Nice la Presse Article on XO this morning

Flabert · 2026-03-21T17:11:29-0400

Lunaseraphim said:
It was an extreme example, I agree.. But that doesn't mean it doesn't reflect reality. Abuse is always about power dynamics. You are still missing my point. If a victim is not seen as credible and not respected as a person, LE won't care and most people won't believe them. If the abuser is well liked by the community, very often people won't believe the allegations. If it happens within a family, the child who does the accusation is often ostracized.

Even in this thread, you see numerous people say ''Sam was so nice to me'' .. ''I have never witnessed such a thing''. Most people think if it didn't happen in front of them, it wasn't happening. And EVEN THEN. Even when it happens in front of them, a lot of people use mental gymnastics to justify what happened.

I think we all tend to believe victims and disbelieve abusers here which is one reason we were so appalled when the hockey accuser's stories were proven to be fabricated.

The fact that some doubt parts of Clementine's story has nothing to do with accusing her of fabricating the whole story. There is a clear media narrative story here as well as the fact that people always embellish their story. Anytime you hear 2 people recount an incident they always recount it in their favour. The victim shaming angle is not relevant here I think because her stories is told as a hero story - No aspect of it was critical of her and the mass and media rallied around her.

Bystanders will always put themselves in the situation to see if they think they would have behaved differently. It is not shaming and definitely not denying the victimhood of the person - assuming the story is credible.

I think we need better ways to ensure that providers and clients can meet without fear of abuse on either side (recognizing that more abuse happens to providers - the fact that we need to make it better for both sides does not mean that it is the same on both sides). Changing the side that gets criminalized could have been useful but legalizing the work is key. This does not mean that you need to be registered and they only registered people will be protected. Factory working is legal... and all factory workers are protected (and if some ever got coerced no one would ever say "yeah but they were not registered"). Is the legalization fear the fear that taxes will have to be paid? If so please decriminalize large construction engineering projects because I also hate paying taxes.

Lunaseraphim · 2026-03-21T17:15:21-0400

Flabert said:
I think we all tend to believe victims and disbelieve abusers here which is one reason we were so appalled when the hockey accuser's stories were proven to be fabricated.

The fact that some doubt parts of Clementine's story has nothing to do with accusing her of fabricating the whole story. There is a clear media narrative story here as well as the fact that people always embellish their story. Anytime you hear 2 people recount an incident they always recount it in their favour. The victim shaming angle is not relevant here I think because her stories is told as a hero story - No aspect of it was critical of her and the mass and media rallied around her.

Bystanders will always put themselves in the situation to see if they think they would have behaved differently. It is not shaming and definitely not denying the victimhood of the person - assuming the story is credible.

I think we need better ways to ensure that providers and clients can meet without fear of abuse on either side (recognizing that more abuse happens to providers - the fact that we need to make it better for both sides does not mean that it is the same on both sides). Changing the side that gets criminalized could have been useful but legalizing the work is key. This does not mean that you need to be registered and they only registered people will be protected. Factory working is legal... and all factory workers are protected (and if some ever got coerced no one would ever say "yeah but they were not registered"). Is the legalization fear the fear that taxes will have to be paid? If so please decriminalize large construction engineering projects because I also hate paying taxes.

Have you read my very long comment about decriminalization versus legalization? People are not pushing for decrim because they don't want to pay taxes lol

I'm not going to repeat all of this.

Giselle Montreal · 2026-03-21T17:19:04-0400

Flabert said:
. Is the legalization fear the fear that taxes will have to be paid? If so please decriminalize large construction engineering projects because I also hate paying taxes.

Most of us already pay taxes, and it’s not even close to be a legal job.

deltamort · 2026-03-21T17:29:39-0400

Lunaseraphim said:
What do you think they're going to do.. go after thousands of numbers to arrest every single client? I think instead of making you scared of getting caught by the police, this should just be proof that you need to be careful with making ethical and informed choices when booking sex workers.

thank you so much for your input I find all of your interventions very insightful

Flabert · 2026-03-21T17:39:17-0400

Lunaseraphim said:
Have you read my very long comment about decriminalization versus legalization? People are not pushing for decrim because they don't want to pay taxes lol

I'm not going to repeat all of this.

