You have a good point here. If we appreciate someone and try to find the good in them, we will find them attractive no matter what. I've dated people, both men and women, who were not my type initially but they grew on me. Same thing with my friends and the SP I do duos with, they are the most beautiful people on the planet to me!
Just because you don't think yourself particularly attractive doesn't mean someone else doesn't. I am not one to dish out compliments unless I genuinely feel that way. I don't hold myself back. When I have something good to say to them, I think will put a smile on their face, I say it. I see many handsome and attractive people. It also doesn't mean that if I don't say it, I don't feel it. I very much do for most people I see. And who ever said a 7/10 was unattractive. I don't really rate people by looks. I tent to look for any and all attractive points, we are all beautiful in some way, and the rest just doesn't matter. Who someone is, matters 100% more to me then how they look, or what makes them insecure. I also believe we are beautiful in our imperfections as well.
Despite this specific negative reaction, I doubt most men would be adverse to hearing your positive opinions about any part of them, esp their dick. I always assumed I was of average size before I started seeing sps, and even scoffed at the first couple that said it wasn't (thinking it was like OP says, maybe just fluff for kindness/fantasy), but now I take that compliment to heart (read: erection). Same thing with the actual fucking: If you have received a Very Distinguished Dicking, I guarantee most men will appreciate you saying so.
).Very true. Also I'm lean and a lot of people don't compliment lean people unless they're women.
That's just me but I don't treat my clients better if I think they're attractive.. or at least I don't think I do. I imagine maybe it's different for others.
I think the pressure men put on themselves comes from other men, often. A lot of guys tell me they wish they were super muscular but most women I know aren't into that, for example
I'm sure not everyone agrees with that.
Lol!There's probably some negative self-image going on but you must also remember: There is almost always a significant attractiveness differential going on here. I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm not wheeling absolute smokeshows like y'all IRL either. I think that's the underlying point of the OPs question: Are you getting this on the regular and is it just a courtesy/part of the fantasy or could I actually have a chance at a 10 out in the real world?I think it's sad that so many of you actually don't believe you're good looking..
Maybe it's the scale or adjective nuances here at fault. Being told handsome is like on a scale of 10 being a 10. Among the respondents I guess very few will say they are 10s hence handsome.I think it's sad that so many of you actually don't believe you're good looking..
