Pretty sure you're a little heated there and don't really mean that. Personally I've never cheated on a partner before. I'm not married but was once before and have been with my current partner for 8 years. We have a one year old. But we have sex a handful of times per year. Pretty sure I don't love her anymore as she's toxic af. Just used to her. So what am I to do? I don't have the time to ACTUALLY cheat and get a side gf. I don't want to kick her out as I would end up with the kid and I've already single dad raised one (he's off in police college now). I've only been with one SW so far but I see this as a need being filled. Do I tell my gf what I'm up to? Do I want to get stabbed in my sleep? I really don't feel bad about this at all, but that doesn't mean I'm scum. Just human.
Random thoughts: What’s on your mind lately? Part 2
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It is your life you do what ever makes you happy and comfortable.
You are the one that has to live with your decisions nobody else.
That however does not change what I said.
Exactly ! Many people are stuck with something that does not do it for them anymore! You need that feeling that’s calling you!
I know what the difference is. Do you?. Did you ever?
Comparing an SP with someone you love you share your life with, your dreams with, you have children with and you build a life with is ridiculous.
You are paying someone for a fantasy nothing more, yes they are great at sex but it is an act perhaps sometimes worthy of an academy award.
At best you are thought of as being kind and respectful and most often you are an ATM.
Reality does suck sometimes lol.
Really how many men are atms and are involved as I know many! Lol many men are stupid and get nothing from being married and they pay out daily
Nobody is stuck with anything.
You make your own luck in life.
Those are just excuses to justify what people do and to ease their conscience.
Really what world are u from ? Yes many men do not leave marriages because their wives are tied to their money or don’t want be taken to court!
I am not married or have a girlfriend, nor do I intend to have one because they will never live up to the one I had, so why waste their time and mine.
Even with SP I actually genuinely like them and they are friends and I have been seeing them for over 7 years.
So for me it is not about the thrill or the hunt, I am lucky to have these ladies in my life as they make it easier a bit as they are not only gorgeous but kind and nice to be with, but do they replace or even come close to someone you love, not in the slightest.
So money is the excuse lol.
No some men would rather have 2 jobs or 3 than stay in a loveless marriage or tolerate a wife who refuses sex.
These are the same men that have no guts to be honest and end up treating SP the same as they did their girlfriends and wonder why their life is a total mess.
I am from the world of where you make your own luck in life and your word means more than money.
Of course, lol
You are the captain of your ship of destiny, nobody else.
Exactly! Just saying it’s mind blowing when you find the right sp! I have a friend who is having an awful time with his gf with no sex and cannot find anyone else yet he is stubborn and does not want to go with an sp! I would not want to be in that situation!
Physically yes it can be amazing.
Unfortunately for me it is a quick fix that doesn’t last, but yes it feels great at the time.
There is nothing that compares to being with the one you love especially if she actually enjoys sex as well and initiates it as often as you do.
Lol... I'm a girlfriend, and the kinkiest stuff is reserved for my master/bf. Clients don't get to enjoy the wildest parts of me. It takes trust and love to make the kink fun rather than traumatic.
Just meaning. I know what kind of things you are refering to that you seem to feel emotions or a relationship get in the way of. My point is only that those very same extreme things, actually reach a whole other level than just basic fun and relief when there is a relationship involved.
Fradi's point is basically, rephrased in the kinkster relationship dynamic. What could be better than say,
The SP you have the most chemistry with so far, but not an SP. Having access and their undevided devotion to your desires, and they share in the same kinks you enjoy, you can do what you want, how you want, any day or time, and not have to pay. And in the kink world when it is agreed upon in the relationship, you can have that as well as have it be poly. A soul-mate in the deepest of terms.
But from what I gather it just isn't you anyways. You just seem interested in the kink, not so much the control. Because the control is only enhanced by the devotion of a relationship.
While everybody has some kind of kink or perceived to be that by others it was not what I was talking about.
Call me old fashioned or a romantic or whatever. I actually believe and lived being totally in love with someone who returned that for over 35 years.
There is absolutely nothing that compares being with the one you love, the one you share your life with, your dreams with, have a family with.
A paid for fantasy with an SP pales in comparison whatever it includes and it is over the minute you walk out the door.
Perhaps I am just not kinky enough lol.
Yes I agree with you it's always best with someone you're in love with. So after my first time with an SW I went for an emotional ride for the rest of the weekend. Hard to separate sex into a commodity.
Doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it, or wasn't thankful and appreciative of her time and efforts. Hell I'm going to see her again soon and can't wait. Just going through the mental wrangling of a noob not used to this world.
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