Paying for “extras”
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Just to be on the safe side, it is extremely important, for a first meeting, to well define their definition of "FULL GFE".
This term, as well as GFE are being more and more used as bait without delivering the expected service.
This thread is funny. People refusing to pay extra for CIM and refusing to repeat if there is a charge but not considering the total cost being paid. Also the the story where the girl asked for the extra 20 on the 7th visit, I'd point out that as the client you're not seeing that many SPs but as the SP it's different and she could have simply forgot what the usual practice was.
Let's say it's 280/hr and 20 for CIM, so CIM is extra. Now if the exact same provider charged 350 for an hour including CIM, you'd repeat, but not under the former, lower, pricing.
Agree with you totally. Total cost is the only thing to be considered.
It is mostly the turn-off factor.
Nothing kills a boner like having her remove your dick from her mouth and inform you of the additional fee for CIM. I actually had that happen once. I think she expected me to truly find my pants and fish out the extra cash.
Same with anal sex. Sometimes it works perfectly, at least for me. And sometimes it doesn’t, either for me or for her. Once she makes you drop down those extra 80 loonies, you feel obligated, and what is worse, she does too. The last thing any of us should be doing is forcing that particular act. That is how it gets removed from her offering list.
While I prefer to have CIM available, if she says she just does BBBJ, it isn’t that big of a deal to warn her. But if she does CIM for some, why not all? Sex workers talk a lot about respect, boundaries, communication, and repeat customers. But an anal surcharge is the opposite of that. If you see her regularly, isn’t it much better for both parties to see if she us up for anal sex and see how it goes, instead of “pay me $80 more and it will be okay”?
That is why I prefer a higher price, regardless of what services occur, instead of pricing for each activity.
Nothing kills a boner like having her remove your dick from her mouth and inform you of the additional fee for CIM. I actually had that happen once. I think she expected me to truly find my pants and fish out the extra cash.
Same with anal sex. Sometimes it works perfectly, at least for me. And sometimes it doesn’t, either for me or for her. Once she makes you drop down those extra 80 loonies, you feel obligated, and what is worse, she does too. The last thing any of us should be doing is forcing that particular act. That is how it gets removed from her offering list.
While I prefer to have CIM available, if she says she just does BBBJ, it isn’t that big of a deal to warn her. But if she does CIM for some, why not all? Sex workers talk a lot about respect, boundaries, communication, and repeat customers. But an anal surcharge is the opposite of that. If you see her regularly, isn’t it much better for both parties to see if she us up for anal sex and see how it goes, instead of “pay me $80 more and it will be okay”?
That is why I prefer a higher price, regardless of what services occur, instead of pricing for each activity.
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Exactly, at 400-600 with the indy , i hope they don't ask us for extra! I will repeat only with indy give me better services . For me, it comes naturally the CIM or Greek when i become their regular client ! It depends really on mood and vibe.
No, it is how the lady treats you that matters.
I see Indies and only a select few, if I was so worried about the cost I would stick to agencies.
Some allow CIM, some don’t . I don’t have a problem either way, I would however if one of them all of a sudden decided it was an additional cost not because of the cost but because of the turn off.
For me it is always about how she treats me and the connection we have.
I genuinely like the ladies I see, it is not just about sex , they are not only gorgeous but fabulous women, smart, funny, interesting and above all kind and thoughtful.
The first time she treats me like an ATM is the last time I see her.
I'd just like to add that real life GFE probably would not include CIM sadly. (Insert crying emoji)
I don't agree on this as being a general fact.
Going forward with your example that would lead to believe that ALL your girlfriends in "real life" have always agreed to CIM and Greek?
I doubt that would be the case or you are one rare and lucky dude.
Opinions of opposites spectrum expressed on this thread. On one end, “if charge for extra is not mentioned, it is implied to be included.” On the other end, “bringing up a charge is a mood killer.”
What’s a girl suppose to do? Mind read which school of thought this client subscribes to?
What’s a girl suppose to do? Mind read which school of thought this client subscribes to?
All she needs to do is be clear with the dos and donts, then fix her rates according to what makes her happy and not having to show an endless extras listing.
I agree with you that nobody wants an endless list of extras and that being clear on what are her limits is the ideal situation. No baiting...
If an SP pretends GFE I have some expectations but there are multiple shades of grey and yours might be different... and I don't care having some choices of extras. Do all GF provides BBBJ with enthusiasm?
If an SP pretends GFE I have some expectations but there are multiple shades of grey and yours might be different... and I don't care having some choices of extras. Do all GF provides BBBJ with enthusiasm?
Well, we already know some of them won't provide anything with enthuriasm!
Exactly, and the John also should be mature enough to clearly state, when booking, what he is looking for instead of whining after the fact that "duh, she didn't tell me".
So how does that work in practice? When does/should she state her do and don'ts and when does/should she communicate the rates for the extras? I'll referring to a agency girl and no fee schedule published.
One of many reasons I prefer seeing Indy’s and repeating with them
I do not want to bargain for condiments like for a hamburger, plus I don’t like dealing with a booker/middle man nor being one of maybe 5 or 6 on that day.
I keep seeing “l love Lucy “ working on the assembly line when I think of agencies,
I don’t want to be one of the donuts being dropped or whatever they were working on.
