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Thread: Was I overreacting?

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    Lily from Montreal
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    Was I overreacting?

    I am a bit worried...
    I got a email from someone I met and had fun a few times,he was using a different email and said he changed it and was not sure I would recognize him...
    I answer a non-comittal hello joking it was cold today...
    And now I got this email from ''him'' asking me how many times he ''had the pleasure for my company''..hum, I am not flattering myself but there is no way this particular friend could have forgotten any of our meetings...
    So I don't know if I overreacted but I answered back that sorry I was mistaken him for someone else...
    I do not know if I just exchanged with a wife ?
    Did I overreacted? I do not want to cause a conjugal scene...
    It happened before a few years ago a spouse started chatting with me except that I could truthfully say she was mistaken,I never met her hubby...

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    why a hobbyist would ak how many times he met a provider...? Is is easier for him than for the sp, anyway.
    Strange.

    Doucelangue

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    I think you made the right call, sounds like fishing for info and not even same address, I would have made the same assumption.
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    You did the right thing! Smell fishy if you ask me.
    Last time it happens to me, it was a phone call. Hopefully I have a 12 years old girly voice so I told her, False number again.
    Hope it worked ...

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    Lily from Montreal
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    Thanks ,''he '' just wrote telling me where we met the first two times and asking about the third...I will not answer anymore...

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    Wife accessed his email. He would never need to ask this question. I think you may have just caused a divorce.

    Reminds me that my favorite MP in New York had an issue with a wife/girlfriend who discovered their email in the boyfriend's phone. She was calling them up and harassing the phone girls and also posting shit on their website that was very nasty. Finally the owner of the MP (former MP herself who is a very hot lady in her 40s that I met) posted a long post on her blog, intended for the cheated on girlfriend, which basically said she was a fool if she thought that he was only going to that MP and that the shakiness of their relationship was not their problem, they were just providing a service that was requested. Basically in a nice way told her she needed to look in the mirror and smell the coffee. After that the harassment stopped.

    I hope you will not be harassed over this.

    BTW one of my personal friend's wives just kicked him out of the house because wife found pics of SPs on his iPhone. Guys are very sloppy with their phone security just like Jennifer Lawrence and those other actresses whose nude phone pics were hacked.

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    Your answer was perfect. In todays world e-mail accounts and cell phone accounts are open to the scrutiny of partners. If he was an idiot and left the computer open with his e-mail account open, or his access to this board or an advertising page like 123 he is the fool. Guys need to learn that it isn't enough to shut off the browsing session, you need to clear the history as well or do as I did, pay the price and lose the wife !
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    Gents,

    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    I do not know if I just exchanged with a wife ?
    In your position you always need to be suspicious and very cautious about any element that seems different from a routine or might be odd as with a question meant to test you. It could be the wife or someone close easily. It could also be another member trying to dig up something on someone. There are very well known board members who have an obsessive need to find personal information on others. Never admit to anything if it comes from any channel you are not confident about.

    Also, if there is a breech through a familiar email, it's not your fault if the client didn't protect his password or did anything else that was foolish and someone got into his direct connection to you.

    Good luck,

    Merlot

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    Lily from Montreal
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    EB :if she divorce him because someone (me) told him she has the wrong person I am quite sure the marriage was doomed anyway...

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    Quote Originally Posted by EagerBeaver View Post
    Wife accessed his email. He would never need to ask this question. I think you may have just caused a divorce.

    Reminds me that my favorite MP in New York had an issue with a wife/girlfriend who discovered their email in the boyfriend's phone. She was calling them up and harassing the phone girls and also posting shit on their website that was very nasty. Finally the owner of the MP (former MP herself who is a very hot lady in her 40s that I met) posted a long post on her blog, intended for the cheated on girlfriend, which basically said she was a fool if she thought that he was only going to that MP and that the shakiness of their relationship was not their problem, they were just providing a service that was requested. Basically in a nice way told her she needed to look in the mirror and smell the coffee. After that the harassment stopped.

    I hope you will not be harassed over this.

    BTW one of my personal friend's wives just kicked him out of the house because wife found pics of SPs on his iPhone. Guys are very sloppy with their phone security just like Jennifer Lawrence and those other actresses whose nude phone pics were hacked.
    Leaving your phone around and having ppl out there putting their mind into hacking icloud ain't exactly the same thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyForYou View Post
    I am quite sure the marriage was doomed anyway...
    Probably right and also you are probably not the only SP he is seeing......maybe she just found the evidence on you and decided to start there.

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    Lily from Montreal
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    I'll keep you posted (pun intended) my virtual support group, easier and cheaper that a real one...for now mum the word...

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    If he really changed mail(can happen, if he got hacked, or grew tired of a shitty mail and upgraded to a better one, or even if he use the mail from his ISP and just changed...) he would start a conversation in a different way than asking where you met and such. That is just too weird for sure. If i would contact a regular SP by mail with a different adress, first of all i would wait to want to book her again, and i would proceed to book, and IF SHE ASK ME to prove its really me, i would give her details about our last meeting... stuff like that. A dude asking where you met before, thats just weird.
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