Good evening gentlemen,
Following my decision to join Montreal Sex City last night and further to Jessy’s post on this board I received an e-mail which I judged to be of unfair practice, politically incorrect and downright disturbing. Actually I received three PM messages and six e-mail messages since 11:30 last night from the same person. The receipt of the messages in and of themselves only partially bothered me but this (http://indyssecrets.googlepages.com/candybaby) bothered me tremendously. At first I was taken back, even perhaps flattered that someone would go through all of the trouble to have me on their team. Upon reflection however, there is nothing flattering about it. The messages that I received had things like “I dont understand why you go back work for an agency ??”, “when i have see you are back in an agency i have decide to give you a hand” the best was “your are “Candy” and I have so much admiration for you” (I translated this last statement – here it is in french: “jai pas besoin de te faire un dessin tu es la grande candy et jai beaucoup dadmiration pour toi”).
My thoughts are that if someone would have admiration for me, they would have done their homework and would have known that I have never worked for an agency but more importantly, they would have respected me. I don’t feel respected by this action and am rather feeling awkward and confused…how could someone take the pictures from my website and create a profile and place all of this on a server, which is ultimately public, without my consent or advising me of it. The key here is without my consent. Would a company, such as ABC Inc., prepare a press release to announce that Mr. X is their new Vice-President of Marketing (without even having met with Mr. X). Would ABC Inc. take Mr. X’s information and biography off of EFG Inc.’s website and place it on ABC Inc.’s website – without his consent or approval.
I have always been a person of integrity who has worked hard at everything that I have put my mind to. I have always believed that one can succeed in this business by being themselves, staying true to what they believe in and being the best that they can be (and not at the expense of others). I am not a person who is naïve, and I knew very well that several people ran questionable agencies, had questionable morals, values and agendas. However, I never thought that someone would take me as an object and do as they saw fit and only advise me of their doing afterwards.
In light of the recent events (this one, what I saw at the last GT as well as the herpes thread) I have chosen, for the time being, to take a few steps back, put things into perspective and have been asking myself if I really want to be part of an industry where cash is ultimately king and where the rest does not matter.
To Jessy, I am sorry for all the trouble that you have gone through and I thank you for your words of encouragement. As you saw, there are only two or three agencies (or owners) that I would conceive of with and you are amongst these.
To the gentlemen that I have had the pleasure of meeting...perhaps one day we shall meet again.