I've lost my will for variety

Lans said:

Hitting Amsterdam's red light first. Then' germany's FKK. It's gonna be a fun experience and i'm really excited about it.

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I don’t know if being a sexually liberated country does allow the companionship/escorting to be more available. Netherland and Germany have both a high number of swing clubs. Again, sorry sorry for the digression on that path.
Maybe mojo, is about diversity? And not the mental thrill anymore?

anatomy said:

Amsterdam's Red Light district has been a tourist trap for many years. The women aren't particularly attractive and the tiny "studios" are very much out in the open and not discrete.

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I heard that too about Amsterdam. It's only a few days in Amsterdam since most of my trip is in Germany. I wanted to see it anyway since it's my dream to go there since I was a kid I'm sure I'll find at least one attractive woman.

sweetlivia said:

I don’t know if being a sexually liberated country does allow the companionship/escorting to be more available. Netherland and Germany have both a high number of swing clubs. Again, sorry sorry for the digression on that path.
Maybe mojo, is about diversity? And not the mental thrill anymore?

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I'll see about that and glagly let you know after.

Lans said:

I heard that too about Amsterdam. It's only a few days in Amsterdam since most of my trip is in Germany. I wanted to see it anyway since it's my dream to go there since I was a kid I'm sure I'll find at least one attractive woman.

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Been there, seen it. A relatively affordable and well-organized sex industry (especially in Germany) leaving however an industrial aftertaste of the mass consumption. Montreal is much better, especially indies, many of whom have a unique personal touch and provide very believable GFE.

I've had the same questions in the last few years. I think it's a mix of everything. I've seen the landscape change over time, where once I'd go to so many places, a lot have closed since. Rarely gone with indies, I've always been a fan of agencies or parlors, even when I've had my spells with regulars. But yeah, I'd say my financial situation not being the same as in the past probably plays a factor in me being more keen on having a regular or two rather than taking a chance on someone I don't know... I still do but less often.

The red light district in Amsterdam is ok as a tourist attraction but nothing more.
The women inside those small closets are about as enthusiastic and welcoming as you would expect someone working in a place like that night after night going through a parade of strange dicks. Honestly I don’t blame them, it would have to be considered one of the worst jobs a woman could ever have, being on public display non stop like a piece of meat, has to be dehumanizing as fuck.
Seeing an Indy in Montreal is miles above that experience.
I would much rather see someone from LL ( which I have never done) than one of those women in Amsterdam.
I feel sorry for every one of them.

This is an interesting topic, and I appreciate you bringing it up.
I don't think I am in exactly the same boat, but it definitely hits close to home.

To provide a bit of context:
- I am 40+
- I used to almost never repeat (99% new encounters)
- When meeting a new SP, it was mainly for their looks and / or experiencing something new:

A) The SP being my type - Here I had high expectations in terms of looks. I like spinners that are conventionally attractive and ideally natural. The level of service would be secondary
B) Unique features or background (i.e. bucket list items) - Expectations for the unique features, not so much for the service
C) Specialized service (fetish, kink, new experience) - Close to no expectations for looks. It is all about the service
D) All of the above - Very rare, that's like winning the lottery

More recently I have started developing having a regular. Some might even call it an ATF. I think the split is now 50/50 and quickly trending towards a higher percentage with that special lady. I wish our schedules would coincide more.

I think reason for my particular case is two-fold as many have pointed out in the responses:
As @Giselle Montreal mentioned I am just becoming more seasoned and it is harder to find B) and C) that I still want to explore. Novelty is much more difficult to find the more time you spent on this hobby.
Variety is not necessarily lacking in Montreal. But the type I seek definitely is. There are very few girls (at any price range) that would fit A). Those that do fit in this category are extremely hard to book with limited availability which rarely align with my own calendar. I think there are maybe 4-5 girls.
Lastly there is the value proposition in combination with all of the above. I am financially stable and don't have to budget around this hobby, but I am still not willing to pay 300+ for an encounter that I already know is only going to be OK and not comparable to my regular, if the SP is not fulfilling either A), B) or C). On the other hand I am more than happy to pay 500+ if A), B) or C) can be guaranteed.

And I do think that this is at least a bit specific to Montreal, because when I travel I still get to enjoy a wide variety of my desires without any trouble, which I think is what @urquell said as well.

PSEfreak said:

Maybe it's my age (50+)
Maybe it's a bit of financial instability
Maybe it's been this history of disappointments
Maybe its my high expectations (vis-a-vis services provided)

I'm wondering if anyone else feels like they are in a similar place as me?

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I felt exactly the same way 10 years ago. I got bored with the whole thing & it seemed every new girl i’d meet was just going through the motions. I guess i was too. The girls i mostly enjoyed being with were the handful of regulars that i had. And when they chose to move on i tried other things to try to spice up my sex life & rediscover the magic. Sometimes it worked but eventually it faded also. Just like that new drug that you discover & then you realize that the best time you ever enjoyed it were those first few times & then you spend the rest of your time trying to reclaim that euphoria & it rarely happens. Songs must have been written about this.

Aging is obviously a factor. Health. Finances. Expectations of course. But i also believe that over time having more experience is not always a good thing & having experienced too many things in your quest to discover things beyond your wildest dreams can sometimes backfire because it makes what you once experienced & enjoyed so much somewhat irrelevant. A few years ago i was in Mtl with a buddy of mine & he wondered why i wasn’t seeing anyone & hadn’t for a while. For a few seconds i thought about how to best answer his question & then it came to me. I replied “I realized that i was tired of always feeling like i had just thrown money away.” I added that i had also realized that lately the best experiences i had…the ones that made me the happiest…were the ones that ended up costing me the less money.

PSEfreak said:

Maybe it's my age (50+)
Maybe it's a bit of financial instability
Maybe it's been this history of disappointments
Maybe its my high expectations (vis-a-vis services provided)

I have my own (very short List - 3 ) "go-to" girls and I'm finding it harder and harder to venture outside of this group. These 3 woman NEVER fail me, love them.
2 of the 3 are unavailable for the next 4-6 weeks and the 3rd is harder for me to book because of my schedule.
I made a decision this morning to be patient and wait. No searching for who's available, Indy or Agency. Nothing, I decided to wait for one of them.
I've no doubt I can find at least 1 other who would be amazing. Last week I even inquired on 2 well known SP and reached out about their availability, I just couldn't pull the trigger and book.

I'm wondering if anyone else feels like they are in a similar place as me?

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I might throw an uncommon and singular idea that I'm here looking for long term relationship. I'm not interested in just "trying" all SP available but more like finding a beautiful woman inside and outside. The thing is, if you have the chance to build a relationship with someone it kind of becomes a virtuous circle where you are happy as she knows you well, she is happy as she feels safe with you.

Maybe that's what you found and built with the 3 of them and the rest are just try and error without matching what you have currently.

The only thing I can say is that nobody is replaceable (sorry for that corporate analogy) and everyone is unique. If you find someone exceptional just cherish that person like there is no tomorrow.

I'm not that long into this (~8 months) and already I can see this happening insomuch as I am becoming less willing to take a chance on someone new (even though I haven't had any really bad experiences) rather than going back to someone I know I will have a great time with for sure.

I am not the horn dog that I was when I was in my 20s and 30s. Back then once that SP catches my attention I go look for the flight and hotel. A month later I am up in Montreal. Also once I realized I have reached the state of ENOUGH coupled with achieving the need to bang hot girls out of my system as amazing the hobby is it lost its appeal.

I applaud and bow to those who can do this for years and not get bored.