A toxic, dangerous and humiliating ordeal. How to cope?

[DetectiveBOOBS]

Brother,

I truely have empathy for you. I don’t know how old you are but drug addict, they are always a shit show. Just wait for it. They might be the sweetest human being while sober but that won’t always be the case. We all know how the white knight in us would be stronger than logical reasoning and get us in this shit show.

I truely wish you for the best and please learn a lesson from this. Stay away from drug addict. I encountered a few sp like this in my life. i learned my lesson the hard way, there was no bf/pimp but it’s already bad enough.

You should contact your bank and all just in case. The girl seems sweet but the pimp Is a pain in the ass, you don’t want to be involved in some financial shit later on.

 

[PSEfreak]

What a crazy story

like Gus Fring says - " you can never trust an addict "

 

[john4808]

Brother,

I truely have empathy for you. I don’t know how old you are but drug addict, they are always a shit show. Just wait for it. They might be the sweetest human being while sober but that won’t always be the case. We all know how the white knight in us would be stronger than logical reasoning and get us in this shit show.

I truely wish you for the best and please learn a lesson from this. Stay away from drug addict. I encountered a few sp like this in my life. i learned my lesson the hard way, there was no bf/pimp but it’s already bad enough.

You should contact your bank and all just in case. The girl seems sweet but the pimp Is a pain in the ass, you don’t want to be involved in some financial shit later on.

I'm 38, she's 28... But I was always very careful to hide details like my home address and bank info, she never had any access to that information.

 

[jmioffe]

What a story! But why was the dude aggressively chasing you if he wasn't a jealous lover? How did he get your contact info to send you screenshots?

You asked to hear others' stories. I have a friend who went through something similar. He got sweet on a certain SW, even took her with him on a multiweek family vacation to Africa (he's European). Spent a fair amount of money on her. He's 50+, she's around 20. He found out she was talking shit about him.

He's a really nice guy, good looking and tall, but older now. Probably could have a decent woman of his own, but likes paying young women for sex. He shrugged off the shit talk, still sees her occasionally, but her porn career has taken off, and there are always new girls on the scene.

 

[EastWind]

Guys please tell me I'm not the only one who's gone through this

No you are not the only one. I went through my own version of crazy. The Covid lock down and at that time dealing with postpartum depression really warped my wife. When the lock down was over and things slowly going back to normal she became a whole new person. Her questionable female crew was not helping things either as they were huge cheerleaders of her decided to go poly. Was a fucking mess at that time especially we have a new born who needed a loving mother. To keep the peace and saved the marriage as we have kids I reluctantly agreed which is for just a year for her to get this out of her system. Didn’t last that long though as she decided to return and focus on our marriage eight months in as she caught gono in her throat. Now is my turn for my year and I decided my version is to return to the hobby.

Honestly given the choice I would rather have a Simping Hooker Problem lol. This is because you well know things are not going to end well and when you reach that point you just walk away with a few emotional bruises that quickly heal.

 

[Smitty Jaeger-Manjenson]

You wanted stories, mine is nowhere near as crazy and cinematic but here goes. Was seeing this stripper at Club Downtown sorta regularly for lap dances. we agreed that she'd call me and we'd hook up. I give her my number, she ends up never calling me, she gives me some excuses about losing her phone or whatnot. Eventually I get a call from an unrecognized number which I wasn't able to pick up. I call back several times but there's no answer. Eventually it dawns on the sucker that he's being taken for a ride and he stops meeting up with this broad. My excuse was that I was maybe 20 and dumb as far as such situations were concerned, didn't have "the school of life" as they say.

 

[Marl]

If you came out of the ordeal without any long-term health issues or damage to your bank account, your employment, or your personal/social world, consider yourself lucky. Turn your back on it and walk away. Frank Zappa once quipped that broken hearts are for assholes. I'm sorry that you (OP) feel so low, but indeed you were stupid (your word). It sounds like you got away with some very high-risk behavior without ruining your life. Move on, and fast.

I'm sure I'll get slammed for saying this but I simply don't understand why this board has become a lonely hearts club. I'm sure there are reasons, and I'm genuinely sorry that so many people feel alone and in need of connection. Honestly, though, this "hobby" is best enjoyed as a fleeting pleasure. There must be better ways to find relationships and romance. Montreal has many wonderful escorts; let's keep the focus on FUN.

I'm sorry if I sound unsympathetic. Good luck, OP.

