could disappoint them or worse.

Honestly for a while when I entered the industry I didn't have many interesting inquiries, a lot of people tried to negotiate prices or asked to push boundaries.

There were a lot of things I didn't want to do, that I ended up doing because I wouldn't have gotten any clients otherwise... And I took a lot of bookings I didn't want to take. I also made sacrifices when things were slow like offering discounts which is not something I want or need to do anymore.

As you become more well known I feel like you attract people who are less "acronym focused".. or who aren't always looking for discounts and specials. It took a while until I officially removed 30 min and 45 min bookings. I only offer these once in a blue moon. I probably am going to fully stop offering specials too because at this point it just doesn't bring anything positive for me. I know I'm not alone in this experience.