I did read your comment and I don't disagree that decriminalization would be good. This is especially important to readers here since it is *clients^ that are criminalized in Canada (and people living off of the earnings of sexwork but not my role or expertise to defend them).

I just don't think a single group will get to decide sadly. The choice we will likely face is some additional repression (likely just making the fear of repression more likely to control the business) or more legalization but with some constraints.

We likely agree here that minors/coercion should be policed. It is not customers sole responsibility to do that (although sex workers, clients, and bystanders have some agency here to help). I would prefer a free market to an enforced one but would not protest if the government introduced minimal hygiene/STD verification. Same for blacklisting abusive providers and clients (once truly proven to have been abusive of course).

Not sure how we get to decrim though. It feels like part of feminism truly stands against it (while another supports it of course).

ginaflash · 2026-03-21T17:54:47-0400

Flabert said:
would not protest if the government introduced minimal hygiene/STD verification.

Can you clarify what you mean by this, are you talking about provider's ? Clients ? Both ?

Lunaseraphim · 2026-03-21T17:55:10-0400

Flabert said:
I did read your comment and I don't disagree that decriminalization would be good. This is especially important to readers here since it is *clients^ that are criminalized in Canada (and people living off of the earnings of sexwork but not my role or expertise to defend them).

I just don't think a single group will get to decide sadly. The choice we will likely face is some additional repression (likely just making the fear of repression more likely to control the business) or more legalization but with some constraints.

We likely agree here that minors/coercion should be policed. It is not customers sole responsibility to do that (although sex workers, clients, and bystanders have some agency here to help). I would prefer a free market to an enforced one but would not protest if the government introduced minimal hygiene/STD verification. Same for blacklisting abusive providers and clients (once truly proven to have been abusive of course).

Not sure how we get to decrim though. It feels like part of feminism truly stands against it (while another supports it of course).

Decrim is good for everyone involved including clients.. And we know that clients are criminalized. I just find it strange that some clients here want it legalized and don't support us in wanting decrim, when in fact they would have a lot more options as clients if it was decriminalized vs legalized. And it's been shown through multiple studies that in places where sex work is legalized, a lot is still pushed underground, and the multiple providers who aren't able to work at brothels are punished. So are their clients. The government doesn't know shit about sex work and dosn't know how to take control of it. We as sex workers and the organizations that are here to support us know what's best, they know decriminalization is the way to go.

I don't really understand what you mean by ''abusive providers'', unless you mean scammers. But that's another thing that decrim would protect you against.. If you were scammed by a sex worker, as a client you could report it to LE. Otherwise everyone would be forced to work at brothels, and the ones who can't could still scam clients and the clients who saw them would still be criminalized if they saw the worker outside of a controlled brothel.

It's really hard to prove that a client is abusive. You talk about ''truly proven to be abusive''.. How can you even prove that? Aside from massage parlors where I have seen clients run out of rooms without paying or girls run out of rooms crying because they were assaulted, it's very hard to prove that a client raped you or pushed boundaries. Most of us have absolutely no reason to lie about a client being abusive. There is just no point in doing that. But it's impossible to prove it..

I don't think that argument is useful here tho.. It's really exhausting to argue about this.

Lunaseraphim · 2026-03-21T17:58:19-0400

ginaflash said:
Can you clarify what you mean by this, are you talking about provider's ? Clients ? Both ?

From what I've been told, at legal brothels, STI screening is mandatory.. FOR THE PROVIDERS. Not for the clients.

And logistically it makes no sense to give every client a STI screening every time they want to visit the brothel.