Well said- this hobby should be treated as an escape for an hour or so…blow your load in peace the way you want it and how you want it.
It’s not a love story

 

[john4808]

Well said- this hobby should be treated as an escape for an hour or so…blow your load in peace the way you want it and how you want it.
It’s not a love story

I never intended it to be and I wouldn't say I was " in love" with her by any means. But I did definitely care about her. It felt more like I was betrayed by a close friend, not a love interest.

It all happened kind of accidentally. It started out as me thinking I was helping this poor abused and broken soul. I didn't mean to get attached to her it just happened and by the time I realized it it was too late.

There's a ton of stuff and other less dramatic but equally awful situations she put me in that I left out of the story for the sake of brevity.

 

[EastWind]

I'm 38, she's 28... But I was always very careful to hide details like my home address and bank info, she never had any access to that information.

So this means when you did the double monkey backflips they were in hotels right? Smart move. If this was an actual meaningful civie relationship your age difference is very ideal.

 

[john4808]

So this means when you did the double monkey backflips they were in hotels right? Smart move. If this was an actual meaningful civie relationship your age difference is very ideal.

Yes hotels or in my car, never at home.

 

[perso]

Wow what a story. But I am very curious? How did he get your phone number?

 

[kstanb]

I started reading it until I reached the sentence: "she was a total train wreck drug addict", and stopped right there

bad decisions = bad outcomes, just forget her and move over, there are better fish out there

"You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from."
Corman McCarthy

 

[john4808]

Wow what a story. But I am very curious? How did he get your phone number?

I'm not sure but I strongly think that she gave it to him. She told him a bunch of stuff about me. She would tell me how he's a psycho and violent etc etc. but then she would be calling him constantly all the time and texting stuff like " I miss U" to him( I shit you not, the day after... he showed a text, she was trying to call him the next day saying she missed him, the day before she was running from him. Wtf?)

she would generally act like his girlfriend but insist she wasn't and was constantly talking shit about him. It was a really fucked up situation. And she's a really fucked up person it's hard for me to even wrap my head around it.

 

[perso]

I'm not sure but I strongly think that she gave it to him. She told him a bunch of stuff about me. She would tell me how he's a psycho and violent etc etc. but then she would be calling him constantly all the time and texting stuff like " I miss U" to him( I shit you not, the day after... he showed a text, she was trying to call him the next day saying she missed him, the day before she was running from him. Wtf?)

she would generally act like his girlfriend but insist she wasn't and was constantly talking shit about him. It was a really fucked up situation. And she's a really fucked up person it's hard for me to even wrap my head around it.

I think she is psycho. Fucked you say??? Best advice is move on. You got out of this quite ok, despite this situation. Now you need to work on yourself. Treat yourself, look and do things you like and FORGET this bad episode of your life. And NO, going out with a SW is not the greatest idea. I did it once and it was great until it wasn’t any more and quite rapidly. Good luck.

 

[EastWind]

Yes hotels or in my car, never at home.

Okay. Thanks for further clarifying. I hope you feel better that you get to let this out of your system by having a channel like MERB to let you do it.

Given that you kept this out of your home you well know she is not to be trusted. So you took the proper steps and precautions. The only huge no no was that this lasted for years.

 

[kkrack]

girl playing victim, how refreshing.

The only person you can really blame is yourself, don't fall again.

I have seen stuff like this but I was quick to think that kind of bullshit was above my pay grade, so I just moved along quickly.

I might do one gesture to help, but that's it, then you move away as quickly as possible.

 

[john4808]

Okay. Thanks for further clarifying. I hope you feel better that you get to let this out of your system by having a channel like MERB to let you do it.

Given that you kept this out of your home you well know she is not to be trusted. So you took the proper steps and precautions. The only huge no no was that this lasted for years.

Thanks, Yes actually sharing my story on this channel so far has been a huge help for me in mentally coping with the situation. I'm greatful for this outlet. There is NOBODY in my normal day life I could ever talk to about this. I appreciate it a lot.

 

[EastWind]

Thanks, Yes actually sharing my story on this channel so far has been a huge help for me in mentally coping with the situation. I'm greatful for this outlet. There is NOBODY in my normal day life I could ever talk to about this. I appreciate it a lot.

This is Kidlin’s Law. Removes emotional and mental clutter, exposes facts and create action steps.

 

[Jay2026]

Dang man that sounds brutal! Best of luck moving on from this.

 

[minutemenX]

It’s on you if you get pulled back into that mess no more excuses

Just When I Thought I Was Out, They Pull Me Back In! ​