Do SPs call you handsome?

[jeffmathers]

I feel like youre joking but heres my reply for people who actually think like that :

Some escorts would go on social unpaid dates with regulars they arent exactly attracted to but get along with and have known for a long time.

Some escorts would never go on an unpaid social date even if the client was incredibly attractive.

So I dont think that's a good measure either to be fair haha. Lots of escorts have a very strict line between work and real life and no amount of physical attraction would change that. There's also the fact that the majority of women (including escorts) dont exactly want to date someone who hires people for sex - not because it's shameful, but because cheating is a risk and why would one date a person for free knowing they pay others for intimacy?

Also depending on the part of the world a lot of women automatically think clients are bad people or have mental or physical issues of some sort. I've heard the phrase "They're clients for a reason"

Which is weird to me. I was helping a woman I'm friends with try to find a male escort earlier this year and I know she's just shy and doesn't like the issues associated with regular dating.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Also depending on the part of the world a lot of women automatically think clients are bad people or have mental or physical issues of some sort. I've heard the phrase "They're clients for a reason"

Which is weird to me. I was helping a woman I'm friends with try to find a male escort earlier this year and I know she's just shy and doesn't like the issues associated with regular dating.

I personally don't like that phrase ''they're clients for a reason''.. Yes the reason is they have the money to afford it, or they already took the plunge. A lot of clients do have issues but everyone does. ''issues'' is a vague word. Someone could have trauma they need help through, someone could be very shy, someone could be going through a divorce, etc. That stuff doesn't make somebody unlikable.

 

[jeffmathers]

I personally don't like that phrase ''they're clients for a reason''.. Yes the reason is they have the money to afford it, or they already took the plunge. A lot of clients do have issues but everyone does.

Yeah I feel there shouldn't be a stigma for SPs or for clients and that people from both demographics can be loved genuinely by someone regardless of how many partners they've had.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

They are not better than your exs, it’s just that you are paying them to pretend to be your girlfriend for a short period of time. Don’t lie to yourself. If you would date them in the « real life », You would realize pretty quickly that they are no different.

Honestly, I agree with this. I don't like it when people here bash their wives and girlfriends. We are wives and girlfriends too. Not in the sense that ''we're all bad''.. We just all deserve respect, just like clients deserve respect for making the choice to hire SP.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yeah I feel there shouldn't be a stigma for SPs or for clients and that people from both demographics can be loved genuinely by someone regardless of how many partners they've had.

The vast majority of clients don't hire a ton of SP all the time, they do it once in a while or for a period of time. Yes there are clients who really like hiring SP and do it very often and with many different providers, but we tend to forget that a lot more men than we think have hired a SP at some point in their lives. A lot of my clients told me I was the first SP they saw, or that they rarely do this, or that they prefer seeing the same SP for a while.. We all have a different clientele.

Also, the stigma doesn't apply to men who date frequently and have one night stands with a bunch of women they meet at raves and bars and on dating apps. The stigma is specifically about paying for sex in my opinion.

 

[Alphabeta666]

Honestly, I agree with this. I don't like it when people here bash their wives and girlfriends. We are wives and girlfriends too. Not in the sense that ''we're all bad''.. We just all deserve respect, just like clients deserve respect for making the choice to hire SP.

Yeah. I didn’t mean that all SPs are bad like all women.

SPs are just women, not better and not worse than other women.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yeah. I didn’t mean that all SPs are bad like all women.

SPs are just women, not better and not worse than other women.

Exactly! We are just women like everyone else. I actually have more sexual boundaries as a SP than as a girlfriend.. Except for threesomes I love duos but I wouldn't have a threesome with a partner and another person.

 

[EastWind]

I mean I want to meet her parents and find out how many hamsters and gold fish she had in her life but I don’t want to take things slow. When you see the shot you have to take it. Maybe next time when I return to the hobby maybe we should go house hunting first and then do the ring thing?

That's a bit much haha you don't marry someone just because they're attractive

 

[LeDodo]

Seriously. Why is this being brought up here?

I think because of this comment:

Oh Alex…
So much to learn about the hobby…

If you really want to know. Ask her out on a non paying date.
Then. Report back

But my point was more on the free social dates that doesn't necessarily mean a relationship but more of a way to have a win-win situation i.e. sharing a meal after an official encounter. But the win-win is biased towards the client has it might not be reciprocal for the provider.

And as for the dates, it has the connotation of wanting to go further and break the boundaries.

But I agree suddenly this topic surface out of nowhere in this discussion lol

 

[LeDodo]

Yeah. I didn’t mean that all SPs are bad like all women.

SPs are just women, not better and not worse than other women.

100% agree. One should not leave or jump into a relationship because it's "better".
This a wrong way of accessing more deep rooter issues. Like maybe the person himself is the problem ...some food for thoughts ...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think because of this comment:

But my point was more on the free social dates that doesn't necessarily mean a relationship but more of a way to have a win-win situation i.e. sharing a meal after an official encounter. But the win-win is biased towards the client has it might not be reciprocal for the provider.