To me that doesn't change much from how things are now lol because the vast majority of providers are encouraged to get screened at their work place or do it themselves. If clients never get screened and bring STI to the brothel, it's the worker that is punished.

ginaflash · 2026-03-21T18:14:20-0400

Lunaseraphim said:
At legal brothels, STI screening is mandatory.. FOR THE PROVIDERS. Not for the clients.

And logistically it makes no sense to give every client a STI screening every time they want to visit the brothel.

To me that doesn't change much from how things are now lol because the vast majority of providers are encouraged to get screened at their work place or do it themselves. If clients never get screened and bring STI to the brothel, it's the worker that is punished.

Yeah definitely; all my girlies get STI screening at the parlour directly, they're not mandatory but I've never seen anyone not want them / refuse to take them and we have so many amazing / perpetual conversations about sexual health. Our bodies are literally our bread-maker and precious work tool. We're the first one needing for it to be top shape; healthy; safe (we are 100% the ones punished if a client brings stuff with him to see us first and foremost because we lose our literal source of income)... It always amazes me how a lot of clients seem so terrified of catching things because they see providers. It's definitely a belief born from demonization - stigmatization - antisexwork propaganda so I understand why people tend to be a tad ignorant about that subject, but still.

Beside my gyneco (lol), the most informed and knowleadgable ppl arount me about sexual risk/health/STIs have always been sex-workers.

I think that's why I actually got confused by that precedent comment about sti verifications.

Lunaseraphim · 2026-03-21T18:21:42-0400

ginaflash said:
Yeah it definitely; all my girlies get STI screening at the parlour directly, they're not mandatory but I've never seen anyone not want them / refuse to take them and we have so many amazing / perpetual conversations about sexual health. Our bodies are literally our bread-maker and precious work tool. We're the first one needing for it to be top shape; healthy; safe (we are 100% the ones punished if a client brings stuff with him to see us, we first and foremost because we lose our literal source of income)... It always amazes me how a lot of clients seem so terrified of catching things because they see providers. It's definitely a belief born from demonization - stigmatization - antisexwork propaganda so I understand why people tend to be a tad ignorant about that subject, but still.

Beside my gyneco (lol), the most informed and knowleadgable ppl arount me about sexual risk/health/STIs have always been sex-workers.

I think that's why I actually got confused by that precedent comment about sti verifications.

I don't like saying this but from what I've seen on this forum and what I've heard elsewhere, often it's on the client side that there is misinformation about STI's or there is some type of carelessness.. It's good to know that at a parlour girls are getting STI screenings. When I worked at parlours, unsafe services were strongly discouraged..

ginaflash · 2026-03-21T18:37:14-0400

Lunaseraphim said:
I don't like saying this but from what I've seen on this forum and what I've heard elsewhere, often it's on the client side that there is misinformation about STI's or there is some type of carelessness.. It's good to know that at a parlour girls are getting STI screenings. When I worked at parlours, unsafe services were strongly discouraged..

Well, every parlour is different ofc, I can only talk about my own experience at the current place I'm working at rn.

But yeah, I've had to explain often to clients stuff like skin to skin contact = possible sti risk, unprotected oral = possible sti transmission, cuts / blood = no go.

The irony of then having to live with the stigma of being a risk for ppl who have intimacy with me on a professional or personal level is crazy sometimes ngl. But I love also informing ppl about it, clients or friends and I've found over time that this feeling is shared by a lot of colleagues from many different sw area ! ! !

Seeing a thread like this one with so much brilliant knowledge about so many aspects of our reality as provider gives me lots of hope tho. Love reading all of those back and forth.

Halloween Mike · 2026-03-21T20:21:46-0400

I surfed over the last few pages because there is a lot to catch back but 2 points i noticed...

Well as much i would love a return to the outcall formula (and yes its a lot more discreet) i understand why incall became so popular both for agencies and clients. Agencies/SPs can do a lot more calls (so more money) and clients do just save hotel cost but also risks linked to it.

