Any SP's have any interesting stories to tell?

[Writer Brian]

I`ve been with SP`s about 10 times. Each time a different SP. But none compare to my second encounter. Jasmine from companions. That was about 3 years ago. companions is no more and I have no idea if Jasmine still works. Anyway, it`s not that the experience was the best I`ve ever had, it was Jasmine herself that really made an impression on me. She was 19 at the time, I was only 26 myself and looking to explore my curious darker side after a 4 year relationship, but she had a timeless aura about her. My experience with her inspired me to write a screenplay with a character based on her, in a very general way of course. After all, I didn`t get to know her very well in 1 hour. I`m hoping there are some SP`s out there who might want to chat about their life. Maybe your outside life is crazier than your work life? It doesn`t have to be about work. In fact your life outside of work is what I`m interested in. I take writing and art seriously and truly want to write something authentic. I`m really looking for a collaborator to work with. Perhaps we can chat. I`m 28, live in NYC, may be moving to LA very soon. Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected] or just post a response here of you want. Hope to hear from someone...

 

[Writer Brian]

why banned?

I can relate to the idea of doing what you have to do to pay the bills. It also has to do with how you see the world. I think to be an SP you need to have a sense of how the world works - that it's a game to be played. It's both fantasy and reality at once. I think SP's live in that blurred area between the two. It's also fascinating to see what are essentially young girls make the decision to become an SP and who really has a firm grasp on the choices they are making and who doesn't. Sure some of them like sex, some of them like money, but there's a certain freedom they are attracted to as well. They get to live outside the established system and they have their own set of rules. I mean, the best GFE's are the sincere ones in my opinion. They're looking for something, some attention, and I can definitely relate to that. I think a lot of people can.

 

[General Gonad]

Monday morning writer's block....must be a slow day Elfie.

GG

P.S. I am working on a mind-blowing screenplay but I doubt I can ever release it.

 

[General Gonad]

I think you're quite right. The draw can also be (remains for me) escape from the real world. One can find the humanity the real world lacks in prostitution. In that world we are worth the other's attention. In the real world, we are often only worthy of attention when we outsandingly conform with rules that do nothing to promote humanity. There's a bit of a rebel in some escorts. It's a place to go when you're sick of the status quo. I think the same can be said of some clients.

t76,

What "humanity" are you referring to? One can equally argue that this biz is brutally inhumane. Also, you can rebel against conformism through other avenues than escorting. Join a Marxist political group, PETA, Amnesty International...the list goes on and on.

GG

 

[Writer Brian]

I don't want to over-analyze the mindset of SP's. Different people have different reasons for doing what they do, some conscious, some unconscious. Ideally I want to form an organic correspondence with an SP. I love films that allow the audience to do the thinking. I don't like being hit in the head with rhetoric or preaching. I'm going for something along the lines of "Exotica" meets "Y Tu Mama Tambien". I want the SP character to be the troubled heart, the fear that lingers in the back of our minds and the triumph over that fear. I want to know what an SP dreams about.

 

[General Gonad]

Ask the clients who like longer dates. It's not just about fantasy - some see 'the hobby' as a soft place to fall on after life (work, family, society, responsibilities). For 3, 4, 5 hours, you're the top priority of the SP you're seeing. Same thing for her. The clients I met as an indy treated me as though I was their top priority. That reciprocity defines humanity to me.

Almost all of my encounters have been a minimum of two hours. I prefer building up and not jumping on a lady the minute I see her. Sometimes I share some deep conversations but most of the times it's just exchanging pleasantries, which is fine. For me, the inherent limits of these relationships makes it difficult to use the term "humanity". At best, you can have a cordial exchange but once she is out the door, she forgets about you and you will forget about her. Kind of sad when you think about it.

GG

 

[Doc Holliday]

Once she is out the door, she forgets about you and you will forget about her. Kind of sad when you think about it.

Well, that's the whole purpose of hobbying for most people. As Jack Nickleson said after his name came up on Heidy Fleiss' client list, "I don't pay them for sex. I pay them to leave."

What you mentionned above is one of the many reasons why i still hobby. Hassle-free sex. One thing that bummed me out about free sex back in the days (a few years ago actually) when i'd pick someone up or get picked up was that the women usually expected & wanted more than i could & wanted to give them....a relationship. When i'd turn them down, quite often insults & threats would follow. I didn't have time to put up with that kind of b.s. so i figured that to keep things simple (and get laid!), i might as well continue hobbying & have hassle-free sex...in other words, peace-of-mind.

 

[Doc Holliday]

Ask the clients who like longer dates. It's not just about fantasy - some see 'the hobby' as a soft place to fall on after life (work, family, society, responsibilities). For 3, 4, 5 hours, you're the top priority of the SP you're seeing. Same thing for her. The clients I met as an indy treated me as though I was their top priority. That reciprocity defines humanity to me.

I agree 110% with what you wrote.

 

[General Gonad]

I think it is true that one of the remarkable things about escorting is that both people in general want the encounter to be as pleasant as possible and that this does set up quite a positive dynamic in many cases. You are, after all, naked, in more than one way...some level of trust and appreciation are desirable to make things feel as natural and comfortable as possible.

SeeCupRider,

Well put, it is preferable if both parties try to make the encounter as enjoyable as possible. I just have an issue differentiating between being cordial and being humane. If you respect each other, but you still expect sex, can we really call it a 'humane' activity. Most guys don't even want human emotions; they just want acronyms - and lots of them.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

What I enjoyed most about the independent experience was precisely the personal aspect of it. If I wanted to see people who only saw me as a body to fuck, I'd have stuck to agencies. The getting to know eachother. The discussion. The flirting. That's what I enjoyed most and what made our time in the bedroom bliss afterwards. I recall being labelled a GFE. My attitude and their reciprocity might have something to do with it.

t76,

I agree with you, the flirting and buildup is part of the fun. I used to enjoy it but now I just say to myself, what's the point? This isn't a dating service. Part of the fantasy of this biz is that you can substitute a real relationship with an artificial one but you really can't. No matter how nice my encounters were, no matter how much I flirted and shared, they don't mean anything to me. They have not made me a better person in any deep sense or in any sense at all.

And therein lies the frustration that I experience when I read nonsense on the boards of how "she thinks I am special" or "she loves her job and it shows". Whatever. Part of the indy appeal or "marketing" is to sway clients into thinking that they are looking for something more than sex - a more personal touch. I am sure you mastered that art when you were working. But it's just a sales technique that indies conjure up to "hook" clients. When you really think about it, it's just another farce.

So while I abhor the guys who treat SPs as fuck dolls who provide acronyms for an hour, in a way they are smarter than I am because they keep it so superficial that they never risk getting jaded by the whole experience. If you can't adopt the attitude of these guys, you'll end up getting very jaded with this hobby. That is the sad reality.

GG

P.S. Another irony for you to ponder is that you and I would get along just fine in an encounter.

 

[z/m(Ret)]

I agree 110% with what you wrote.

Bowling also happens to be a soft place to fall on after life - keep searching.

 

[General Gonad]

Why was my reply to t76 deleted?

GG