Advice wanted

[johnybird]

However, I think that most women would be offended if their man were to come to them with any sexual concerns. I think that most women would feel like they were being attacked or criticized. " What ??!! I'm not good enough for you....I'm not enough for you ? "

Of course, A guy could have the same reaction...but I think that the vast majority of women would be very angry/upset or hurt.

Years later the shoe was on the other foot and I was with a woman who wasn't experienced at all, yes some people can be very sensitive but it also has a lot to do with how you approach the subject and how you go about letting them know.
You don't have to necessarily come outright and say it. I took the lead of my first experience and soon enough she became a Pro Not all by my doing of course, as much as I would like to think I was an awesmazing sex instructor, she figured a thing or two, or three or four... on her own

 

[gurgeh85]

I don't know, Patron. You seem to be pretty cynical. I assume that they are a younger couple and if this is the case, then any kind of oral is going to be mind-blowing. I don't understand why you're so against this and why you don't understand our optimism. Sometimes a girl will want you to play with her body. It's a gift. If she's offering it to you, just accept your good fortune.

 

[letsrock2012]

I am a realist in addition to being cynical... I am actually amazed at how many Merb conversations involve people here actually discouraging others from entering into a commercial sex transaction.

It's the commercial sex transaction per se that I would discourage... you can always learn something if you are not closed minded and you might even choose to forgo all other type of relationship . It's the fact that there are two
people involved and sometimes good communication is the key to solving many problems. But then again maybe I'm too naive.

 

[Garotalover]

Bottom line is every chick is different - some chicks love anal - some chicks absolutely hate it. Some chicks hate to have their nipples caressed/sucked - saying they are too sensitive. I'm sure that may be the case but that's a deal breaker for me. I love caressing and fondling (foreplay). If a chick can work with you, i.e. tell you what she wants - great then work with her. If she has too many restrictions, i.e. don'ts and will not work with you then she probably has other issues.

 

[Numerati]

Hi gentleman,

I don't really know what to do precisely (like how to give a good cunnilingus, orally or digitally).

http://www.theattractionforums.com/sex/3444-how-stack-orgasms.html

http://kiss2nite.com/stacking-orgasms/comment-page-1/

There's more but this is a good start.

 

[letsrock2012]

If you disapprove of commercial sex transactions, why post on a John message board and discourage others from seeing escorts?

Sorry.. sometimes writing does not make things clear. I never said I disaproved of using the services of a professional... coz what do you do if you have a health problem? You go see a professionnal, right?
In this particular case a SP. It's just that the first step should be to try working things out with his girlfriend if that does not work out.... weeell the rest is obvious.
Besides it would be hypocritical on my part disaproving this kind of activity since I'm an addict :nod:

 

[letsrock2012]

There's more but this is a good start.

Hooooo... good one Numerati

 

[JohnFranklin]

Don't have advice to add since Patron pretty much said everything I was going to... and then some. The thread seems pretty divided between Patron and those who disagree with Patron. Granted, I haven't read absolutely everything, but just wanted to add that agree with Patron.

My 2c, I really don't see a problem as far as seeing an escort is concerned. As far as i understand, he hasn't signed up "to have and to hold, in sickness and in health..." when he decided to start hanging out with this girl.