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Thread: I bid you all farewell...

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    Wink I bid you all farewell...

    It has been quite a journey for me. I have met some real sweethearts and some very nice people through this "hobby." I also enjoyed the insights of many posters in various threads.

    But now the time has come to say goodbye. I always hate saying goodbye but there is little choice for me. I have gotten too involved and I need to take a step back from Merb and the "hobby."

    Someone on this board sent me a nice email message yesterday. I will not reveal who it is to anyone but one thing this person wrote struck a real chord with me:

    " seems to me that you need to face the future resolutely and honestly, and decide how you want to live your life going forward. Who and what are really important to you? Who will remember you once you have gone?

    ...You seem like such a decent guy, but perhaps it's time to take stock of things. If after taking stock you can return to the hobby with realistic expectations then that's great. But the hobby can too easily be both an addiction and an excuse for not facing up to the challenges of life. "

    The hobby for me has by and large been more of an escapism. I can blame my wife for denying me sex but ultimately I acted out of pure selfishness. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. I had certain needs that were not being met and chief among them wasn't sex, but the need to communicate my deepest fears in life. I needed to escape or at least attempt to escape.

    I so desperately needed someone to listen to me, knowing full well that once the encounter is over, it's back to reality. My reality isn't fun - that much I know - but it is whatever it is. I have to "take stock and face the challenges of my life."

    I don't regret what I did because I needed to cope with something that is extremely difficult to cope with. But I now recognize that this lifestyle isn't doing me any lasting good - not on a mental level or physical level.

    I never really wanted to admit this to myself but it is the truth. It takes a certain attitude to be a permanent hobbyist and I just do not have it. I get too involved and when you start caring deeply and thinking about the ladies you meet, it's a sign that you're not cut out for this.

    I think the hardest thing for me is that I do not want to meet someone special just for two hours, two days, two months or two years. I want to live with someone special and grow old together. I want to love that person with all my heart and give her everything I got. I think I have that someone special in my wife and now I hope we can try to make it work. We both deserve to be happy.

    I also need to spend more time with the people that mean the world to me - i.e., my family and close friends. There is nothing in this world like family and close friends and I am blessed to have them in my life. I want to spend more time with them.

    Finally, let me wish each and every one of you a long, happy and most of all healthy life. Try not to take anything or anyone for granted.

    To my gems - Samy, Karma, Gia, Emely and Catherine - please remember that I will be praying for you and thinking of you. Nothing will make me happier than knowing you have found true and lasting happiness in your lives. I would love to see you all one day but I am not going to pay for this privilege.

    To Stripper Lover, I'm just glad we met. You may be cynical on the outside but I know you've got a heart of gold. Take care my friend and please give Celine a big kiss from me. Let her know that it would be my honor to take her out for dinner one day.

    To Doc, EB, Regnad, btyger, Daringly, Anik, and too many others to all list here, please take good care of yourselves. Yes, even you Special K, I wish you all the best.

    God bless,

    Last edited by General Gonad; 06-05-2006 at 07:01 AM.

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    Psychiatric help, 5 cents
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    Thumbs down General

    Farewell General, more power to you.

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    Veteran of Misadventures EagerBeaver's Avatar
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    General Gonad,

    Good luck to you and best wishes for the future.

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    Good Luck To Your Future Endeavours


    It was a pleasure to have met you and sat with you for dinner two weeks ago. Sorry we didn't get a chance to talk more. Thank you for your insights in the past few months, I was glad to come back.

    I hope all the best to you and your future.


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    Sr Member StripperLover's Avatar
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    To My Friend !


    Not as glad as I was & still am !

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    All the best

    All the best GG.Apply the same energy to your search.

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    Good Luck GG! I hope you have no regrets about your short but intense hobbying life. If your future lifestyle has room for an occasional trip to the cookie jar, you can come back as General Boomerang.

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    Working rage-aholic
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    Sorry to see you go, but I'm glad you know when to step away. You're a sentimental person with a big heart (omg, I sound like a fairy ). In reading your post here, I see we have more in common than I realized. I wish you the best in life, in your marriage, and most of all, I wish you a happy, healthy, loving family. In the end, hobbying is just an escape, as are all hobbies, and when it's done, family is what you go home to.

    PS-If you should 'boomerang' back as Robin says, I'd love to buy you a drink or three.
    Why are homely people discriminated against...we're the majority

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    best of luck to you, GG

    It has been a pleasure of meeting you on this board and best of luck as you move forward. I think we all appreciate all the contributions you have made to the board for the time you have been with us. I am not too surprised that you are bidding us farewell, but just wished that it did not come so soon.

    The general is in charge of his destiny and may the general win this war even though he may lose a few battles along the way!


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    Working rage-aholic
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    You're right, Myids, it is an addiction. I managed to slow down from a maniacal pace for a couple of months. I was seeing only one SP. Now I'm back off the wagon. I'm waiting for Chloe to get here, and hoping I don't explode in the meantime. It's not loneliness. It's not sex, because we don't have to turn to hobbying for that. It's the thrill of the great 'escape' that is hobbying.
    Why are homely people discriminated against...we're the majority

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    All the best GG

    I hope you find the same happiness you wish for everyone else and more.
    You have friends here and if you ever need someone to talk to you know where to come. Take good care General Gonad, you will be missed.


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    Good luck General Gonad! Glad you enjoyed your time hobbying, but even more glad that you decided to quit and get things together with your wife.

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    Quote Originally Posted by General Gonad
    It has been quite a journey for me.

    I have gotten too involved and I need to take a step back from Merb and the "hobby."
    I dont want to get too personal...but it seems the two statements summarize what many go thru in this business.

    Ive seen it happen many times before...mainly with those living near what we in the hobby call "mecca". Im going to assume GG either lives in Montreal or frequents the city. The hobby is no longer a hobby when your devoting most of your free time to it.

    You have to be able to seperate your personal life from the hobby..and that's only possible if you stay far enough away from it (month's at a time) so you dont get drawn too far in. Anytime i see a poster hit 1,000 posts in under 6 month's I have to wonder if he's jumped in too quickly.

    My advice to GG...get out while you still can. The risk isnt worth it.

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    Wink Farewell... on the board

    Haven't known you for too long, but long enough to know that you are a decent man who stands up for what you believe in. It's not an easy mission, but I hope you find what you are looking for.

    And who knows, we might bump into each other on the streets of Montreal without recognising each other.

    "It's a small world after all."

    Harmony xox
    Last edited by godddess_harmonia; 06-04-2006 at 06:37 PM.

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    I'll just say "au revoir", dear General.

    I may be wrong, but considering that your previous official "retirement" for the same basic reasons lasted about 2 weeks, something tell me you're going to be back soon.

    Everybody has his motivations to go into the hobby and to get out. In your case, these motivations seem to be the same, e.g. your wife. From your posts and our PM exchanges, I think you're way to impulsive and passionate to really stay put, unless you really can turn it around with your wife. This may be the hardest path, but it can also be the most rewarding if you are made for each other.

    Whatever path you'll choose, I wish you to find the happiness and inner peace you're seeking.

    Lion Heart

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