According to you in percentage: The SPs who hide their work from their friends? To their families?

[sene5hos]

I would say a lot, but I always ask this question.

 

[Jericho_2021]

I would say a lot, but I always ask this question.

From their own mouths (I never ask that kind of question to SWs, but with time, most of them talked to me about it), I would say it was almost 100% when I was hobbying in Montreal between 1998-2010. Then, when I did reconnect with the hobby recently (since 2017), I would say it is around 70% (approximately 30 % of them are now telling me that they either have friends or family members who are aware of what they do). That is my own experience based on what they told me. Could be totally different for other hobbyists, so it would be interesting to see what other hobbyists would have to say in that regard.

 

[Flyingby]

i think most
For some reason. Many sp have told me their moms know. But not the dad

 

[Jericho_2021]

i think most
For some reason. Many sp have told me their moms know. But not the dad

Same here. Most told me their moms knew about it. And not the dad. Interesting.

 

[Gazoo64]

Then, when I did reconnect with the hobby recently (since 2017), I would say it is around 70% (approximately 30 % of them are now telling me that they either have friends or family members who are aware of what they do).

This sounds like around the same percentage for SPs that have discussed it with me. Some have told me that 1 or 2 family members know (a sister or the mom, but not all the family) or a friend, etc.

 

[minutemenX]

From their own mouths (I never ask that kind of question to SWs, but with time, most of them talked to me about it), I would say it was almost 100% when I was hobbying in Montreal between 1998-2010. Then, when I did reconnect with the hobby recently (since 2017), I would say it is around 70% (approximately 30 % of them are now telling me that they either have friends or family members who are aware of what they do). That is my own experience based on what they told me. Could be totally different for other hobbyists, so it would be interesting to see what other hobbyists who have to say in that regard.

This would be my estimate too. However, practically every SP has a confidant with whom she can discuss the experience. It can be the other SP friend, civilian female friend, family member (usually a sister) or sometime even a regular or former client

 

[Carmine Falcone]

When this topic is actually broached, my experience is similar to what has been already said. A sister and/or Mom knows, but not Dad.

The ones I find really intriguing are the ones that mention they have a boyfriend, as happened to me recently. I did not ask her if her boyfriend knows, nor did she volunteer.

In my experience that scenario is always a wild card. I used to be very comfortable with an SP I met years ago to the point that she casually suggested filming one of our encounters. My very next stop after that conversation was Best Buy haha! She was married at the time and had her wedding ring on in the video. We even gave a shout out to him on tape and she said they planned on watching it together. She went into porn not much after that. The marriage didn't make it. I'm really curious about the ones with significant others in the know that somehow make the relationship last.

 

[masmasak]

From their own mouths (I never ask that kind of question to SWs, but with time, most of them talked to me about it), I would say it was almost 100% when I was hobbying in Montreal between 1998-2010. Then, when I did reconnect with the hobby recently (since 2017), I would say it is around 70% (approximately 30 % of them are now telling me that they either have friends or family members who are aware of what they do). That is my own experience based on what they told me. Could be totally different for other hobbyists, so it would be interesting to see what other hobbyists who have to say in that regard.

For asian is a non-issue,just a family ``entreprise``,.

 

[Numerati]

What would be really interesting where it is funny yet shocking at the same time is when that door opens she realizes it is her father, brother, uncle, grand father, husband, etc.

Luckily I never encountered that kind of story since I never asked. Because that will kill my erection and I would just give her $20 and tell her to go home.

 

[sene5hos]

For asian is a non-issue,just a family ``entreprise``,.

As far as Asian SPs from here are concerned, this doesn't apply.

 

[masmasak]

I think you would be surprised that it is not just Asians.

One BDSM submissive at one of LA’s commercial dungeon told me she was giving the business a try because her mom was a submissive and it seemed interesting. I guess mom needed to explain the spanking sounds that came from her room. It was California, so the kids likely got time-outs, so no confusing boundary issues there.

I saw a BDSM independent in Oakland once who was very proud of her set-up and told me her mom helped her set it up. Honestly, I think my mouth fell open both times, which I feel bad about.

This might just be a California thing, by the way. I told a lady in NYC that story and she just laughed and said her parents knew in general that she does sex work but she wouldn’t dream of getting them involved in that level of detail.

I do think many sex workers come from more open-minded environments and backgrounds than Johns, so we often make assumptions that are not valid.

I think there is likely some level of “conspiracy” involved at a young age that is partially awkward and perhaps heartwarming. When mom’s do sex work, they likely need to tell the kids it must be kept a secret. That is as interesting of an issue as whether sex workers tell their parents. Do sex worker moms tell their kids, and when?

I did incall once where the lady said we needed to finish by 3:00 because her kid got home between 3:30 - 4:00. I definitely finished by 3:00. Freaked me out just a bit, too.

I think you would be surprised that it is not just Asians.

One BDSM submissive at one of LA’s commercial dungeon told me she was giving the business a try because her mom was a submissive and it seemed interesting. I guess mom needed to explain the spanking sounds that came from her room. It was California, so the kids likely got time-outs, so no confusing boundary issues there.

I saw a BDSM independent in Oakland once who was very proud of her set-up and told me her mom helped her set it up. Honestly, I think my mouth fell open both times, which I feel bad about.

This might just be a California thing, by the way. I told a lady in NYC that story and she just laughed and said her parents knew in general that she does sex work but she wouldn’t dream of getting them involved in that level of detail.

I do think many sex workers come from more open-minded environments and backgrounds than Johns, so we often make assumptions that are not valid.

I think there is likely some level of “conspiracy” involved at a young age that is partially awkward and perhaps heartwarming. When mom’s do sex work, they likely need to tell the kids it must be kept a secret. That is as interesting of an issue as whether sex workers tell their parents. Do sex worker moms tell their kids, and when?

I did incall once where the lady said we needed to finish by 3:00 because her kid got home between 3:30 - 4:00. I definitely finished by 3:00. Freaked me out just a bit, too.

this is a ``montréal,toronto``thing too,a bit like à la ``parasite``(the movie) idle husband takes care of ``Airbnb``&Épouse runs ``mp``,kids in cegep&université,

As far as Asian SPs from here are concerned, this doesn't apply.

 

[masmasak]

As far as Asian SPs from here are concerned, this doesn't apply.

what does it apply then?

 

[masmasak]

As far as Asian SPs from here are concerned, this doesn't apply.

that is how kids are kidding themselves in school yards!