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Thread: Strip Clubs - "etiquette" on paying girls for just talking

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    Strip Clubs - "etiquette" on paying girls for just talking

    I was telling a friend that if i spend a fair amount of time talking to a stripper at the table I will give her some money. If it is very busy in the club, I will give more than when it is quiet. I do this even if we then go for dances. I am curious what the rest of you do?

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    if you spend a fair amount of her time talking where she could have had a couple of dances with other clients, then, yes, its totally appropriate to pay for her time

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    Having had an ex-girlfriend who worked in the industry, I think this depends on who is initiating the conversation. If the dancer is approaching the client, normally this time is invested to entice the client for dances/private booths. Generally they will quickly assess whether there is any potential and politely move on. For this, I don't feel any compensation is necessary. Think of a car sales rep who spends time to sell you a car and you decide not to buy, do you feel the need to compensate him/her? Part of the job right.

    Conversely, should you stop or initiate a conversation for an extended period with no intention of spending any money with the dancer, then I can see how a tip or offer to buy a drink would be appreciated.

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    I'm sorry but I am not a fan of strip clubs. Every $ I spend on a dancer and every dollar I spend on porn such as a 17$ SpectrraVision movie in the hotel (back in the day when they were popular in the hotels) was a dollar that I could apply to escorts. Why should I go into a bar and spend 150$ on dancers when I could spend 200$ and I could MPOS, DFK, and DATY an equivalent or better girl? It makes no fucking sense to me. No fucking sense!!!!!

    As for your original question, If she initiated the conversation it is to entice you to dance. I believe you are less obligated in this scenario than if you initiate the conversation.

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    Personally in Montreal,
    1 - I never initiate talking if I'm not going to take dances
    2 - and otherwise I state rather soon that I'm not interested in taking dances. If she stick around chatting, her choice, no compensation.

    In other places, it may depend, but generally the idea is the same: I don't want to pay for a conversation I did not request, and I don't see why I'd request a conversation if it's not leading to other services, which would .then be paid.
    o . o . b . e

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    Quote Originally Posted by doug999 View Post
    I was telling a friend that if i spend a fair amount of time talking to a stripper at the table I will give her some money. If it is very busy in the club, I will give more than when it is quiet. I do this even if we then go for dances. I am curious what the rest of you do?
    I agree with you doug999. A good friend of mine was telling me that they don't get paid by the club, they actually pay the club a certain amount (bar, etc). and that's how the make money is through dances, some clubs may be different. I always thought they got paid by the club and kicked up a percentage of their dance earnings.

    I find if you are engaging and enjoying a conversation with the dancer and taking away 20-30minutes or longer of her time then it's only right to "tip" her.

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    Instead of tipping her, why not spend that money on dances. If you are talking to her for any serious length of time the size of the tip should be at the dance level.

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    I let them come to talk to me, some even grope me. Free!

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    If they want to talk to me its up to them. I don't pay them for that.
    Stay thirsty my friends

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eye in the Sky View Post
    I let them come to talk to me, some even grope me. Free!
    Same here... I usually mention early on that I am probably not going to be interested in a dance or more... That way, they can get up and leave if they want to. Sometimes, they'll talk for a while, then cruise, maybe go to VIP, then return. I find that a bit weird, knowing that they probably just blew some dude before they came back.

    I must admit, that as often as not, I eventually end up out back with her... My willpower sucks in the presence of a hot girl who wants to blow me. Who am I to deny her that... :-)

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    Don't be so naive and let the girl hustle you like that.

    These girls love to prey on the weak and naive!

    Unless you are in the vip/champagne room there sould be no paying to talk to her.
    "Just When I Thought I Was Out.....They Pull Me Back In!!!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheDon View Post
    Don't be so naive and let the girl hustle you like that.

    These girls love to prey on the weak and naive!

    Unless you are in the vip/champagne room there sould be no paying to talk to her.
    I don't think there is any hustling going on.

    Doug999 never said that they ask for money just to engage in conversation, he voluntarily tips them because he's taking away from her making money getting dances.

    There is nothing Naive or Weak about it


    Quote Originally Posted by themonk83 View Post
    if you spend a fair amount of her time talking where she could have had a couple of dances with other clients, then, yes, its totally appropriate to pay for her time

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    Quote Originally Posted by johnybird View Post
    I don't think there is any hustling going on.

    Doug999 never said that they ask for money just to engage in conversation, he voluntarily tips them because he's taking away from her making money getting dances.

    There is nothing Naive or Weak about it

    for me, putting things in context with respect to the original post, i agree with this, despite my first thoughts (i read most recent post and then jump to the first).

    it's your money, do what you want. like johnybird said, it was voluntary, and OP seems quite empathetic.

    Doug asked, "what would you do?" personally, i'd never give a tip for just talking. that's so absurd to me. i'm either there to chill with friends or i'm looking for some dances. it's part of the game. they know it. and you should too.

    i do agree with thedon, in that some seasoned dancers will milk desperate suckers for $ for the least amount of effort on their part. don't fall for that.

    its all business. don't lie to yourself. you're in a stripclub.

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    strips clubs are a different kind of fun

    So what do you do when tipping just for talking? you suddenly hand her a 20? It seems to feel weird.

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    When I was dancing it happened only a few times that gentlemen paid me for spending time talking with them. I believe that in all cases they were American, somehow the compensation for conversation model seems to be more popular in some parts of the US. I never expected or requested payment for non-dancing time, but I was an awful hustler, lol!
    I think that some guys are just selfish and will keep a girl at their table as long as possible with no intention of taking her for dances, and that is cheap and mean. You don't have to pay a dancer to talk to you, but if you aren't going to buy dances, you should tell her right away.

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