Does jealously ever an issue?

If there is jealousy in this industry, either it is from clients or providers, then they are in the wrong industry if they can't deal with the pluralities of partners involved. Period.

the only feelings that belong in this industry are the feelings of fairness (get what is agreed upon) and safety (you're not getting rob or attacked). if you're developing an emotional attachment, try a dating app or something or go outside and get some fresh air.

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I'm wondering if clients see their providers only as a transactional service, or if due to the intimate nature of the work and the fact that service provided by providers is being warm, affectionate, and attentive to clients makes them more prone to a false belief they are in a relationship and then developing feelings like jealousy for seeing other men. I'm thinking that especially for those who see certain providers regularly and fully understand the arrangement, they may still harbor some jealousy knowing that their favorite provider is seeing other clients. This isn't just theoretical. I've heard of at least two instances from SPs where clients wanted to convert them into exclusive sugar babies. And, of course, we're all familiar with the classic millennial-old trope of clients wanting to save these women (or boys).

Do you ever feel jealous when your favorite provider is fully booked or busy with other clients, or do you feel happy for them? When you read vivid reviews of providers you'd like to visit again, how do descriptions of the acts performed or how nice the provider was to other men make you feel? How does that change your interaction during the booking if a SP says, for example, "Wow, you are so handsome." If you give expensive lingerie to a provider and they use it in the future with other clients, how does that make you feel?

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I started out this hobby at the beginning of the year and one advice, never get attached.

It’s purely transactional and it’s their job to make clients feel loved, valued and happy. You’re probably leaving the session with a smile and entering your car by saying « wow », « she told me that » , etc keep a certain distance and it will go well.

Simple thing: Book, donation, respect and distance. It can be tough bro as you’re in the clouds but believe me, being into reality is better.

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Jealous of... what? There are levels to this delusion. And that's one level too far.

It's normal to think and feel that way. Especially when there is a "connection", but it's all an illusion. Just enjoy the moment, because she will never be just for you, and after awhile you'll be fed up and want to move on!

Jealousy would be a sign that one is getting attached to an escort. It has for sure happened to countless clients as jealousy is part of our evolved sexual psychology. Most will simply won`t admit it as it is deeply embarassing. To call it delusion as a previous poster has done would be too harsh, in my opinion (in most cases). I would rather call it a state of confusion.

It shouldnt be...I suspect it happens when people see escorts without a source of fulfillment or intimacy (not sex necessarily) in their personal lives. Escorts shouldnt be a substitute for that.

To get jealous implies the client feels a certain level of possession or entitlement to over what an escort does outside of their booked time.

Id wager that escorts hate (if not hate at least get annoyed by) this type of client the most.

On a personal note in the 3 years ive done this at one point I went through a rough patch for a few months and found myself daydreaming about my next session and thinking about the sp way too much.
Didnt get to the point where I was jealous of other johns but I could tell it was a very unhealthy way of thinking. Luckily I sorted out my personal life and stopped feeling attached.

I don't get jealous of other clients, I love (respectful) vivid reviews of providers I've seen, and I'd rather hear my favourite providers are booked up bc if they're prosperous it means they'll likely stick around longer and I'll get to see them some more.

I do, however, get jealous of ideas. Like when I hear about a unique and fun date or a particularly steamy act or position or event they adore it just makes me wish I thought of it earlier.

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if due to the intimate nature of the work and the fact that service provided by providers is being warm, affectionate, and attentive to clients

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It means that they are very professional and honest about providing services, which make us feel the way we love (not in love)

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where clients wanted to convert them into exclusive

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Provided if they agree and someone can fulfil their financial needs. For which they work very hard and see so many undesired/ill mannered people and make them feel "Special"

There is jealousy on both sides and I think it's more often than not ego based reasons than anything else. Or low self esteem and problems with attachment in general.

For instance a client will be jealous of other clients he perceives as wealthier and more generous... Some clients feel competitive with others but that's not because they genuinely are in love with us lol. Some clients just want to feel like they have exclusive access to us just because they have the desire to feel special and wanted. That's different from having genuine romantic feelings.

I've also met some providers who seemed very competitive and jealous of others and accuse others of "stealing their clients". I think honestly this industry can be hard for some people's self esteem. If a client you liked doesn't want to see you anymore but still sees colleagues I think it's kinda normal to feel hurt.. but that doesn't mean we are in a relationship with that client or want to be. Sometimes the jealousy has to do with how popular somebody else is and how much money she's making..

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I just want to say that I find these incessant conversations about how fake we are fucking annoying. It diminishes the work we do and all the emotional labor we put into it. There are clients I know who genuinely like me and vice versa. Yeah I do have to put up with some behavior I dislike and part of my job is having enough compassion to tolerate it and deal with it. In order to do this job well you have to be understanding to a degree.