Correct. I d like to pause right there because that s interesting.
I agree with you on this and I think you can't really fake connection. I do think as a provider my job is to make the client feel special and to provide services and a good experience, but sometimes it's just not a good match. As indy providers we're lucky because we can adjust our branding to attract the right clients, but when you're starting or if you're working for a MP or an agency you don't really have the luxury of doing that. I didn't know how to brand myself and what to do at first. I've had bookings I didn't like in the past year, but I enjoyed most of them and liked almost all the clients I met. Sometimes, it just doesn't work.
I think you'd have to be more specific about the low mileage you're getting.. You're saying girls are talking too much, which I can see for you is a problem, but I think you could be more firm when you are booking them on what style of booking you want. Some clients during 2 hour appointments actually are the ones who want to talk for the first hour. Tell the SP what you want directly.
Oh, that’s what I did.
But hence comes the point there should be some balance.IT IS kind of a business, there is money involved my dear
Yes but not all guys like this. Some guys find it unpleasant or painful. We can't really read your mind...
I don't know.. I guess I see what you mean. Not everyone wants to move to the bedroom right when they start touching you, some people want to take their time. I always try to check in with my clients specially during bookings that are 2h or less, as fast as possible, but honestly I feel like it doesn't necessarily come naturally. I think you can just be more bold in your request if you feel like it's not going fast enough. I do usually understand that it's time to talk less and move to something more intimate if the client starts touching me, but some of my clients really like to cuddle and relax first so it's not always the case. One clear sign is if the client kisses me. I get that you're trying to give hints and these SP's are not receiving them and that is frustrating..
I didn't say it was not a business, but you seem to remove the personal and intimate factor out of this. Escorts are not Best Buys.
Didn’t think about this. It’s usually my case but not this time as she did it very slowly.
That's the thing. I understand yes that this involves a lot of money and we are supposed to offer a service, but at the end of the day you are not just paying for sex, you are paying for an experience between 2 human beings and that involves a lot of things. I get that we all have different wants and needs and it's okay for a client not to want to talk too much, but you have to say it to the provider, communication is the least you can do as a client and I truly believe a lot of dates that don't feel fulfilling for the clients could have been prevented with a honest conversation. It's an interaction between 2 people.
No no read it well, you will see the word balance in my post. The rest is your perception. Let s not dive into one extreme end. BALANCE is the keyword.
I know, but I've had a boyfriend before who was really sensitive afterwards and he screamed when I kept sucking and that left me feeling really careful around that lol
I never realized that, I always thought YMMV in reviews had to do with acronyms offered when I saw it in reviews. That's what I've always been told by both clients and providers. I thought it meant that a provider won't treat every client the same way. I've seen the terms used in good reviews as well.
Giselle's comment is the essence of YMMV. Clients have different personalities, different body types, different approaches to hygiene, different senses of humor and on and on. Even with a baseline of SP expectations from client, some interactions just go better because that client and SP are simpatico.
. But at least i try to appear "presentable". That said considering most escorts are in their 20s or early 30s (i said most, don't crucify me if you are an older provider ) maybe its more relatable to them? I dunno.
I think for me physical appearance and presentation are not super important. Hygiene and behavior really are. The clients who had a bad experience with me were usually extremely rude.. If you were already rude during the initial conversation, show up without smiling, you gossip and complain about other providers or compare you to them, make bad jokes (like one client made rape jokes for instance), start complaining right away, act brutal, etc, don't be surprised if you are not having a good experience.When it comes to "YMMV" there is some factors in the control of the client while there is some that is not (on that specific day)
Under client control :
Vibe/Behavior: Obviously how you behave is a big point. If you give a good vibe, its always better. Some peoples have the "entregens" easier than others. In my case it also depend on the vibe of the provider. I am a bit shy still even after all these years but if she make me at ease, i will be a lot more "easy going". I know part of it is on me and a client can also influence positively a provider, so i try my best to overcome my shyness these days. In any case i am always polite and well behave when i arrive because these are "codes" i also apply in my day to day life. For instance it can be things as small as removing your shoes when entering somebody's house. For me it is a normality, but there was peoples i had to remind to do it when they arrived at my place. Therefore when i arrive at an incall obviously i remove my shoes right away. Often behaviors can be to show up sober, to inquire about boundaries, and as funny as it may sound, just act like a normal person.
Hygiene : This is obvious ... no need to expend too much there
Presentation : I am a bit guilty in that departement as i still dress like a person younger than my age. I don't see myself as a "monsieur". I don't buy ties and suits. Its been almost a meme on this board in the past
NOT under client control
Physical appearance like facial morphology, weight etc. I mean yes ultimately with time and effort you can lose weight but for a booking that happen on a specific date, i am gonna be what i am gonna be. Some providers may simply not attract to older men, or heavier men, and so on. I found out that usually the better providers can work pass that, and appearance is not really important for them, but some have a little more trouble with it and may not want to give more than the "minimum" to someone they are not attracted to.
I mean i had a few rare providers who gave me a cold shower even before i had time to say anything beyond "salut". Either my appearance may have been a turn off for them or the job simply was... In either case i had few control over that. I guess i took a "tofft" because the pictures looked good ...
Anyway i will say that in my 16+ years of doing this, i have been extremely lucky to only have a few "subpar" meetings or if you prefer when attitude, mileage etc was an issue. That said i mostly played safe as well as the few "tofft" i took were still in reputed agencies or indies i knew were friends with other indies that had good reputation.
I read a few reviews of some SPs that took advantage of shy clients and talked the whole time. These are recent reviews btw. Imagine a guy spending $700, and the girl decides to talk.
This is exactly what YMMV means. She has the right to be YMMV but more and more reviews in 2025 is leading to poor services for various reasons. This is not something I am accustomed to given this was not the norm 15 years ago.
Nah. This is based on the reviews I been reading lately. The one Indy I was was in 2021, she was Leena BlackBeauty. I had a great time with her and it was full GFE.
