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    Considering retirement again

    Well, here is the deal. I hobbied extensively after the end of a marriage 10 years ago, and in between several attempts at reconciliation. My ex and I have finally shot and buried the marriage, thank God. (I have made no secret of the fact that years ago I posted mainly on Canbest as Jerseylefty.)

    So I started hobbying again a year or so ago. And now, I've met a fantastic woman.

    The problem is this: I like hobbying. I like the excitement of seeing SPs. I love the feeling of wondering who is going to be on the other side of the door when the knock comes. And, frankly, I love the feeling of having two women in bed.

    I'm not sure what to do. Some of you can live in both worlds (having a regular partner and hobbying), but I can't because I live a distance from Montreal and would have trouble making excuses to get away. I made a small effort at convincing her that she'd like making a trip with me and making it with another woman, but it didn't take. At least she shares my lingerie fetish, which my wife wanted no part of.

    I'm really stuck on this. I would like to make one more trip at least and see Kiki and perhaps a couple other women. I'm just not sure what to do.


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    well, the real answer is to try counselling or you might fuck up the second marriage thing... but life won't be as exciting I am afraid....

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    Second time around? Try fourth! I've been married three times.

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    I am me, too!
    Join Date
    Mar 2004
    If only I knew...
    LOL!! Wow Bumfie, you're not a quick learner!
    Personally, I've never understood the marriage thing. I'm with the same woman since 20 years, not married... but that's another topic.

    Back on topic: That's a tough one. Personally, I never hobby im my home town but can easily get away with a valid, verifiable reason. Would I hobby without this possibility? I don't know. Maybe I'd still be at the strip club level?
    What would I do if in your shoes? It all depends how much you think you can get away with, and depends how much you're willing to risk. The more you have to lie to get away, the more detailled your stories have to be so, the higher are the chances you'll get cought in your lies. It's harder to remember a lie than remember the truth, when you have to explain yourself.
    How much do you like the trill of seeing escorts?
    How much do you like the woman who's in your life?
    How would you react if she learn of your escapades and dump you? Is it worth it?
    How certain of yourself are you at keeping your secret safe?
    How certain are you you'll never forget to make all proofs dissapear? An unwashed dick sucked by a suspecting woman is a deal-breaker...
    How certain are you you won't be discovered by accident by somebody else?

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    All hard questions, metoo...but I am from out of town, and easily disappear when I cross the border.

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    Oct 2004
    Honestly, if you love the woman you're with.... retire, thats what i did. Couldnt be happier.

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    Seems to me that you are looking for us to validate that you can continue the hobby and still go on with your life with this wonderful women you have met otherwise you wouldn't even bring up the question.

    From your first statement you like the hobby and you want to continue so it is up to your conscience that is bothering you. Should I cheat on her or not.
    You have to decide.

    May be the grass is always greener somewhere else for you since you have been married 3 times. Is it?

    There are many threads on this board on the subject why do we hobby, they might help.

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