And as for the dates, it has the connotation of wanting to go further and break the boundaries.

But I agree suddenly this topic surface out of nowhere in this discussion lol

I think this is being brought up here because some clients think that we will do more for a conventionally attractive client and accept going out for dinner with him for free.. I think maybe a client feels flattered if a SP says yes if he asks her out. It could imply that he's more attractive or nicer or ''better than other clients''.. which brings us back to discussing stigma against clients.

 

[Flyingby]

I feel like youre joking but heres my reply for people who actually think like that :

sorry. I should have added a *p.s. my comment regurgitates sarcasm to my post*

OP is 25, probably a fan of scifi (name is a play of his real name and John Connor)
And asks an anonymous escort board if an sp calls him handsome if she meant it

So to Alex
Sorry bud. You probably ugly. Not attractive. Probably shy introvert can’t talk to women.
Maybe you’re a nice guy not gonna judge a book by it’s cover. But you banging sp over your attractiveness scale and you are secretly hoping to date her.

* there was NO sarcasm to the last paragraph of my post*

 

[DenisZim]

Reading some comments just to mention that for me it is absolutely unacceptable for a man that is in a relationship with a woman to use the service of SP. The sexiest thing for me is a loyal man.
Regarding some of the above comments you can watch the movie Indecent Proposal.
On my side I see my life like in the movie A good year.

 

[Flyingby]

Reading some comments just to mention that for me it is absolutely unacceptable for a man that is in a relationship with a woman to use the service of SP. The sexiest thing for me is a loyal man.

SP would lose half their clients if men were loyal

 

[DenisZim]

SP would lose half their clients if men were loyal

In this life there is a lot of IF.
One of the reasons that I dont like this world is that a lot of words they lost their real sence.
In Montreal people say easily - thats great, thats awesome, elle est super gentille......
Here people still cannot understand that an angel is not someone who brush your tears.

 

[GreyPilgrim]

…it is absolutely unacceptable for a man that is in a relationship with a woman to use the service of SP.

Weird place to go judgemental, my friend.

Brings back Roy’s press conference monologue in Ted Lasso: none of us know what is going on in each other’s lives. So for people here to see SPs, even though they are committed in a relationship, well… don’t be too quick to pass judgement on them!

 

[DenisZim]

Weird place to go judgemental, my friend.

Brings back Roy’s press conference monologue in Ted Lasso: none of us know what is going on in each other’s lives. So for people here to see SPs, even though they are committed in a relationship, well… don’t be too quick to pass judgement on them!

It is not judgemental, we are just from 2 completely different planets (saying this with all my respect).
If someone killed the love, that doesnt mean that I will be also a love killer.
I am standing behind my words - one of the sexiest things in this life is a loyal man.

 

[Rebaynia]

It is not judgemental, we are just from 2 completely different planets (saying this with all my respect).
If someone killed the love, that doesnt mean that I will be also a love killer.
I am standing behind my words - one of the sexiest things in this life is a loyal man.

Yes a loyal man is beyond sexy. My Master is loyal as well as I am loyal to him even though I am available as a SP. I am available, because it is something that excites us both. It is consensual, and thus loyalty is not broken.

A relationship is what 2 people agree it to be. For some, especially as they age, menopause/manopause/life events/health could play games in relationships. And a husband/wife who has been faithful and loyal to their partner for however many years is met with it's painful, I can't/don't want to. Are they to divorce? Or are they to let that ruin their years of commitment, or remaining years to come? They still have needs, that their partner can no longer meet. If they have agreed the active partner can find relief elsewhere, SPs are literally the safest option as we aren't looking to break their relationship.

It is romantic to think a husband doesn't step out, but sometimes realistically there are needs that need to be met, for the relationship not to suffer. Same has happened in relationships where she sleeps with others to not have to sacrifice the relationship.

The loyalty is sexy, works both ways, not just for men to be loyal. But like mentioned, this isn't really the place to judge others and their relationships. We don't know what happens in their private life, and it doesn't always mean that there is a lack of loyalty by someone else in a relationship seeing an SP. For all we know, that was the restriction placed, that it would only be an SP, and not a civilian who might try to get between the relationship. For all we know their wife might even be a cuckquean, encouraging it.

 

[2fast2slow]

sorry. I should have added a *p.s. my comment regurgitates sarcasm to my post*

OP is 25, probably a fan of scifi (name is a play of his real name and John Connor)
And asks an anonymous escort board if an sp calls him handsome if she meant it

So to Alex
Sorry bud. You probably ugly. Not attractive. Probably shy introvert can’t talk to women.
Maybe you’re a nice guy not gonna judge a book by it’s cover. But you banging sp over your attractiveness scale and you are secretly hoping to date her.

* there was NO sarcasm to the last paragraph of my post*

 

[LeDodo]

Was called handsome (and somehow soft skin lol) today not by a SP though, I can die in peace!