Heck even myself i used to be all about outcall until agencies kinda forced me to use incalls and at the end i was finding it "easier" in a way even if less "fun". I mean yeah i will always prefer checking in at an hotel and waiting for a date there but if a friend let me borrow his couch, and i can save on the hotel cost or rent at a "cheap hotel" (that some SPs don't like much) then it may be easier... With outcalls there is always a risk the SP may turn down your hotel even without knowing you. And no i won't pay 250$ a night for an hotel room at a big place... Its way too much of a waste... Chabrol and such motels are usually accepted by SPs but they are hellish to sleep at with peoples often partying in rooms above or next door.

Other point i wanted to mention... Remember Bianca White? Super high end indy (for Montreal) and indy. Yet she was arrested for "pimping" and other crimes.

I seen a few of her friends in the business and others i didn't but they still operate... She was arrested in September and we heard nothing. Could still be in jail. My point is its not just agencies... Its not just low end stuff.

Bouddha1 · 2026-03-21T20:28:37-0400

If i was a Sex worker, I would have a screening process and a hidden camera in my room or in each room.

EastWind · 2026-03-21T20:38:23-0400

Looks like this thread is not about XO anymore lol.

EagerBeaver · 2026-03-21T20:38:45-0400

Halloween Mike said:
... Remember Bianca White? Super high end indy (for Montreal) and indy. Yet she was arrested for "pimping" and other crimes.

https://www.haltonhillstoday.ca/police-beat/woman-charged-with-human-drug-trafficking-after-extensive-halton-police-investigation-11294248

In case anyone thought only men are pimps- guess again. There is such a thing as a pimpette! There has been more than one in the history of the industry in Montreal.

Flabert · 2026-03-21T20:40:47-0400

ginaflash said:
Can you clarify what you mean by this, are you talking about provider's ? Clients ? Both ?

Am not making any recommendations here, just saying the govt might want to stick its nose in hygiene even though it decriminalizes sexwork.

It could be as trivial as ensuring that condoms are available, conditions are appropriate (“regulation 23-3.4-xx a functional shower offering water between 40 and 70c must available to clients and providers”).

Of course the govt might want to ensure that sex workers are tested - most likely if confronted by a moral panic (I envision Maria Mourani shriek for this). Testing clients would be more logistically complicated but who knows what they would consider.

EastWind · 2026-03-21T20:44:18-0400

EagerBeaver said:
https://www.haltonhillstoday.ca/police-beat/woman-charged-with-human-drug-trafficking-after-extensive-halton-police-investigation-11294248

In case anyone thought only men are pimps- guess again. There is such a thing as a pimpette!

The OG:

Lunaseraphim · 2026-03-21T20:46:40-0400

A lot of pimps are women.. and it doesn't have anything to do with "high end" or "low end". These terms don't even mean anything. There are women who pose as "assistants" but are taking a cut from the escorts they "manage" and exploit them in various ways. I think we're running around in circles honestly. No we can't be sure that someone who isn't super vocal online (surely my pimp would be wasting a lot of their fucking time of I had one lol) isn't being exploited.. but once you find out that they are, just make sure they're ok..

Flabert · 2026-03-21T20:51:27-0400

EastWind said:
Looks like this thread is not about XO anymore lol.

It is about how to avoid this problem with personal or population actions

AnthonyAnderson · 2026-03-21T21:06:47-0400

Halloween Mike said:
Other point i wanted to mention... Remember Bianca White? Super high end indy (for Montreal) and indy. Yet she was arrested for "pimping" and other crimes.... She was arrested in September and we heard nothing. Could still be in jail

Yes we do remember! She`s most likely not in jail. The norm in Canada is that you are out on bail (en liberté sous caution avec certaines conditions) during the judicial process. We don't know if she pleaded guilty or not. The whole process from charges being laid to conclusion of the case can easily take 1-2 years. Not sure the media will give us updates on her case though.

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